My husband says that ALL men look at porn and that it means nothing?!? If it means nothing then why look at it? Especially when he knows it hurts my feelings. I have offered to watch porn with him but I don't like the idea of him having the mags to look at himself...if that makes any sense to you.
2007-05-09 01:44:33 · 11 answers · asked by youstillcantsee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have expressed to him how I feel about this...I know it is not the end of the world and that he could be doing worse. But if I were doing something to hurt him and knew it...I would stop! The last thing I would ever want to do is hurt him intentionally...
2007-05-09 04:43:49 · update #1
well ... NOT all men look at porn.he is only having a fantasy, because women are not all the same shape or figure.. just a fantasy.
2007-05-09 01:53:57 · answer #1 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a question that bothers an awful lot of couples. I can understand a woman's dislike of her partner getting off on fantasies about other women in porn. It's provokes feeling of insecurity at the least. Is it the nature of the beast? I am not sure because it is simply not true that all men are into porn. As a matter of fact I think the percentage is lower than we would think.
It means nothing !!! We look at things we like for whatever reason. Porn stimulates fantasies and sexual excitement. If it helps in your sexual relationship and it is open and honest between you two then it is an adult choice. I do know for a fact that a lot of men and women today are into porn but the fact is it's a poor substitute for real intimacy which unfortunately most people are afraid of these days.
You have to establish you own values as a person and live by them, This means choosing people who have similar values and are capable of intimacy.
My lady gets hurt by my looking at porn and I stopped because I love her and don't want to hurt her. I ask the same of her as long as the request is reasonable.
Any behaviours that play with the self esteem of our partners should be avoided.
If he cannot simply stop using porn then it is a sign of an underlying problem.
Take care and good luck
2007-05-09 02:27:02 · answer #2 · answered by KevO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it comes to arousal, men are typically more visual creatures than women meaning men need something they can see whereas women have a more active imagination. (That is why men have porn videos and women have romance books. There is truly little difference in the two aside from the media.) As for your specific case, you need to talk to your husband. Explain to him exactly how you feel on the matter and try to work out a compromise with him. Perhaps you could rent a video together or something of that nature. The most important thing is to work out the issue together, not fight about it. Be clear and concise about how you feel and let him explain himself as well.
2007-05-09 01:55:32 · answer #3 · answered by fly guy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't really say as to why but if he loves you like he says then
he would not look at such things. I guess a question that I would have is do you have a really strong relationship. If so then you guys should be able to work thru this and if he is committed to your emotional needs then he should stop looking at the porn.
2007-05-09 01:56:47 · answer #4 · answered by Me 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know how much it hurts but men will not understand this .only thing i would do is ignore what ever he is looking at don't sit with him and watch it will make worse try to make excuse to stay away don't ever let him feel that you getting jealous or don't like it with the he will change or sit and talk to him about your feelings good luck I'm every thing will be fine just take it easy!
2007-05-09 01:58:56 · answer #5 · answered by sam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are taking him watching porns personally...Part of having someone in your life is taking the good with the bad.I am sure that there are things you do that he does not like but you comparmise and love the person enough to excepts things like this if he is not volient or using verbal abuse ..I let him and not take it to personal ...He may learn a few things ...lol
2007-05-09 02:21:01 · answer #6 · answered by JustDeniece 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he needs to release some pressure and your not there to accommodate him.And looking at porn helps him out for that moment.I used to feel the same way.It's harmless I'd rather he got his rocks off looking at porn than with another person.Try to see it from his pespective once you discuss with him why he enjoys it so much.
2007-05-09 03:09:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes all men except a few uni-cs watch porn
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2016-10-30 22:42:16 · answer #9 · answered by xie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ALL men DO look at Porn, if they say they dont, they lie!
its Normal, and has NOTHING to do with you... let him look...
2007-05-09 01:51:17 · answer #10 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋