We only decided this last night. I haven't seen him yet so I don't know how it will be for us. We plan to get married in 5 yrs or so.
2007-05-09 01:39:39 · 24 answers · asked by Cutiepie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
yeah that wont last. once you have sex thats all you want to do through out the relationship. youre losers for agreeing on that.
2007-05-09 01:43:11 · answer #1 · answered by ~*~Crissy~*~ 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Don't count on it. Five years, unlikely you'll wait five minutes once you see him again. There's an inherent flaw to this you seem to miss, sex may be why you're together; let it go on and see what happens in five months, or a year, if you're even together then. Sex has a way of burning out a relationship faster than anything else; it's the least resilient aspect of love and the first to go when there's not enough love to sustain a marriage. This is my experience, at least.
I asked my wife of 18 years to fore go sex in the last months before we got married. It wasn't very good sex and I guess I thought by suspending it it could get better. It didn't. I worked with her to improve it the first years, then accepted it and made the best of it with various means I employed--role playing, toys, self-counseling weekends, etc., marriage counselors, nothing made much difference. Now, I don't know about her, but sex is definitely dead in me for her and I'm thinking about heading out. I should have done it before we married. You have this chance to find out by letting sex continue a part of your relationship. Don't mess with what works, I say.
2007-05-09 08:59:55 · answer #2 · answered by Nightwriter21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HA... Who's decision was that? If it was his, then something is wrong! I used that one on a guy once, I told him we needed to stop having sex because i just wasn't ready to take it to that level with him, but really it was because he was lousy in bed and VERY small haha, and he didn't know how to pleasure me otherwise. But I think there is no way a man can go 5 years without sex after he's been getting it for so long!!
2007-05-09 08:45:29 · answer #3 · answered by ThisNthat77 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hey it's so hard to practice abstinence once you have had sex.Five years is a long time, do you think it's easy to just control your feelings???
Sex is irresistible thing. Yeah friend i won't say if there is a strong reason why you guys opted for this abstinence and have grit made your mind things will work!!!This statement works for everything under sun except making love with the loved one!!!
2007-05-09 09:00:29 · answer #4 · answered by rhea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you have been having sex the urge will be there I would not wait for five yrs to get married but I am glad that you are stopping because you need to be together not just for the physical and its morally wrong
2007-05-09 08:43:40 · answer #5 · answered by Chloe 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i say that's awesome!!!
then again... 5 years is a really long time and if you guys are in a serious relationship then what a great commitment to make i really do hope you can keept it. the hardest part is the beginning, filling in that void with something else to not lose touch with each other. good luck!
2007-05-09 09:25:34 · answer #6 · answered by morozco5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very good descision. It Is important not to have sex before marriage. Much less chance of STD's, as well as being wrong. Good for you guys, on making that descision. I would have done the same thing. It's shows a strong character to be able to stop doing what you know should wait. Good choice!!! The best of luck to you both.
2007-05-09 08:43:11 · answer #7 · answered by North_Star 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I've heard of this idea with some of my friends. And it never works... a guy who have been into sex with his girlfriend will always look for sex. But if you two can make it happen, congratulations!
2007-05-09 08:51:54 · answer #8 · answered by rheisean 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if both of ya guys r ready 2 do that than yeah take that step. but dont let sex stress yall out, cuz it may. but also remeber in da long run it will be a good thing
2007-05-09 08:47:14 · answer #9 · answered by t3rry36 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You make love for six-months and then abruptly stop. What's up with that?
Did you have a change of heart?
Why stop now?
Your on a roll so keep it going. Stopping it now will do nothing for you, but make you restless unless you fear getting pregnant.
There are ways to enjoy life other than sex, but since you have already begun that journey...your stuck for life.
2007-05-09 08:44:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
dont expect that to last long... he will want sex in the next 5 years
2007-05-09 08:42:18 · answer #11 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋