I'm on such a downer and i can't help being horrible, thing is, i know i'm doing it. I'm so unhappy but not with him. He's perfect and loving.
2007-05-08 22:54:08 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sit down and talk this out with him. If he's the guy you think he is, he'll listen, and help you over it.
Good luck!
2007-05-08 22:59:18 · answer #1 · answered by xian 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that it's hard being depressed - but why exactly are you horrible?
It may feel like everything you do is wrong, and that even trying is wrong - and nobody in the world can make you feel any different (except that person who loves you - and sometimes even they are powerless).
Your fiancee is perfect and loving because he gives you time and space whenever you need it - and is ALWAYS there when his love is needed. He doesn't judge (a RARE thing in this world), and understands (or tries to) what you are going through.
All I can do is suggest that unless you have actually done something unforgiveable (such as cheating) - then you are not horrible at all.
I know that I am just a complete stranger - sending you a message from out of nowhere (Canada, actually). You can take my advice, ignore it, or even laugh at it - I am just glad that I can share some insight with someone who is feeling down.
The gift of making others happy can be the greatest path to your own happiness - you love your fiancee, and he knows this. That's why he is so loving towards you...
2007-05-08 23:33:17 · answer #2 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself, if you were him how long would you stick around?
You accept he's a great guy, and your giving him a hard time because your unhappy for other reasons so why would he stay with you?
Wouldn't anyone in their right mind give you the push?
You need to get your act together, take him out for meal THIS WEEK, buy him a small gift and spend 10 minutes telling him much you appreciate him, that you going through a hard time and are really glad he's there for you.
You need to do something quick or he's going to walk, and then how unhappy will you be?
2007-05-08 23:02:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Three possibilities:
One, you might be depressed or have some other sort of psychiatric disorder that prevents you from demonstrating an appropriate response to emotional stimuli. Borderline personality disorder springs to mind.
Two, you might secretly desire a bad-boy type, and so your perceive your fiance's kindness as weakness and thus feel the need to degrade him.
Three, you might just not be very nice.
2007-05-08 23:00:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem, and when he was gone, I wanted him back, and when he was back, I was unhappy again. I have dated alot of people, and he was the only one who was good to me. Maybe you're clinically depressed. You should talk to your doctor and ask if it's possible. Therapy or Medication may help. Or maybe your just not as attracted as you once were, and you're starting to view him as a friend. Or, maybe your afraid of the upcoming commitment. Good luck!
2007-05-08 23:22:12 · answer #5 · answered by lastonealive@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There must be something that your annoyed at yourself about, or lots of things. Many of us do it, people take it out on their partners. Work it out yourself, and then talk to him about it. Appologise for being a B**ch sometimes, and tell him why you think you're doing it. He probably already knows you don't mean it or he wouldn't still be with you. And you can't be that bad or he wouldn't love you. Trick is working out why you don't feel the same about yourself too.
2007-05-08 23:03:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do exactly the same and i feel so bad now as i have scowled and been nasty to him this morning just because i'm really down about work and really tired! I think its just because we need to get the tention out of our systesm and teh are the nearest ppl to us! I'm sure he understands - do something special for him tonight!
2007-05-08 23:02:02 · answer #7 · answered by Ebab831 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't believe your the one after sympathy. Surely he should be posting saying something like "I'm so great so why is my fiancee so horrible to me? I am perfect and loving."
2007-05-12 04:48:27 · answer #8 · answered by oldpinky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, do u know why ur horrible? is there any other reason? either way just tell ur fiancee how u feel, and that u think hes lovely and that although you get stressed you dont mean to take it out on him.x
2007-05-08 23:00:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can it be that you are jealous of him and want to be like him? Instead of being horrible, you should be his friend and cultivate his good habits. Both of you will then help improve each other.
2007-05-08 22:59:37 · answer #10 · answered by 2Good2BTrue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋