they want us get rid of our motocycles, guns, race cars, tools, hobbies, playing sports, watching sports, working out at the gym, hopes dreams, ect
2007-05-08 22:33:44 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow. Sounds like you didn't put enough thought into whom you were marrying. Surely there were signs before the wedding.
Not all women are like that. In fact, my experience has been just the opposite. I think a man with interests is a better man to marry. No one person can be everything to another.
2007-05-09 02:38:30 · answer #1 · answered by anastasia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all women are like this. I love guns (have quite a few myself), I play sports and watch baseball, work out at the gym, and would drive a motorcycle if I could learn to work a clutch.
Said all that to say, not every girl wants you to change and you shouldn't be with anyone who won't accept you for you.
2007-05-09 05:41:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that, dude. I never experienced any of that, and I've been happily married for almost 37 yrs.
Are you sure you're not confusing "giving up" things with a woman's desire to just have a relationship (which should be the man's desire too)?
A relationship is about "we" and not just "me."
Sure, we both allow each other some personal, private space, but the majority of our free time is spent together, doing the things we both like to do.
If a couple has more "separate" interests, activities, passions, etc., I don't give that relationship much chance of survival.
2007-05-09 07:56:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Another childish, immature question and response. This is just the grown up you, when you were 9 years old and had a tricycle, pop cap, hot wheel cars, sandbox, t-ball, disney video, recess, big-boy shorts, etc.
They are asking you to be a man: get a job, be respectable, be decent, be a leader, volunteer on a community project, lend a helping hand, put away your childish behavior, they want to marry a man, not a boy.
2007-05-09 06:03:03 · answer #4 · answered by phil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both partners have to give up things in order to make room for the new responsibilities that they have taken on. It is a compromise. If you can't compromise then you should not get married.
We give up plenty too. The difference is that the things that we give up don't seem important to you. They are important to us. (having a nice quiet clean house, less laundry, not having to cook everyday, being able to shop when we please, our dreams, our freedom, talking as much on the phone with our friends, watching what we want to watch on television, instead of having to watch your sports, not having to carry a baby in our tummy for 9 months, not having morning sickness, not having some guy trying to have sex with us every waking minute of the day, etc...)
2007-05-09 05:59:54 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not like my guy to give up anything when we would get married!
I love him for what he is accepting good and bad things about him.Girls or guys both need their own space and both of them do realize their responsibility and adapt accordingly under circumstances.
Most of the girls think that the guy is not mature enough and thus they ask him to quit things and change themselves and i really don't appease this.
Guys just like girls are mature enough and know how and when to act accordingly, just that they don't keep speaking about how wise enough they are all the time, like we do!
So i think one should not demand for changes rather changes that would result without asking for it would be so much more better.
2007-05-09 05:54:06 · answer #6 · answered by rhea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the things you listed are the reason I fell for my guy in the first place, I didnt ask him to give up anything, he did that on his own, Now he blames me, All i asked was to cut back on drinking and running the bars and strip joints--your married now not single. But I guess we all suffer dont we?
2007-05-09 09:06:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. not realy. Well along with marriage comes responsibility. Well if you can juggle all your hobbies etc, and manage your job, helping out with the kids, maintaining the house, and you can make enough enough time for family and don't forget your wife, then by all means, keep them.
2007-05-09 05:44:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why do men want women to give up things when they get married. They want us to give up chick flicks, Quite Sundays (no sports), a clean house, hopes, dreams, eT Cetera ( YOU can't even spell an abbreviation correctly sheesh!)
2007-05-09 05:44:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Not me. We are partners and we base everything on trust. I play sports own a bike, work out, and my dreams are shared with her.
2007-05-09 05:45:23 · answer #10 · answered by Bosspooba 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋