Whether i should marry this girl or not? Please help me.?

Question

Hi, i am from the indian hindu family.i went to see the one girl for marriage.
now the girl was really beautiful, i liked her and i talked her for 10 minutes(its feel good to talk with her).now i m worry about her education she has only diploma degree and i am a B.E. engineer.also her age is 20 and my age is 24.
so my question is
1) how important of education in marriage life(it doesn't matter for me to that either she will do the job in future or not)
2) is 4 year age difference will cause any problem in future?

please adivse,
thanks to all

Answer 1

With all due respects, I am of the opinion that you are not mature enough to marry. The questions asked here are to be answered by you, based on your perception of marriage, based on how you want your future to be. You need to begin your quest for married life affirming your needs for a spouse, not the general opinion from an Answer's forum.

Now that you have asked, funny, thats precisely my situation. I am an engineer, my wife is 5 years younger, has a Diploma, it is our sixth year and neither of us have ever regretted the decision.

In India, the degree or diploma you get just qualifies you for a job, the engineer depends on the attitude. In my life, I've came across exponents in engineering without even a degree and I have seen qualified engineers making a mountain out of a molehill.

Answer 2

So... You Are Thinking About Marriage?
- What Is Needed for a Successful Marriage?
http://watchtower.org/library/w/1999/2/15/article_01.htm

I suggest reading these ^ on-line articles. They answer the questions that their titles ask, and give the Bible's advice at the same time.

Wholesome Communication--A Key to a Good Marriage
- What Wholesome Communication Involves
- Obstacles to Wholesome Communication
- How to Promote Wholesome Communication
http://watchtower.org/library/w/1999/7/15a/article_01.htm

You might want to take more than just 10 minutes to get to know her, & sharing the articles on marital success &/or communication could be a way of getting her viewpoint...

Answer 3

age difference is not so much as to make u worry. as to education,yes,u are right in worrying.an educated wife makes a lot of difference not just to the husband,his family,other relatives,children,his friends and social prestige but on the whole life as well.
i have seen some women,who were not well educated and married educated high-placed men..and result is -general home keeping is horrible,poor sense of hygiene/manners /social graces and etiquette,poor parenting,and becoming source of ridicule in society.what is worst-if the husband is fond of mental food,he has to go hungry.

but yr case can be different.try to talk more to her before saying yes or no.ensure if she is well behaved and mannered and has good grooming.try to analyse her surroundings to discover her taste and inclination. if u r satisfied than go ahead.beauty is a good assest but education is too as yr whole life as well as yr children will depend upon her.
maybe she is excellent afterall because degrees dont make a person and it is very possible that despite having scores of degrees a person still remains ignorant and foolish.in any case u can tell her to study further even after marriage.

what u tell me about yeself,i think u should'nt hurry into marriage so soon.remaing single a little longer is far better than getting a wrong partner.there isnt just that girl in the world...keep looking for another till u feel"yes,this is the one i want"
anyway,i am happy u gave so much thought to education.usually people dont and then suffer whole life.
good luck

Answer 4

I dont think education is that important in married life, or the age difference. The thing I wonder about is are your personalities compatible? Is this an arrangement by your families? Is it possible to get to know the girl better before you consider marriage? That is what I would recommend Good luck

Answer 5

Dude!! I think you are not mature enough to marry.
The maturity will enable to pay respect to others, irrespective of age and qualification and will lead to a successful married life.

Don't feel too proud of being a BE Engineer. Check the link:

http://www.hindu.com/edu/2007/02/12/stories/2007021200470400.htm

Every year we produce more than 4 lakhs engineers, you are just one of that crowd. What you expect her to be? an MBA? Getting a diploma is nothing less compared to you.

Are you going to marry a Degree? or a person? Ask yourself.

About the age difference, I think she is just right for you to guide you in your life.

Wish you will get the right answer to your question by yourself.

Answer 6

Cool man , Apne naaam ko charitartha karo, justify your name.
In India, age difference of up to 5 years is regarded as normal.And she is charming also.
If she has a Diploma, it is more than enough. You should allow her to work & make use of her Qualification though U dont need or depend on her income.
Contact them today & convey your positive response. All the best for a happy married life with such a well matched spouse. U both will remember my advise & thank me for it.

Answer 7

1.first of all you liked her,if you want more educated girl you will not like her first if the girl is educated you will not like the the reason is this in your hand there are 5 fingers they are not the same, so if you went to buy something you have to pay the price,first thing is this the marraiges are made in heaven
and the next thing the age does not matters

Answer 8

As long as you have no problem with her educational background and you like her, 4 years age difference should not at all be a problem.

Answer 9

education is very important but education is without wisdom is nonsense, and age difference is acceptable in world.

you like her na go ahead education doesnt matter ok . if you go ahead happy married life

Answer 10

R u sure u r educated enough to ask such a silly question?grow up!an engineer isnt such a big thng!take a gud hard luk at urself!