I'm shy anyway, but coupled with speaking issues, low self-esteem, and depression. I'm basically a social mess. Unless I'm with a close friend or family. I'm so awkward and boring to talk to. Sometimes I feel like tranquelizing myself so I can calm DOWN and not care so much. What should I do? I feel like I can't get out of this.
2007-05-08 19:39:40 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You could have Social Anxiety Disorder.
You should identify the underlying problems to take care of the superficial. I help myself out by understanding that I speak with equals and no one is as judgmental as my mind has fooled me into thinking.
If it's really so bad then seek professional help.
2007-05-08 19:42:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not you have taken the first step by actually having the guts to talk about it. This is very important . I think a next good step would be to find a hobby you are comfortable with and join a small group that also likes doing this too. A good place to start as far as finding these people is a site called meetup.com. They have groups all over the usa and the world and actually meet up face to face.
Trust me i have been there, the most important thing is to start taking little steps. They say the journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step and you should be very proud of urself that you have taken this step now.
Good luck:)
2007-05-10 10:32:12 · answer #2 · answered by virgin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could stop being so hard on yourself... give yourself a chance to learn and develop some humor/personality. Don't be afraid to try, even if it means looking foolish. It's better to be foolish (not overly) than lonely all the time. You just have to be willing to try and do something for yourself. It's always easy to give up, but that's not what life's all about... live and learn, go out and try to mingle (at least try) if it bothers you that much. Sooner or later you'll meet some people that will accept you for who you are... don't be afraid of the rejection, get use to it, it will only make you stronger!
2007-05-08 20:07:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try some self help books such as "How To Make Friends and Influence People" The local libray or book store will have plenty of self help books for low self esteem, shyness, etc... If that does not help, see a therapist. You may be suffering from social anxiety disorder.
2007-05-08 19:50:49 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you must learn how to accept your self. Low self esteem is a cause of hating the way you are / look.. first you must accept yourself so that others will accept you..
Try and be involved in a group of certain interest. I mean if you like drama for example, go to a drama group. or if you like singing go to singing lessons.. this way you are doing thinks that you really love, and without you knowing, you are socialising with other people. it will be much easier for all of you to talk to each other, cause you all have something in common.. words are like cherries.. you dive the subject without even noticing...
Try to look confident where ever you are.. always put a smile on your face.. that way you are showing that you are friendly and people don't think twice before they talk to you..
Hey, regarding the way you look... others are too busy looking at themselves to see if they do look nice or good, either than watching others eh! ;)
2007-05-08 19:59:34 · answer #5 · answered by Blackstar 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try writing short speeches and doing them for your family and/or close friends..practicing eye contact and have them critique your performance..then try to move on to more challenging audiences...take a class for public speaking..it will make you less shy..see your doctor about the possibility of taking depression meds..they can make a big difference. list your pros and cons...things you like and things you don't, ask your friends what your strong points and weak points are ...then work on the weak ones.read extensively so you can talk on different subjects...make yourself a project...take things one at a time and try to improve...if you really try, you can become a person you are more proud to be.
2007-05-08 19:55:31 · answer #6 · answered by Queenie Peavey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a psychologist. Some meds might be the answer, or maybe just counseling.
2007-05-08 19:43:49 · answer #7 · answered by Jack S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say find a good therapist that specializes in trauma. Someone in your life has trained you very well how to feel miserable, to feel less than them, so they can feel better. It's time for you to "untrain" your past experiences.
Good luck to you!
2007-05-08 19:47:00 · answer #8 · answered by ptstrobl 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋