I never cried as much as I do now before I got married and the worse part is even when I do cry it is ignored by my own husband.People that love you would be concerned with whats wrong, but not him.He doesnt even ask"whats wrong", he literally ignores me.I have spoken to him about our communication problems for the past 6 months now and nothing has really changed.I try to hold a conversation with him sometimes and its like hes not there.It seems as though things go wrong a day or so after we have sex.Its like a cycle, when he hasn't had any we start getting close and have fun together which leads into making love a few days later but after that it seems like he barely wants to have anything to do with me.How can you be with someone whom you feel loves you only sometimes?How can your spouse ignore you when you are hurt?I have no children. I believe we married too soon,within 6 mos.I dont wnt to give up a marriage so easy but I dnt wnt to hve gray hairs at 23 either.Shld I call it quits?
2007-05-08 19:10:24 · 6 answers · asked by vanillacream753 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honey let me tell you something right now! This man is emotionally blocked and you are going to be in that marriage alone. I have already lived this and now know that it was a waste of time, and further, he responds to the children the same way. No one can tell you to leave this marriage you make that decision for yourself or not at all, but I have to tell you that I wish I had thought it an option, at least! Living with a blocked person is no joke and in the end, you will realize it is a form of abuse. Take this seriously, and I wish you the very best.
2007-05-08 20:19:52 · answer #1 · answered by duccees 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oww. Yes, it was too soon, but hindsight should only be used to inform future decisions. See if he will see a counselor with you. See one on your own, either way. The decision is yours, there is no formula to decide when the time is right to leave. But it seems you are just about to make the decision. Don't worry about what anyone will say about this. Just do what you decide is the right thing for you.
2007-05-08 19:32:46 · answer #2 · answered by Jeanne B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling and pronto. He needs to find out what is driving him to have everything done his way. I can't believe he doesn't see this as controlling. Maybe he has OCD? Also, you both need to sit down and come to a compromise on all the key issues, i.e. he decides the "way" to load the dishwasher, you decide the "way" to fold towels, etc. Good luck! Hope you get your differences figured out.
2016-05-18 22:40:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes explain why you no longer want to be with him and see if he is willing to change or be more concerned and if not than just tell him you want a divorce.
2007-05-08 19:34:52 · answer #4 · answered by mommyandbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your too young to be in all this misery. Maybe he needs a reality check. Try a seperation.
2007-05-08 19:20:34 · answer #5 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-05-08 19:23:53 · answer #6 · answered by mmmlong10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋