i have been with him for 2 years but he was abusive for 1 of those years but not now
2007-05-08 18:13:45 · 4 answers · asked by Juannitta m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Get out of there. Please, please do not stay with someone who thinks it is all right to hurt you. (He may well say otherwise, but if he was hitting you for an entire year, his actions speak far louder than his words.) You can't help who you love. Don't waste time worrying about that. You can help who you choose to be with. Cut things off cleanly; you don't have to give him a satisfactory explanation and you don't have to do it face to face if you're afraid of him. Do not attempt to be friends. Do not stay in touch.
It's okay if you miss him. It's normal if you're sad. You got together for a reason, and he is probably not a total monster. Most abusers aren't. Still, the important thing is for you to get away from him. Talk to your family and friends who love you and want only good things for you; find people who will support you and help you through this. Be strong and good luck.
2007-05-08 18:56:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abuse situations seldom if ever improve, rather over time that get worse. You cannot change an abusive person, whether or not you love him or not.
For a marriage, a relationship, to last you must like the person the majority of the time as well as love and lust for the person. In time as the lust dimiishes and the love takes a new shape, the friendship which is a basis for liking a person may be the major reason the relationship continues.
Run and run fast and away from the abusive situation. Have faith and pride in yourself and leave the abusive situation. Know that there is a man out there who will love you, not abuse you, one you can both love, like and have a great life with.
2007-05-09 01:35:57 · answer #2 · answered by banananose_89117 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The better question should be "why am I still in a relationship that was abusive?". If you really want answers and not just opinions, please read Women Who Love Too Much...it's a wonderful source of information and I considered it life changing. Good luck, Girl. :)
2007-05-09 01:24:23 · answer #3 · answered by Kasie M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think he was abusive for the first year?Hmm that sounds kinda strange for him to do that.Whats most important is that he treats you right and loves you.If he doesn't then you guys should split.
2007-05-09 01:37:51 · answer #4 · answered by Deanna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋