Okay, I hear of a lot of relationships that sexually go sour after the husband sees the actual delivery. For me, I would prefer for him to not be in the room than to have a difficult sexual relationship with my husband afterwards. What do you think? Just a thought!
thanks!
2007-05-08 16:45:02 · 28 answers · asked by Happy Girl 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I was in the room, it wasn't that that killed it for me. It was that my ex became super mom and no longer would do sexy things to entice me. All day was about the kid and at night she was too tired. She also put on a few too many pounds. remember to keep the spark and you will be OK.
2007-05-08 16:55:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Everyone I know has been in the room with their partners during labor & devliery. I've never once heard any horror stories of the relationship going sour afterwards. Personally, I told my husband before I even went off the pill that he'd have to be in the room with me because otherwise I'd be totally alone & that thought scares me more than a lack of sexual relations honestly. He has no problem with it, he said he couldn't imagine not being in the room anyway because he wouldn't want to miss the birth of his child.
2007-05-08 17:09:19 · answer #2 · answered by layla983 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that is the way you feel then it is better for him to be out of the delivery room. He can help you thru labor (He needs to now how painful that is). Of course I think a man that is turned off by birth process has a problem but it does happen. Just go with your gut you know your husband best. In the good ol days they were never allowed in and even today a lot get faint or can't handle it.
All the best but only you can make that decision.
2007-05-08 16:49:34 · answer #3 · answered by commonsense2265 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, I can understand the whole macho guy thing of getting and eyeful and being freaked out about sex for a while. There's a lot of blood involved and it's nothing they've ever seen. BUT!!! if he is you husband he needs to be in there. He doesn't have to look down. Have him stay by your head and coach you. In my opinion the support of him is what you really need, he doesn't have to watch every little thing. After the baby is born he'll get to cut the cord and hold that little baby for the first time. After you have a baby you can't, nor do you want to have sex for a good 2 months or more. At least I didn't. By this time you recover and get used to having a newborn and then your husband will WANT to have sex again. I vote have him in.:)
2007-05-08 17:08:17 · answer #4 · answered by mom3x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to be there, and YOU need him there. I think it strengthens the bonds and just like you will forget the pain, he will also more than likely forget the mental image as soon as the beautiful baby and the months of sleep deprivation hit. My ex-husband is the worlds most squeemish guy, passes out when he gets a flu shot or has to go visit a sick friend in the hospital. Besides not making it through the epidural he did great and I dont regret a thing. And our sex life was great after, that whole you have to wait thing can be fun if you make it that way. Good Luck
2007-05-08 16:51:50 · answer #5 · answered by blueeyes56188 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was with my wife in the delivery room and in no way did it cause our relationship to sour... for I was in a mindset focused on the beauty of life... and not thinking OMG my love box is ruined... lol... i really dont know why people would focus on something sexual when the most beautiful gift is there happening to them as a family :) I think the only change that occured in the sexual part of life was that after We had the baby... we were not alone and free to do what we wanted when we wanted to do so... for now we were a family with responsibility...
2007-05-08 16:50:50 · answer #6 · answered by djflashgordon 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Men are basically shallow creatures. Yes, I dont think it does you or them any good for them to see you and your innards etc... at the most unattractive time of your life. By all means you can have him in there but keep a tight grip on him ( preferably in the groin area but by the hand is ok) and just dont let him look.
They (men) only go away and compare notes and grotesque stories with their mates afterwards anyway. And yes, they never look at a woman the same way again - any of them who have had children. For some reason they seem to pine for women that haven't had children. That is why so many women lose their man after the children come along.
Men really are shallow, so, unless he is Jesus or someone think twice about which way to go. The most important thing is what you want - do you really think if it was the other way around that a male would give a shitt what a woman would want?????? You are the one doing all the hard work remember.
2007-05-08 16:56:46 · answer #7 · answered by Pooroldpossum 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
There is probably something deeper going on then just the husband seeing the delivery. Most men can't wait until the 6 weeks is up so that they can have sex again. I think its the woman's sex life that is most affected after the birth. The man usually gets over the "oh my god, it can get that big?" reaction pretty quickly.
2007-05-08 17:24:31 · answer #8 · answered by NurseL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the man. Most men are not turned off by the sight of their children being born and are actually more appreciative of the female body afterward. Then there are some who will pass out before things get underway!
I think that if he is turned off after seeing that, he has personal issues that require psychiatric evaluation. It is nothing personal against the wife, he just has issues of his own and would need to work them out to save his relationship.
2007-05-08 16:54:52 · answer #9 · answered by Honesty_75 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the other person have him stay by your head so he doesn't actually see the deliverance. But seriously though he'll know what happened and a lot of man take a while before they get back into the sex part because they feel it was baby domain for so long and it belongs to the baby now lol silly but true and that the area lol was touched or afhgiowyher if you get my drift and they need time to get back into everything.
2007-05-08 16:51:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a husband and father of 2 beautiful girls. I had the privelage of assisting our midwife in delivering both of our girls. Let me tell you, it doesn't get any closer...you know?
That said, I would say ask him. Don't deprive him of what is the 3rd best experience of my life...(1 was making Christ my Lord and savior and 2 was marrying my wife!!!!).
Although graphic and somewhat 'disgusting' (sorry hun), nothing is more beautiful than being there when a little life you and your spouse created enters the world!!!!!
BTW, love making is even better...perhaps attributed to those intimate moments we shared (births). Moreover, during the births, I was very proactive in making sure she felt comfortable and 'decent' - protecting her dignity (as much as the painful process would allow). I know she respected that, which reinforces the trust she has in me as her spouse...
I pray you have a great delivery and speedy recovery.
2007-05-08 16:55:15 · answer #11 · answered by Pravash M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋