How Do You Tell Your Parents You Want To Be A Transgender Female Or Male?

Answer 1

To start, I've never heard of anybody WANTING to be a transgendered individual. I certainly never asked to be one anyway. In regard to your question though, I think it has a lot to do with your age and situation. One thing you'll learn is you HAVE to watch out for your own safety. You also have to balance risks against benefits. You really have to assess your own situation. Under 18? Could you be evicted, beaten, killed? These are all extreme cases, but always assume the worst as a possibility and hope for the best. On the other hand, if you're at a point where you feel that you aren't able to stay stable and or non-suicidal without seeking help, then that's what you need: help. If your parents are fairly open-minded, it may be worth the risk if it's going to help you to be happier with yourself. If you're over 18 on the other hand, I wouldn't bother telling them until there's a reason unless you're comfortable with it.

In terms of HOW to tell them, I can't help much on that. Mine found out when my ex-wife told them. I was extremely lucky as that their response was "No matter who or what you are, you're still our child and we'll love you regardless". I got extremely lucky though. Hopefully you'll have as easy a time.

Answer 2

You should tell your counselor, 100%. If you don't want to tell your parents yet, ask them not to tell them. They can tell them if you are self-harming without telling them that it's because you're transgender. But, honestly, sweetie, you might want to consider telling your parents. It will be better for you to transition sooner, rather than later, especially if you're suicidal over being in the wrong body. But, if you're a minor, you can't transition without your parents' consent. Try to have your counselor help you with this. They may be able to help you get to a point where telling your parents is an option. Also, something to consider is the type of counselor they are, and what they believe about transgender people. You can research this before you talk to them, usually online, if you type in the name of the doctor or their practice. It could be dangerous if you have a counselor that is overly religious or believes that transsexuality is a perversion or a mental illness. Maybe you should try getting to an LGBT youth center in your area, first.

Answer 3

Find out every thing you can about transgender people because they will have a lot of questions for you,and you souled try to think about how to answer them with out making it seam like a bad thing.And be ready for a lot of questions.Then jest pick a day when nothing is going on and tell them

Answer 4

It really depends on your family situation. Some people have an easier time than others with telling their parents.

Answer 5

Very calmly and carefully. Do not make it confrontational. Listen to their arguments and don't make it angry. Tell them straightforward how you feel and hope they'll understand. It will take time, but if they truly love you they will eventually accept reality. Last words: DO NOT GO CROSSDRESSED! Do not shock them any more than they will already be.

Answer 6

Just tell them and skip the drama. Say I've always felt......I need to explore......will you help me and not judge.....all that stuff. If you make it hard on you it will be hard on them. If you keep calm and just do it and they get dramatic tell them if you wanted Hollywood you'd move to LA, now snap out of it and lets talk.

Answer 7

Very Carfully?

Answer 8

i don't know your age (and that does matter for many reasons) but why bother? they can learn your decision at the time YOU feel it's appropriate for them to know.

Answer 9

It's probably best to wait until their "Wake".It won't upset them so much!

Answer 10

Show up in drag and they'll figure it out.