We've been married almost 9 months and he is verbally and mentally abusive to me along with controlling everything. It' "Know your role and shut up." What gives?
2007-05-08 15:49:36 · 12 answers · asked by brittany 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No man loves you one minute, and then hates you, unless he
has a screw loose. Even the all controlling male knows how
to pacify the woman he wants to control, in the beginning. It's
later, after he's satisfied he is in complete control, does he
relax and becomes more demanding and abusive in both
mental control as well as creating physical pain to remind you
to listen to him.
The control freak usually will be abusive and then he will
relent,and often cry perhaps and apoligise for hurting you. That is all part of the controlling process. There's no point in trying to talk and reason with a man who has such little respect for you that he has said something to the affect that "you know your place". No man who loves his wife would even say something so hurtful. It's in your best interest, that you go home to your parents, or move elsewhere and don't let him know your new address. He might pursue you and try to get you back under his control, and then inflict real pain, for leaving him. He's best out of your life forever. Do it now, while you are young.
You've got your entire life ahead to find a man who will love you unconditionally and for all time. And this next time, you'll both know it when you find each other.
2007-05-08 16:24:18 · answer #1 · answered by Lynn 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What gives is the mask of charm is off and you are married to a psychopath. Nothing you did or you can do. They do not change for anyone. They have no empathy providing guidance for change. If you like to be controlled and abused I encourage you to stay right where you are - in the Kingdom of Hell.
2007-05-08 16:26:29 · answer #2 · answered by Healthy Lifestyle Geek 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Then why did you marry him in the first place. You should be getting out while you still can, before you end up in the front page of the newspaper. If that's how he treats you, believe me honey LOVE is NOT what you are experiencing..
Good Luck
2007-05-08 15:53:29 · answer #3 · answered by johanne 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If he is like that now it's only going to get a lot worse for you
from here on in.I no you don't think so but wait you'll see and you will be sorry because you were told and did nothing about it.
2007-05-08 16:01:02 · answer #4 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that your relationship is very abusive..u need to seek help or just get out of that messy relationship..i mean 9 months are short time...but think about spending your whole life like that!!
2007-05-08 15:53:36 · answer #5 · answered by sweta 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
well it seems to me that he doesnt really love you and u shouldnt have gotten married in the first place.Sure it seems like u guys were in luv but truth is no one in love does those things.U need to pray and go to God to help you get out this situation because this will lower ur self esteem and u'll be sorry u got married in the first place
2007-05-08 15:57:33 · answer #6 · answered by ashely m 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your role should be his EX wife. He needs help and you need to get out.
2007-05-08 15:56:41 · answer #7 · answered by Leather and Lace 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
maybe its borderline personality disorder. the title of a book about it is called " I Hate you, dont leave me "
2007-05-08 16:26:06 · answer #8 · answered by lady26 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Grab a psychiatrist he needs it.
2007-05-08 15:57:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well Brit,
If you are sticking around ............ apparently you know your role.
2007-05-08 16:02:03 · answer #10 · answered by dadgonewild 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋