I'm not sure what my question is. but i've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. and we both love each other so much!! He lives 30 minutes away, his mom hates me, i don't see him for but once a week, and he works, so i barly get to talk to him, so last night when he got home he said we would have all day to talk(it's happened other time also) then he says he is going over his friends and he'll call me later. here is the thing.. he called me talked to me 15 minutes.. since his mom is a uber ***** he has to be off the phone by 8. so now the day that we were suppose to spend the day talking together is gone. Am I being to dramaic? what do i do?
2007-05-08 13:17:51 · 10 answers · asked by Between Two Hearts 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am 19 and he is turning 18.. He doesn't see his friends that often and his mother hates me because she hates all men.. she hates that your son who looks like his father is happy.. she doesn't work.. never has.. doesn't do **** for him.. Last night i told him i was upset he said sorry but he usually does.. and i told him to stop saying it until he found what it meant.. It's hard to explain but i know he isn't steaking around.. my cuz is close friends.. i'm close friends with his friends.. and we've almost broken up once before.. and we both know we can't do that.. we've been through A LOT!! We plan on getting married.. but he thinks things will just be better later on.. that I guess he doesn't need to work on them.. i don't know... Am I in denial?
2007-05-09 02:26:12 · update #1
Ease yourself gradually out of this relationship.
It has too many barriers to be worthwhile, and your guy is feeling the stress of the hassle and he doesn't want to tell you that.
I'm sure there's a hot guy that lives near you whose mom will adore you; let this guy go so he can find you.
2007-05-08 13:24:26 · answer #1 · answered by nora22000 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He chose the time he could have been talking to you to go to his friend's house. His mother has the right to set the times she deems appropriate for him to use the phone. He knows what the time is and chose to call you at a time that allowed him 15 minutes to talk to you. You state this has happened before.
Those are the facts. The only question is do you accept that or do you want to find someone else who puts you first in their life?
You don't state how old either of you are and that might also have some bearing as to just how important a girlfriend might be to your boyfriend at this stage in his life.
Why does his mom hate you? That is never a good thing.
Mothers generally want what is best for their children.
2007-05-08 13:25:58 · answer #2 · answered by CountryLady 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your feelings are your feelings, not "drama." Obviously, you do not spend as much time with your guy as you would like and you were looking forward to your phone conversation. He had other things in mind, despite his promise. It is natural for you to be disappointed, angry, hurt. I would be.
Your needs are not being met and it doesn't seem like you are pushing for a whole hell of a lot. With the amount of time your guy spends with you, he should be starved for contact. The fact that he is not, is a bad sign. Complaining to him may prove futile. Instead, let him know that you are not satisfied with the amount of time he spends with you, and that you guys either need to break up, or see other people (he may already be doing this.)
The guy is old enough to work but is still controlled by his mother? Could he be using her as an excuse? Either way, it is another bad sign.
I'm sorry to be a downer but this is the reality of the situation. I think you deserve someone as invested as you are. I wish you well.
2007-05-08 13:35:46 · answer #3 · answered by Dove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just not that into you.Move on. You need to see someone for more than 10 minutes a week.
2007-05-08 13:22:08 · answer #4 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like your boyfriend is that into you.
As for your questions about breaking promises, this is what I learned from my grandfather and I live by this rule:
Never make a promise you can not keep.
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A promise made is a debt unpaid. (I was always taught to pay my debts.)
2007-05-08 13:34:41 · answer #5 · answered by QT 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your not being dramatic at all. You earn a day with him weather his mom likes it or not. Don't even worry about her. He's your boyfriend try and arange more dates with him. Try to win him back from his mom.
2007-05-08 13:27:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but untill he moves out or his mother dies you wont be in a deep relationship.
2007-05-08 13:22:48 · answer #7 · answered by WHO-DEY!!! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no its the little things that count.he sounds immature. try to find a way to reapir things with his mom so you can spend more time with him.
2007-05-08 13:21:53 · answer #8 · answered by pikko 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel about not seeing him that much. try to fix things with his mom and be friends with her.
2007-05-08 13:24:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
break up
2007-05-08 13:22:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋