How to learn to forgive someone who's hurt you?

Question

Just how do you do it?
Do you have your own experience/example in ur life? and how long did it take you to forgive this person(s)?
why do they say to learn to forgive yourself?
For allowing the person to take your personal power away or what exactly?

Answer 1

You have to be the bigger person and say the H*** with you. You are better than that person anyway. Remember, what goes around comes around. Look the other way & accept that the past is just that..THE PAST! The BEST revenge against anyone is this: Living Life Well! And if you find someone to share that life, you have gained even more power. Don't worry, she/he will find out that you are not at home feeling down in the dumps but out at the carnival "Talking" with somebody AND you were smiling.

Answer 2

I know this isn't going to be much help, because it is probably not really what you are looking for...but here I go. I have a sister who has been absolutley nothing but awful to me my whole life. There is one thing she did to me that I will never forgive her for. One thing Oprah says is that you have to forgive for YOURSELF, not the person that hurt you. And that is true. You're not doing the other person a favor by forgiving them..they could care less if you hate them or love them. You are doing yourself a favor by lifting the weight of the hurt they've caused you off your shoulders. So if you are going to forgive (which is something I can't quiet do, yet) forgive for you, and no one else. I hope it all works out.
Cheers, love!
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Answer 3

First...Delegate the blame to the proper individual....Did you deserve to be hurt? Then you should have long since forgiven. If you did not...God's way is to forgive as soon as you can. For some, It may take years...For others...Forgiveness can come in an instant. To forgive yourself is often the most difficult thing to accomplish. If you continue to entertain a relationship with the one who wishes to "Take your Power Away"..That is your fault. Holding a grudge is a burden no one should carry. Unless you like a broken back from carrying a load that you should've never picked up to begin with. Best wishes.

Answer 4

You don't have to Walk up to them and forgive them,you have to forgive them in your heart but that doesn't mean you have to talk to them.Basically it just means leaving the past behind you and moving on.You can even forgive and forget about that person.Like blocking them out of your mind.For example:my mom mentally abused me my whole life by telling me she hates me and i won't amount to anything in life,so i made a plan and got out of the house,never spoke to her since then.I stop downed the street after i loaded up my truck and just took a moment to realise that i was free.Free from her abuse.Like i said earlier,i forgave her in my heart and i feel 100 times better.

Answer 5

It's easier said than done, but it can be done & I hv done it.

As part of my inner healing course thru meditation, I was taught to forgive - imagine this person in front of you n u send a bright light to his/her heart and say, i forgive you and i forgive myself. Its truly magical experience.

I had so much angst against this person, I carried so much negative energy it didnt benefit me.

Think abt forgiving this person as helping your own self. Stop carrying the hurt or emotional baggage in yr heart.

Took me years but I hv learned.

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Answer 6

if the pain is too deep, it will take time to heal. in due time you will learn to forgive and forget.

Answer 7

first off you dont ever have to...did you ever consider that? take some lsd and you will find your answers...usually everything wll turn out just how it was supposed to without getting into some long drawn out................................................