How do I stop caring about looks?

Question

I care about others looks and compare with mine and get sad, envious.
Is that just "high school student" stuff? When I get older, does it stop? or do I need to be conscious of not caring looks?

Answer 1

Caring how one looks is one thing, obviously one wants to keep good personal hygiene habits and have stylish wardrobe and accessories. But there are things about ourselves that we are not able to control, and until we learn to love those parts of ourselves that we are not able to change, only then will others be able to love us as well. People know when others are uncomfortable and are envious of them, and they do not like it. Sometimes they will try and assist, sometimes they will exploit those poor feelings. You have to trust within yourself that you are the best you can possibly be, and that will be the message you are non-verbally announcing to the world. When you feel good about yourself, others will feel good about you as well. When you are not feeling so well, people would rather not be around you. You have to be that person that you want to be, no one else can do it for you. There are people who are considered beautiful, but without makeup and air brushing, they are ugly, not even average looking or "regular", they are UGLY. Look at that idiot Tiffany a.k.a. "New York", she looks bad enough when she puts some effort into it, but, have you seen that ***** without makeup? And imagine how her real hair must look, if she has any. OOOOHHHHHWEEEEEE, ugly, inside and out! That's someone who feels inferior and ugly compared to others, she really does, and she's right, so who are we to argue?

Answer 2

I think the only way you can stop caring about looks is if you meet cute guys, with hot bodies, and they are mean to you. Other than that, if you meet a good looking guy, with a great looking body, and he has a great big heart, it's hard to resist. One important thing you have to realize, is that sometimes, guys with knockout bodies, and great looks are shallow too. Sometimes they just want to meet cute girls, and I would dare say, parade them, and then they dump them, and end up with another barbie doll. Anyway, no matter what people say, looks are always important when it comes to a relationship. It can be a bit important, or extremely important, but looks always play a big role. Looks do matter, but that is not the only thing, along with the looks, goes the way they are. If they look good, and are great, then there is no problem, but you have to realize that looks are always accompanied by something else. Looks are just meaningless, but great looks with an awesome personality is something great. Try and find someone you have fun with, that is the most important thing. Someone you feel comfortable to be around with, and give it a chance. You might meet a hot guy, who is just nice, and honest. What more can you want?

Answer 3

Sometimes we all care about our looks! It's not just high school kids! We usually are self-consciences about our looks because we care what people think! We are all different in our own way and thats okay. We are obsessed with mirrors, hair, etc. But what we do to prevent it is helpful! You can just keep telling yourself that you are yourself and you can't help that! So next time you see a "COOL" look, and you get jealous, just think that you will grow into yourself as you get older and your obsessive behavior will eventually get old! People will soon realize this!

Answer 4

Well...here's what I'm gonna give ya.

The popular girls who are well developed and have grown faster than most people have high self esteem and probably could rely on their looks to get things their way. But as they grow older, they become unsatisfied with their developments and probably lose their self esteem until they're content with themselves. So if anything, don't worry about you not growing faster than other girls. You'll fully mature later on, if this has to do with anything.

Really, you shouldn't care about looks. Especially if I sent you a photo of myself. Then you wouldn't be so sad when you're comparing me. BUT anyways, it would stop eventually, because your insecurity comes from maybe chemical imbalances from hormones or whatever, but you can stop being self-conscious about yourself. It'd help.

Answer 5

Looks are superficial. You might never get over finding them important. Look at all the people spending thousands on plastic surgery.

I think you need to find value in your accomplishments. Do something with your life. Stop comparing yourself to others. Some are better, some are worse--no matter what you look like, no matter where you live. That's life.

Be the best "you" you can be. That's all that matters.

Answer 6

You need to take care of your needs. You are who you are and you have the power to change what you are feeling about yourself at anytime.

You could try to imagine yourself to be a beautiful person both on the inside and out you could do this everytime you feel you need to. Be more positive about your self image.

You can only be you, you have to find what works for you to help you feel better about yourself.

If you don't do something about now it will get worse as you get older. Also you can journal your thoughts and feelings to help give you more insight to why you are feeling like this. There could be some underlying issues that need attention. Maybe seeing a therapist for this issue may be of help to you.

Answer 7

I think it's normal to have some insecurities, but one way to help (I don't think it's possible to stop caring completely) is not to place as much value in the way other people look. If you are shallow about other people, you're probably going to be shallow about yourself. Think about the things that you like about yourself and that you're good at.

Answer 8

I am younger than you but I have felt that way. I think that you become more secure when you become older and just maybe a little wiser. You subconciously judge people on looks, everyone does. It is pretty difficult to stop unless you are blind (sorry if I'm being rude but its true?!!? :)

Answer 9

Time for some soul searching. Ask yourself if it's looks you really care about. A beautiful person is more than looks.

Answer 10

You can't tell yourself to stop caring about looks. It's a natural thing to do. It doesn't matter what age you are, but you can try not be to so concious about looks. I don't know how. But maybe a proffesional help, may help you get over it.