What were your household rules when you were growing up and what have those rules taught you?

Answer 1

Everything was about respect. I respected my little sisters by treating them nicely. I respected my parents by doing what they asked (although if I didn't understand a request I was free to question it and sometimes we reached a happy medium....sometimes I just had to do it anyway because they were the parents☺). I respected our house by doing my chores. I respected myself by cleaning myself and my clothes regularly. What everything boiled down to was respect for others, my environment, myself, etc.

What it taught me was NOT that there were a bunch of rules I had to obey because my parents "said so." But rather that to be a responsible and respectable person, I had to show respect. It taught me my place. It taught me how to be a productive member of society. I recycle out of respect for the earth, I do service out of respect for those less fortunate than I am. I keep my house clean out of respect for me and my family and the home we've been blessed with. I don't always enjoy the things I have to do as an adult, but I have come to appreciate the value of the things I do and that they are necessary.

I have two adorable little boys and I am trying hard to teach them the same things. It's all about respect. We don't hit other kids, we don't yell at mommy, etc. We use our words to convey our feelings, and out of respect for my children, they will never hear me say, "because I told you so."

Answer 2

Hi Jane Fonda,

My Household Family Rules Are Always To Follow The Ten Commandments, We Come From A Christian Background And There's Alot Of Treating Others How You Want To Be Treated, Never Having Judgements On People Regardless If You Know Them Well Or Not, There's Alot To Follow In Your Personal Beliefs As Long As You Dont Let Nobody Make You Waiver From It, It Helps You To Find The Good In People And Also The Bad To Turn Away From Those Kinds Of Situations.

Answer 3

First, we were taught that rules and regulations without a relationship are futal! From the oldest to the youngest, we grew up knowing that the "golden rule" covered a multitude of other parental dictates. A healthy dose of positive and negative reinforcement of those household rules took time . But that's what we had . . . time. Time to observe the daily trumpeting of parents to do this or that. Time to share the responsibilty as a family member to add to the household by doing my part.

The rules were simple. Sometimes with a direct underscore by a loving, yet firm father's tone saying, "Not in my house you don't!" Each person had an age-appropriate "task" or "job" that was always rewarded by a comment or genuine smile--even from sibblings. And a job not completed had consequences equal to the task.

What I learned from these character-building rules are too many to number. A few would include: 1) A job well done gave me worth and self-asteem, not the other way around. 2) A team member really does add to the whole. 3) Orderliness in a micro unit of society prepares you for the world outside. 4) You bring your "house rules" (good or bad) with you wherever you go. 5) Your work ethic in the workplace begins with observing house rules. 6) And finally, you learn when to say and when not to say, "Hey, move your CRAP, so I can put my STUFF there!

Edwin

Answer 4

Well, the household rules that i had to go through was help out at home e.g. cleaning, and respect for the elders. It has taught me how to behave around people and that i will be using these kind of things in the future as im growing older.

When i was a kid, i had different rules at home, e.g. sleeping early. Now im an adult and i don't have that rule anymore, so really, the household rules changes as u grow older and more mature.

The reason why parents teach their kids household rules is to let them know that once they grow older, they will have the same responsibilities just like their parents are having now. It will give them more experience in life and that its also doing the right thing and not the wrong thing/choices in life.

Answer 5

We had very basic rules in my household growing up. We could not go out and "play" until our designated chores were complete (dishes, dusting, etc.), there was no t.v. allowed on during dinner and we all ate together at the table. Our homework had to be done right after school and we were in the house when it got dark. I learned from a young age that no matter how I felt, my parents were in charge. Even though I was a sarcastic sort - when my parents made a rule, you didn't question it you just did it because it because they said to - no argument. I learned when I had kids of my own that this is not always an easy task. There should always be a level of respect that should be met within the household. My girls had/have "chores" that need to get done before they can do the things they want to do - it's a simple rule "you do what needs to be done then you can do what you want to be done." I have always given my girls respect and in return have always received it back. I am the parent - but that does not mean that I am ruler and know-er of all. I control what I can, I teach where I can and I educate so there are never any surprises. I am proud to state that my girls (ages 24 and 13) are wonderful human beings. Are they perfect? Heck no! But they are human and will make mistakes and fall off that pedestal I have them on. I'd be setting myself up for serious disappointment if I thought otherwise. They are entitled to voice their opinion as long as they do it respectfully. The most important thing I've learned is to always tell them I love them because it's important they always know that.

Answer 6

Family Household Rules

Answer 7

From the time I was 14 the only rule was that no person of authority was to EVER call the house ( Cops or School ) . If I was doing what I was supposed to, then my parents would never be notified. From age 14 , no curfew , no rules, just do what I want, when I want. At age 30 I have 2 children, married the love of my life, run a successful business, all because I was taught to take care of myself at an early age. I made many mistakes and I was forced to fix my own mistakes. If I wanted money, go get a job. Parents gave you life and owe you nothing else. Anything they give is a gift, not a right of entitlement. It's time the world learned independence and quit relying on other people for their meal ticket.

Answer 8

My Mom and Dad raised four girls in a very protective environment. There were a lot more rules than privileges. My Dad was a coal miner, and we didn't have many luxuries growing up, but we consider ourselves richly blessed. The primary rules of the house were:

1) Always respect your parents rules because they have been there and they know what is best for you.
2) Dinner time was family time. Everyone sat down at the table together and took turns each day giving thanks. We talked about our day without distractions from TV or phone calls.
3) School work before play time everyday.
4) Never talk to strangers.
5) If you can't say something nice about someone, don't say anything at all.
6) Always conduct yourself in a manner you can be proud of.
7) If you don't want to be in a bad situation, don't put yourself there.
8) There is nothing you could ever do so bad that you couldn't tell Mom.

The most important lessons I have learned is to always be responsible for my actions and not to blame others for my mistakes, that nothing can replace a good education, that being a good listener is imperative to communication, that respect is something you earn everyday, that a kind word can make a difference, and that the unconditional love of a parent is one of the greatest gifts in the world.

Answer 9

When I was growing up, I didn't like some of our household rules, but always thought when I got older they would make sense to me. Guess what? I'm 35 and I still don't get it. For instance, I couldn't talk on the phone for more than an hour a night. I don't think this rule taught me anything at all. I couldn't lay down on the couch in the middle of the day (while watching TV) - had to sit upright. Still don't know why! To me, many "rules" were a power trip for my parents. Obviously there were other rules that were for our own good, but some were silly.

Answer 10

Ms Fonda - in every household, there are explicit rules and implicit rules. In our house, the explicit rules were about the value of education, the importance of physical appearances, and the over-riding issue of not doing anything that might embarass the family. Implicit rules are the culture that grows up in the family about things you don't necessarily talk about, but that you pick up on. In our family, the implicit rules were about money (Mom's money is her money; Dad's money pays for the family), sex (doesn't exist and all mentions about it are negative), and again, physical appearances (if you look like Mom, you're in good shape; if you don't, then you don't measure up). The effect of these on how my husband and I try to run our own household: Everything is out on the table all the time. We got the kids involved in raising livestock so that they could have their own source of income for example and would not have to ask us for money. Part of that deal was that they had to save half of all the money they made and then we got them involved in buying stocks and investing. All jobs in the household became part of a "bidding" structure - this enabled a household with two full time working parents to run effectively and efficiently and gave the kids the choice as to what their chores were and how hard they were going to work. The last and most important thing is that we let the kids know all the time that no matter what, we love them and cherish them just the way they look, for the people that they are. One other side benefit was that because we live in the country and until recently could not get tv unless we also had cable (which we did not want), there has been a certain limit on the images that the kids have been subjected to; our second child told me recently at her college graduation that she felt that this prevented her from being overwhelmed by all the negative images of non-thin females in the media and had protected her somewhat from the effects of that.

Answer 11

That whenever I would go out somewhwere to tell my parents where i was going, what i would be doing and who i was with. 6 p.m. is dinner time, do not be late, ever. Monday through Friday, homework first, household chores second and play was always last. Be respectful of others, greet grown ups by sir or mam. No foul language was tolerated, even though my dad would use it when angry. These items taught me to treat others as you would like to be treated. That hard work is the true basis for success. That everyone in this world is equal to yourself no matter what posessions they have or do not have. These rules of conduct and courtesy were in some respects, safety measures since the area i lived in was rural and sometimes dangerous. In all it made me the respected and honored person that i am today. I served my country when they needed me and returned home with a different point of view of the world, however, i still remain the same person pretty much as i was before all that. I have lost all of my childhood friends and presently only have a few new friends left. None the less, I am no worse off than when I was smaller.