I dont want to circumcize my baby if its a boy?

Question

But everyone I mention this to freaks out and says that it will be bad for my baby because it will get infected. I know this is not true. How do I explain, especially to my mother, that it is perfectly possible to have a healthy baby who is not circumcised?
I think that it is barbaric and cruel to circumcise a boy just the same as it is to circumcise a girl. I think my friends and family only think its weird not to circumcise because of cultural reasons. Is there any validity to what they are telling me? Does circumcision prevent infection? Will my son be made fun of if he is not circumcised? Will he not have a "normal" sex life when he is grown?

Maybe because most of them have been latino, but most of the men I have been with have not been circumcized. I do not think its common anywhere in the world but here, or among any cultures but white Christian and Jewish cultures. All of the uncircumcized men I have known have said they feel circumcision is unnatural and akin to circumcision. Maybe I'm just in the wrong culture.

Answer 1

I just asked my mother, who is a doctor, and she sais thatthere are no benifits to circumcision. In fact, where we live the hospitals and doctors are forbidden from doing them, unless there are major complications.If you don't want them to get circumsized, then don't do it

Answer 2

Before I can answer, there is a question for you. Are you Jewish. If you are, discuss this with your Rabbi and Doctor.

If you are not Jewish, this is a matter between the parents and the doctor, not the grandparents or any other person.

Since I am Jewish and was "clipped" when I was 8 days old, there are some aspects of this I cannot answer that someone who was circumcised as an adult can answer.

Having attended numerous circumcisions, including one brother and my son's, I can safely say that the pain/discomfort/physical effect on the baby seems to be nil. The only person I know of who suffered an injury at a bris was ME, when the father fainted and his head landed on my foot and broke my big toe.

From what I have read, there is some apparent medical plus to circumcision. Apparently it is easier to keep the penis clean and prevent localized infections under the foreskin. Currently, there appears to be evidence that circumcised male have a reduced risk of HI?AIDS infection. Again, discuss this with your doctor.

Answer 3

Well when there not circumcised it is true that there not cleansed as well... there's bacteria that builds and smells around the area where the extra skin is..Your more prone to infection for him and when hes older to his female... So yes circumcising does prevent infection.. there are lots of different reason why people circumcise and have different beliefs.. Just do what you want.. its your son.. But My son is circumcised and i personally thinks its better.. and looks better... My nephew didn't get circumcised and i know both parents wish they did.but its a much bigger procedure if you don't do it with in the first week of being born.... and I know 2 adult that have recently went back to get there's done... but if you don't want him circumcised it not like he will ever know the difference.. Men that are done don't mind it.. and men that aren't done don't mind or don't know the difference.. My sisters are both nurses and they highly recommend it.. i know i didn't answer all your questions but hope i helped!!

Answer 4

Ok, here's the low down on it all.
Circumision is mostly an old tradition, while in fact, there CAN BE some infections if you do not pull the foreskin back and clean it well. HOWEVER, most babies who are not circumsized do just fine. As long as you keep it clean while bathing, there should be no problem. Should he have a problem later on in life, it can be done then, but with local anesthesia.
But please do not feel you have to "explain it" to everyone in the world. It really is a personal decision and so what if your family doesn't agree. If you are old enough to make a baby, you are old enough to do what you think is best for him.

Most of the time, kids do not know this sort of thing in gym class, so really there is no need to disclose this personal information. And, as for the normal sex life,, actually, it is better for the men who are NOT circumsized due to the fact that the foreskin pulls down over the head which prevents him from ejaculating faster and the actual sex last longer.

You are doing the right thing, just stick to your guns if that's what you want to do!
Also, you may want to talk to your pedatrician about it before completely making your mind up.
Best to you and your son,
Laura

Answer 5

Why are you letting everyone else try to sway your decision??
It seems like you know what you want and don't want to do. I had my baby circumcised but his father is not. There is scientific proof that a circumcised penis does not prevent infection. I read it in what to expect when your expecting. I don't think your son will be made fun of. I mean whose really gonna be starring at it to make fun of him?? The only people that should see his penis anyways is his girlfriends. Like I said my boyfriend is not circumcised and we have an above average sex life. You know what you want for your baby. Don't let other people sway you. It's only your decision. Good luck I hope I was moderately helpful.

Answer 6

In America it is the norm to mutialte yr childs genitals, in the rest of the world it is not, it is immoral, abuse, mutilation, here down under in NEw Zealand, home of lord of the rings it is illegal to do so, u will have life imprisonment, all people for circumcision are completly wrong the have a biases many of them female who dont even have a penis, and for the sake of his father was, a lame arguement, u dont want yr son tortured like his father if u take the stand and come him uncut then his son will not be circumcised because he isnt, it takes one person to make a change, u make it, 90% of the world is not, and we dont get infections or anything like that in NZ, in the shower just roll back the foreskin and wash with water simple, im well past my teenage years, and we dont have any problems in NZ with foreskins, it just is a brain washing thing about circumcision, if we didnt need it would we have been born with it of course not, if anyone wants to mutilate their son then do the same to yr daughter, why would u harm a delciate penis but not a vagina

Answer 7

Circumcision CAN prevent infection, but NOT circumcising doesn't guarantee that he WILL get infected. It takes more maintenance to keep his foreskin clean, and you will have to teach him to make it a daily habit, just like brushing his teeth. It won't ruin his sex life - some women don't mind it, some do. It's simply a cultural preference.

Circumcising for girls is different than for boys - girl don't have a foreskin like boys do. In some countries, especially in Africa, female circumcision involves cutting off the entire clitoris, purposely ruining her sexual pleasure for the rest of her life, and it's usually done against her will. For boys, it's just removing a bit of useless skin, like taking out an appendix, and few men regret it.

So, you're right, you can have a perfectly healthy and normal uncircumcised baby boy... but you should talk with your doctor to get all the facts before dismissing the idea outright.

Answer 8

I am a Mom of 3 uncirc. boys and 1 husband. While yes, it can get infected, with proper cleaning it more than likely won't. There were just 2 studies published that talks about when you circumcise boys you cut off the most sensitive fold on the penis. This not only cuts down on sensation, but they do not give the boys any meds when they cut it off. You treat a dog better than that. I agree it is cruel and barbaric! You must keep it clean and teach him from the beginning that he always has to clean it An uncirced boy is likelier to contract and STD without condom use! So teaching him safe sex is very important! Talk to your Dr. and they can give you all the info. you need. It is NOT up to your Mom or your Friends and you owe them NO explanation!

Answer 9

You will have to ask a doctor about the medical side of it. Culturally, if this boy lives in the US, his "condition" will raise a few eyebrows; I don't know if he will exactly be "made fun of" - but he WILL be different, and it WILL be noticed. Throughout my dating history, the only guys who were not circumcized were Europeans; it is not a common occurrence in the US. I prefer the circumcized "look", for cosmetic reasons. As far as I understand, it doesn't affect the sex act itself. If you don't want to have your child circumcized - it's your call; I disagree about the degree of "barbarity" involved, but everyone has their own opinions (I, myself, will not get my ears pierced because I consider it "barbaric"). You don't need to explain yourself to the friends and family - in the end, it is your decision, and they just have to deal with it. Your son can always choose to have the operation when he's grown if it's causing a problem - I knew a person who has done this. Just do what you feel comfortable with, and don't worry about what others think. The only people whos opinion I would seek on the issue would be medical professionals.

Answer 10

I have heard that circumcized men have worse sexual life than ones without circumcision. If not anything else it is logical since the penis becomes less sensitive (in one way that resembles the female circumcision where the goal is to desensitise). I suppose that the idea is to make men less sensitive and more "efficient" like machines since they can go on for more (even if they loose on pleasure). The idea repels me. Anyway it's not natural it is a cultural thing(85% of men around the world are not cut, in my country it is considered that the "extra" skin protects the penis) and if your family is against unnatural interventions you may have a good argument. Generally there are many issues with circumcision and you should look it up in the net (eg http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Circumcision ).

Answer 11

My grandson was born in Quebec, and here they really will not do it. They refuse as there is no medical reason to do so. So off my daughter went and headed to Ottawa and had the proceedure there. She now wishes she did not.

My grandson was an extreemly large baby, 11 points at birth, and larger when this procedure done. Due to being chubby and the *thing* is not out enough to heal right, he now has issues at 3 where surgery might be needed later on.

So, explain, it isn't needed. There are issues when too much is done, or it does not heal right.

I do have a but, just make sure he knows growing up to keep himself clean, there are issues also there, that usually are not mentioned.