a question about labour?

Question

Was anyone terrified about labour before giving birth and afterwards wondered what u were worried about.? was it not as bad as u imagined it to be? 38 weeks with first and trying to get my mind in a good lace. Thanks

lol I meant "place"

Answer 1

Did you not take a childbirth preparation class? That's how you get your head in a 'good place'. Knowledge is power. Otherwise, fear of the unknown takes you and runs with you. When you don't know what to expect it becomes larger than life and you can't focus or stay grounded. And it is terrifying. That's when women start yelling "Drugs! I need drugs!" But what you need to remember, is that you have everything you need. Say it: "I have everything I need to bring my baby into the world" over and over again to yourself. Your body knows what to do. You have to try to just stay as calm and relaxed as possible, breathe. Focus on your breathing. Do yoga breathing or meditative breathing if you can. You will get through it. Remember it's a defined period of time; there's a definite beginning, middle and end. When you're in it, though, you think it will just never end. Focus on the baby, remind yourself of what is really going on: your body is going through this amazing transition and you just need to allow it to happen. You need support people around you who are going to help you stay grounded, encourage you, tell you you're okay and you're doing great... your nurse will guide you, and before you know it, you'll be holding your baby in your arms and you will feel a sense of accomplishment like nothing you ever felt before. Congratulations, Mommy! It is absolutely awesome.

Answer 2

First of all, don't worry. There's so many options open to you for pain relief.
I was TERRIFFIED to the point of being in tears at my first contraction from being scared, not in pain.

Secondly, of course it hurts. Don't believe anyone who tells you otherwise! BUT! You can and will cope with it. I was suprised afterwards because although it hurt, a lot, at no point was it unbearable.

I must say, I had an epidural which they let wear off, so it only helped for about half of the labor, but it was amazing. I was having super contractions while sitting there eating a bag of malteasers. So if you really are scared of the pain, go for an epidural. Half way through my labor, I decided I wanted the epidural to wear off so I could feel giving birth, and that made me feel really in control.

Whats REALLY good to remember, is that it doesn't last! Even if you had one of the longest labors around, you KNOW that in a matter of hours, it will all be over. And as soon as baby is out, it's fine, you're just a little sore.

One thing I can't reccommend enough is lavender oil in baths afterwards. I scoffed at this when a nurse told me, thinking no herbal crap could help the pain after, but it was amazing. Make sure you get some lavender oil and put a whole capful in a bath every night. It's fantastic.
Good luck and I hope you do well. You can feel free to email me any questions no matter how personal or disgusting!

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Answer 3

labour is well over rated, i had my first last october. I coudn't wait to have her i just wanted my baby out, i hated being pregnant. I had a straight forward pregnancy & birth with no problems at all. I just had gas & air which really helps you concentrate on your breathing, but makes you really sleepy. I'm not going to lie and say that it isn't painful having a baby, but trust me it is no where near as bad as everyone makes it out to be. Hope all goes well for you.

I didn't bother taking any of the crap into hospital with me like it says in the books, but the only thing that would have come handy is a hot water bottle. Good-luck

Answer 4

I was quite relaxed about it first time round; ignorance is bliss!

The difficult bit apart from the obvious pain, was the lack of control. It felt like I was on a roller coaster that I couldn't get off, which is both tiring and frightening. Having survived 21 hours of that I drew two conclusions which I took with me the second (and last) time.

1. Epidurals are wonderful and
2. No matter how hard it seems at the time, it DOES end and it is worth it.

Your experience will be unique, just try not to fight your body- it knows what it's doing!
Good luck, you and your baby will be just fine.

Answer 5

I was a little scared with my first and had pretty much no pain meds and it hurt like hell but as soon as you see your beautiful baby you will forget all about it. With my second I had an epidural and it was the best thing ever I was able to concentrate better and he came out in 20 min. It really isn't all that bad, I'm 11 weeks pregnant now and I'm going to try it without any pain meds. you don't have to go through it in pain these days.

Answer 6

Its completely normal to be nervous. You need to remember that if you couldnt get through labor your body wouldnt have let you get pregnant in the first place. You will be fine you just need to have a plan in place for when the big day comes, then that way you can focus on what you want to have happen. You will be fine just have some faith in yourself. Believe it or not within a matter of days, you wont even remember the pain. Good luck to you
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Answer 7

I was scared, but I eventually accepted that there was no way out of this ;-)

It started slowly at first, so that wasn't bad. Then I got some meds. then I was too busy to notice much else for a while. Then I was tired, and it was over. :-D

Yeah I wondered later what I was worried about. It's temporary, and you're so in love with your baby you know you'd do anything for them. You do forget the pain. Anyway it's nothing compared to the love.

Answer 8

I was terrified of giving birth to my daughter. I literally thought I was going to die giving birth to her. Not because of the pain but because I really felt that I was going to be one of the ones who dies at childbirth. Well obviously I didn't die and I'm about to have another baby real soon. LIke any day now. I'm not as scared with this one. I'm more scared of taking care of two kids all by myself then the actual process itself.

Answer 9

i refused to listen to anyone's scary stories some people are horrible and just try and scare you i kept an open mind and thankfully was ok i've had 4 children my first was 4 and half hours long 2nd was 3 and half hours long and my twins were born in 2 and half hours all went very well even though i had the twins at my cousins house first went down the toilet (tried to catch her but she slipped with the gush of water) and the 2nd was born breached so don't worry just try and relax
good luck and congratulations

Answer 10

Well labor is gonna happen no matter what...try to read up on it, or take lamaze classes.

I worried constantly with my 1st, it didn't go well, I had a c-sec and then recovery was hell.

I'm due in about 2-3 wks. and have just stopped worrying about it, b-cuz it's gonna happen...hopefully it goes well.

Good luck to you.
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