I have a 7 weeks old baby, i had and still have overflow, my son would get choked evertime i tried bfing.?

Question

My friend suggested using breast pump and giving him expressed milk through bottle, till the time my supply establishes. i being inexperienced and first time mom did that. Now i pump in th morning and try to feed him, but he doesnt likes me nursing him and prefers bottle. I feel sad and want to nurse him. Can anyone suggest a way he would prefer me nursing him over bottle! It breaks my heart evertime he turns his face around or folds his lips or if forced more starts crying, till the time i give him bottle!

What do i do!help pls.

Answer 1

Oh you poor thing. It didn't take my son long to prefer the bottle either. I had to pump all the time so I could go back to work and since he was using a bottle all day he just didn't want me to nurse him anymore. I was very sad too and it took extra emotional effort to continue pumping because I was so sad I just wanted to quit, but you have to remember that your baby isn't doing this to upset you. He is just choosing what is easiest for him. Some babies don't want bottles at all no matter how hard moms try, so all babies are different.

The best thing you can do is to continue to try and nurse your son, but don't force him. Keep pumping your milk and giving it to your son because it is the best thing for him. Look at some of the positives. 1. Your son is still getting your breastmilk which is best for him. 2. You're still going to get the physical (weight loss) benefits as nursing. 3. You have more freedom now to do what you'd like to do... meaning daddy can feed the baby and you can rest, go out shopping, etc. 4. You can store this milk and save it for later (in case you do start weaning early, build up a stock in the freezer for later.) 5. You can hold your baby close to you still while you're feeding him but you don't have to be "in position." Although nursing has many comfortable positions, I found that after awhile I liked sitting with him a certain way that I couldn't do if I was nursing.

I had the same overflow (overactive letdown) and I never really could reduce it. Maybe that is why my son didn't want to nurse also. It was so much he would choke and get all upset. Even when my supply decreased, it still came out so fast at the beginning.

Try not to get upset and stay encouraged to continue pumping. Good luck!

Answer 2

Babies can be born stubborn, don't bother giving him the bottle, he will not starve himself. Don't take any of his silliness either, he is a nurser, make him nurse. (I promise the most he will do is postpone a feeding and make you both cry, there will be no lasting damage to either of you.) Your friend was half-right, pump a little so that you aren't overflowing but then save the milk for an emergency and make him nurse. You and your son will get the hang of it. If you find the pumping makes the problem worse, then just pull him away for a minute and restart him if the milk gets the better of him. Try talking to the La Leche League or the WIC nurses if you have trouble, or talk to a doctor (yours or his). There is also breastfeeding.com they have some great advice and even videos on latching on etc. It isn't a personal slight by him, sucking from a bottle is easier and he has gotten lazy. You may find that he isn't as overwhelmed now that he has gotten a bit lazy with the sucking. He will not starve himself. Keep at it.

Answer 3

Don't use the bottle at all. If your baby is getting choked when trying breast feeding, express some milk before you start nursing him. When a baby first starts nursing, your milk comes out pretty fast and they can choke on it. When you express some of the milk, it softens the areola (around the nipple) so he won't get choked and he can grasp the nipple easier for nursing. Be patient and keep calm because your baby senses if you get upset. Try to nurse him before he gets really hungry when he's less likely to be too fussy. The nipple shield should only be used if your nipples are inverted or not very big - and then only for a short time. Using a nipple shield doesn't allow for proper stimulation for milk production and your milk supply could diminish. If you continue to have problems, contact The LaLeche League. They know all the tricks to successful breast feeding.

Answer 4

Having extra milk at 7 weeks is completly normal. It means you are doing a great job with your milk supply!
It should be very easy to get back to breastfeeding...First offer the breast often-very often! Nurse first--everytime. Put the bottles away...they are just messy-nursing is so much easier!
You said he is acting fussy at the breast ...here is a trick from Mother Nature--try nursing when he is still asleep--he will latch on automatically--it's a "built in" response! Also nurse him before he starts to be fussy-- letting him get even close to the crying stage is just frustrating to both of you!
Good luck! all is not lost!
You are doing great!

Answer 5

could be he prefers the faster flow of the bottle. try pausing frequently while giving it - burping him more often in the feed so its not a constant flow. you try a slow flow teat also, plus i used nuk teats which are supposed to be the same shape as the way they draw the nipple towards the roof of their mouths.

try different nursing positions, rugby hold or lying down.

hold him close to you breast when feeding ans let him have some from the bottle then quickly switch him to you breast.

put a small amount of your milk in his usual teat and hold in close to your nipple, then move him straight to you breast as soon as he starts taking it.

perservere - breastfeeding is the best thing for your baby and a wonderful experience when you get through the difficult early weeks. you're doing a great job.

Answer 6

You might want to talk to a specialist at the hospital where you delivered.

They can give you a little plastic nipple that you slip over your breast.

You will still get the same pleasure from being able to give your baby milk from your body, but just use this go between.

After time you might be able to breast feed without the plastic nipple.

By the way, they have tons of these individually wrapped so you might want to ask for more than one just in case one rips.

I am pregnant now and I hope he/she will take to a breast.

I understand how sad it can be.

If the plastic nipple doesn't work (I think they call it a latch nipple) then just give him pumped breast milk.

Try these nipples though. They should work.

Answer 7

UN-CONFUSING THE NIPPLE-CONFUSED BABY
When a baby who is getting bottles begins to balk at taking the breast, nipple confusion is probably at the heart of the problem. Here's how to re-teach a baby what to do at the breast:

Banish bottles and pacifiers. Even if your baby will eventually have to learn to use the bottle because you are returning to work, don't ask him to learn both skills at the same time.

If supplements are needed, they can be given in ways that don't use artificial nipples. (See Alternatives to bottles.)

Reacquaint baby with the pleasures of breastfeeding. Give her lots of skin-to-skin contact. Carry her in a sling near the breast between feedings.

Breastfeed when baby is calm, usually in the morning or upon awakening from a nap. Don't wait until baby is ravenously hungry--she'll be in no mood to try something new.

Review the latch-on basics. Be sure that baby is positioned properly in your arms. Wait until her mouth is wide open and her tongue is down before latching her on to the breast.

Show and tell. Open your mouth as you say "open" to baby during latch-on. Even newborns can imitate adult facial expressions.

Provide baby with instant gratification at the breast. Use a breast pump or manual expression to stimulate your milk ejection reflex and get the milk flowing before latching baby on. She'll be rewarded with a hearty flow of milk after the first few sucks.

Use an eyedropper or feeding syringe to drip milk into baby's mouth as she latches on to the breast. (Get some help with this one.) This may encourage baby to stay latched-on and to continue sucking.

For more suggestions and support, get help from a La Leche League Leader or a lactation consultant.

Answer 8

The main problem is that he is used to sucking from the bottle and it had made him a lazy sucker. I am afraid to say you will have to be cruel to be kind and take the bottle away. He will drink from your breast if he is hungry it will just take persistance Try feeding him on both sides and in different positions. Perhaps try lying down on a bed with him to feed him. I breast fed 3 and loved the special bond it created it really is worth the extra effort. Try to find a breast feeding support group in your area to attend. Be blessed.

Answer 9

your friend is sooo clever

get rid of the bottle
be strong and insist on the breast - when he is really hungry he will grab it
bottle is easier then breast so that is why he prefers it
he will prefer you nursing because of your closeness, warmth and smell - he cannot see very well so his nose is his guide and your smell is his first memory and most constant one
do not be nervous all is not lost
be strong it is hard but only for a short while

ps put few drops of brest milk on the breast fot him to taste and smell - like a little bait

Answer 10

Honestly I believe that it is probably not you, it's just that maybe he has a easier time latching on to the bottle. He obviously loves your milk so it's not that. You are doing what is best for him. I can understand how it would hurt your feelings. My suggestion would be to talk to a lactation consultant and also try switching to a nipple that is shaped more like yours.