I just met my soon to be new step sister today. She's 14, and not as bad as I thought she would be. she's the smile on her face all the time, full of giggles, always making jokes, kind of person. anyhoo, we're gonna be sharing a room soon so i was wondering what we could do together in the first few days to bond together as sisters so we don't end up hating each others guts later on. I'm 17 and even though i won't admit it to anyone, i've always kind of wanted a sister nearer to my age (I already have twin 9 yo sisters). so what could we do to start off on the right foot (our parents are getting married on Friday, and they're moving in on Saturday)?
2007-05-08 07:44:34 · 16 answers · asked by 2 Tough 4 You 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You might start by telling her just what you wrote here! I'm sure she'd love to hear that!
I would also take advantage of being the older sister and sharing a room by always being open with her about everything, to pave the way for her in all the mysteries and challenges of growing up. Let her know she can always ask you anything at all and you'll try your best to give her an honest answer.
If you've only just met (pretty unusual!), you'll have plenty to talk about. Why not treat the moving in together as a never-ending sleepover? Stock your room with junk food and sodas and CD's and let the good times roll!
Congratulations on your new sis! Best wishes!
2007-05-08 09:18:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I liked the amusement park idea because it gives you more time to talk than, say, a movie would, and because you're not as compelled to talk as you would be if you were just out to dinner. An amusement park might be a little too far or too pricey right now, so other ideas along those lines are zoos, aquariums, or fun museums.
It might also help to do some sort of "project" together -- maybe you need a hair accessory for the wedding you can ask her to help you shop for? Or a present for your parents (a picture frame that you can put a new family photo into)?
2007-05-08 08:58:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are not the same. A step sister is a sister by marriage. That is her mother or father married your mother or father, so she is not a sister by blood. A half sister has a mother or father in common with you but not both parents as that would be a full sister. Just to complete the list, a sister-in-law is a woman married to your brother, a kid sister is usually your younger sister. Hope this clears it all up for you.
2016-05-18 03:06:52 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so impressed by your open heart and wanting to make this work. This shows a lot of maturity for a 17 yr old. :)
I think one very important thing would be to sit down together and develop your 'room rules'. Make sure she gets to provide plenty of input so she feels empowered. But also make sure that you are very up front about what you expect as well.
Maybe you could redo your room together, maybe even do it where she has to pick your stuff and you have to pick hers...kind of like trading spaces :)
I think she is very lucky to have a big sister like you. I wish you the very best....
2007-05-08 07:57:02 · answer #4 · answered by Deborah M P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good for you for having such an awesome attitude and for thinking ahead.
I am not sure if I'd plan any special events or activities or anything. You may want to let the relationship develop organically, by that I mean just let things happen...as time goes by you will learn about eachother and share experiences and these are the things that build a friendship.
Good luck!
DN
2007-05-08 07:55:46 · answer #5 · answered by Dalice Nelson 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a great attitude! Why don't you ask her what she would like to do? As you are a bit older, she would probably think it's cool you are interested in what she likes. You guys should also come up with some rules for your room together. You know make a list on paperboard and decorate it and hang it. Trust me, its hard to 'forget' when they are hanging on the wall and you guys won't end up wanting to kill each other over little stuff.
2007-05-08 07:53:31 · answer #6 · answered by chickey_soup 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's pretty cool that you want to have a good relationship with her. You may not know it, but she is probably nervous about meeting you. She is going to look up to you since you are older than her, whether you like it or not. I would go out shopping with her. See what her interests are in. Just do stuff you would do with your friends. Just remember, you might have to be the one to initiate things, because you are older and she will feel intimidated at first. Just treat her like you would a friend.
2007-05-08 12:21:06 · answer #7 · answered by milan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some ideas -
since you're sharing a room, make sure she has some space to decorate as her own.
if you have any old clothes you've outgrown, give them to her.
take her to a movie or out to lunch to get to know her.
make sure you go over room rules together, like what time the lights should be out, how loud music can be, is she allowed to use your stereo, that kind of thing.
2007-05-08 08:14:53 · answer #8 · answered by Kutekymmee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her to work on something special with you to do for your parents! Maybe you two could cook and serve a nice dinner for them or something like that! I hope you two end up best friends!! Good Luck!
2007-05-08 07:52:14 · answer #9 · answered by wish I were 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just like take her to the movies and stuff. I'm 13 and im getting a new step-sis and shes nine. any help
2007-05-08 07:52:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋