My very good friend is getting married Sept. 1st of this year, in Mexico. My son will be 7 months at the time. My boyfriend is staying home with him since he does not want to go and doesnt want me to take the baby either. His sister is telling me " Wow you are brave Roxy to leave him"....
Should I feel guilty? Should I go?
I trust his dad completely and I know in my heart that he will take really good care of him.
Please advice!
2007-05-08 07:32:09 · 12 answers · asked by 90304 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Oh my gosh, go and have a fantastic time!!! You couldn't be in a better situation, having the baby being taken care of by his father - its a win win. You get a break, which always makes you a better mother, and your boyfriend gets to spend some alone time with you son, AND he will SOOOOO appreciate you so much more when he sees how much work you do!!
I left my son when he was 9 months with my parents so I could meet my husband in California for 5 days (he was there on business). It went fine, and my baby did great.
You'll feel guilty no matter what, its hard to leave your child, but just remember its good to get breaks. I'm assuming you won't be gone long, but I wouldnt' leave him longer than 5 days - anything longer is too much for a baby that young. Good luck!!
2007-05-08 12:56:37 · answer #1 · answered by Mom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whats the big deal? Your husband is going to be there, and you said you trust him to take good care of your baby. That should be enough, and you dont need anyone else's approval.
My daughter was a year old before she was ever away from us, and it was only a night. Shes 2 now, and the longest she's been away from us is 2 nights, and it's always with family. Dont feel guilty for going to your friends wedding. Your baby is going to be in good hands. It's probably going to be hard, but at least you dont dump your kid off on someone else EVERY day.
2007-05-08 14:41:35 · answer #2 · answered by Bomb_chele 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I couldn't imagine leaving my 16 month old overnight, but a 7 month old? You ARE brave... actually, your boyfriend is brave!
7 months is a prime time for seperation anxiety. You leaving durring that time could be really traumatic for your little one.
Durring seperation anxiety they start to realize that you still exsist when you walk out of the room. You coming back creates a trust that when you leave, you will come back. If you leave and don't come back, you could end up with trust issues down the road.
I know that you will come back, but infants don't understand time. 2 days is like a lifetime for them.
I would seriously reconsitter. Either don't go, or take your baby with you. Kids are more important than "very good friends", and at 7 months, your baby NEEDS you. Really, truely, needs you.
2007-05-08 14:54:53 · answer #3 · answered by Mommy to David 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Mine was 7 months as well. My husband and I had never had a ceremony or honeymoon when we got married almost 7 years ago, we never had the time or money. Last October we had a church wedding (I wanted pictures) then we had a three day honeymoon. Don't worry too much if you know he will be in good hands. You need to have some time to yourself as well. It will be a nice break for you but I am sure you will miss him completely.
2007-05-08 14:50:41 · answer #4 · answered by pebble 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
9 years
2007-05-08 14:45:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't yet. Personally, I believe that moms and babies are meant to be together. If you feel good about leaving him, then go. Something tells me that you don't feel right about leaving him, and that's OK. It's fine to take him with you, and it's acceptable to tell your friend that you can't make the trip because your baby is too little. Do what you think is right. This is the first of many motherhood-related guilt issues!
2007-05-08 14:52:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter was 3 months when my husband and I left her overnight for the first time, and 5 months when we left her for a weekend. As a matter of fact, it was last weekend! Both times we left her with her grandparents (my parents). She was perfectly fine. Your boyfriend will take good care of your baby. Go for it! It will be a great father/son bonding experience for them. And I can guarantee he will appreciate all the work you do taking care of the baby when you return home! Have fun, girl!
2007-05-08 14:47:17 · answer #7 · answered by Brandy B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Staying home with daddy is OK! I havent done it myself, and my baby is nearly 8 months old but if I did I would be happy for my man to look after baby.
2007-05-08 14:39:00 · answer #8 · answered by Siamese Triplets 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, I haven't but I have never been in the situation you are in. Its perfectly fine. If you totally trust your boyfriend then go and have a good time. Your baby will be just fine! =)
2007-05-08 15:31:18 · answer #9 · answered by Emily 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I still haven't left my kids to go on vacation....and the oldest is 6! There's no reason why his dad shouldn't be able to take care of him though.....Dad's should be able to do what we do everyday and not die....let him prove it! LOL
2007-05-08 14:38:54 · answer #10 · answered by Heavenly Advocate 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋