He just moved to atlanta for a job promotion and now I'm pregnant. im lost... help...
the guy and I have been dating for 10 months and 5 months later he tells me about his girlfriend who lives over 700 miles away from him. He tell me cares and he doesnt want to hurt me and gives $ and all kinds of things. But i dont know how true this is.
2007-05-08 06:33:12 · 19 answers · asked by ms.mcla 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
look in the mirror and smack it. bad bad girl.
2007-05-08 06:35:59 · answer #1 · answered by notthisgirl37 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
*Bad bad girl.......
.Okay so let me get this straight HE got you pregnant? And all the while you had no idea about this other girl...correct?
.Ughhh.....wow. This is sort of tough.
.Well if he is the father of your child, he has to have some sort of contact with you simply for the purpose of child support. And sooner or later his girlfriend will find out about you and him, because of this baby you're having. I mean say something came in the mail for him or whatever, and she reads it...and gets curious and opens it up.
BAM.....she's in the loop, and that is where the drama starts.
.*So if it's at all possible I think only for your childs sake you should remain in contact with him, and he needs to know that you are having his baby (if its his). I don't blame you for loving him as much as you do, I mean you two were together for quite sometime...and I am not going to bring you down about the part where he has another girlfriend, because you had no idea...so that isn't your fault and I don't blame you for it.
.Geez....this is crazy. Um...well just be strong, and if that is his baby you're having, then you need to inform him...and take it step by step from there. You'll be ok and things will work themselves out, it just takes time and patience :):)
*I'm sorry to hear that things are a little off balance for you right now. I hope they get better for you. Let me know how things turn out though please :):)
2007-05-08 13:49:25 · answer #2 · answered by Shut your mouth when u tlk to me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some of that money and find out for yourself. DO a background check see if the things he says (where he's from, how old he is, etc.) is true. Ask to meet some of his family. and last but not least tell him if he really cares about you, he needs to break up with the other woman. If he refuses, leaves his a*s in the past, b/c he's not going to be faithful.
Don't always beleive once a cheat always a cheat. True it does happen in some situations but if you sit and ask him how he feels about you and he truly sounds sincere, it's not just you wanting him to be sincere, then his feelings for you are probably real. Be safe and take care.
2007-05-08 13:42:08 · answer #3 · answered by bre714 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to determine the following:
1. Are the two of you going to get married?
2. Will you keep the child?
3. Does this man have the integrity you expect from a life-long mate?
4. If you determine this relationship has no future, do you have the wherewithal to end it?
5. What lesson have you learned from this affair?
2007-05-08 13:41:23 · answer #4 · answered by jackbutler5555 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shake yourself and get up you don't need him. If he had a girl for that long and never said anything he would only do the same thing to you. If you were the woman. Move on and find your own man one that will love you and take care of you.
2007-05-08 13:38:30 · answer #5 · answered by ladydivam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it up! Now! Nothing good will come of this one. oh, and see a lawyer about child support. You've found yourself a two-timing (or three-timing) guy who loves to play, doesn't believe in commitment, and he is going to be the father to your baby? And perhaps you will have a girl and can tell her that this is the kind of guy you want her to hang around with?
2007-05-08 13:37:21 · answer #6 · answered by John B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he know that you are carrying his child? If so, does he want to be a husband to you and a father to your child?
If he really cares, he will dump his girlfriend and devote his life to you, however, the hurt he has inflicted may be irreparable. In that case, tell him that his name will be on the birth certificate of the child and he will liable for child support until the child is 18.
2007-05-08 13:46:56 · answer #7 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to straighten up . You are pregnant with his child. sorry for the girlfriend , but he has to make a grown up decision . It is a tough place to be . Try to read as much as you can in the statistics of relationships lasting when they have started in infidelity . Choose what's best for you , don't wait until he decides what is going to happen with your life.
2007-05-08 13:38:31 · answer #8 · answered by Georgie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once the kid is born get a paternity test and file for child support. Allow him to see the kid but have no other contact with him unless he breaks up with the other woman and gives you a commitment
2007-05-08 13:38:38 · answer #9 · answered by glbenner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His girlfriend might not even exist and he's using that as an excuse to keep you - and that poor baby - at a distance.
Have the baby, go to court for support, and avoid this manipulative loser.
2007-05-08 13:37:38 · answer #10 · answered by Moxie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu asked this earlier today...and plenty of people here slammed you for even getting involved with someone this way. What makes you think asking this again is going to give you anything different?
2007-05-08 13:37:34 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋