When I was younger, I used to get beat up a lot by my older brother who is a few years older than me. I got socked hard (with a closed fist), kicked hard, hair pulled hard, plenty of verbal put downs, and even had a fairly heavy metal object thrown at and hit me in the head once. I got bad things blown into my eyes, tripped, laughed at... He would lead lots of kids in school to tease and make fun of me. He would get really angry and punch holes in the wall. No permanent physical damage, but I think that there was some emotionally at least.
I know that people claim abuse by adults, but is this "abuse" by a minor? People who knew him them (he's nicer now) seem to brush it off as "boys will be boys." Was I "abused" or did I just get the bad end of my brother's anger?
2007-05-08 06:31:33 · 12 answers · asked by She Ra Gurl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would say you were neglected by your parents who didn't stop this behavior. There is no reason for boys to be this physical with each other. Wrestling, yes. That is normal. Hitting, punching, throwing objects is not normal. But I would definitely have to say it is your parents' fault for not correcting this behavior and punishing your brother for these atrocities.
2007-05-08 06:47:02 · answer #1 · answered by aziahh30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had an older brother who abused me from the time I was 3 years old. He hit, punched, kicked, yelled, screamed, destroyed my things and generally left me feeling powerless and useless. He told me that he wanted to kill me, but didn't want to go to jail. I am 46 years old now and have had to have a lot of counseling to deal with the incredible hurt from the past abuse. It sounds to me like you were abused my friend. If you are suffering from the effects of it, no matter how long ago it happened, please get some help. I am finding incredible peace and purpose now, but it didn't happen until I faced the truth about what happened to me. If you think you were abused, you probably were. If a person outside your family treated you the way your brother did, it would probably be called assault. I wish you all the best.
2007-05-11 11:17:30 · answer #2 · answered by Cindy Lou Who 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is definitely abuse. I mean, there is always going to be sibling rivalries. I used to wrestle with my brother and sister and of course you were going to be picked up sometimes, but what you suffered was abuse. Throwing closed fists, hit by a metal object, and teased at school. The fact he punched holes in walls, shows he has anger issues. You were abused by your brother. Hopefully he has truly mellowed out.
2007-05-08 06:46:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 02:53:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a typical case of jealousy from the older sibling.yes it didnt end up with him being so angry with you he abused you.you parents should have taken care of that situation better.he was probably very jealous of you.he was the only child who got all the attention and then you came along and he didnt get the same attention probably.have you talked to your brother about this? you should.because if you do you both might be able to talk about the problem and feel better about it afterwords. good luck
2007-05-08 06:49:50 · answer #5 · answered by pippy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were abused. Your paretns didnt anything about and knew then they could be in trouble of abuse aas well. But whats in the past is the past, unless it still happenin or just recently then it needs to end
2007-05-08 06:36:31 · answer #6 · answered by Blax 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must have been more smarter, better liked by people than him. My elder brother used to do this for me. He used to urinate in his bed sheet and change my sheet while I was sleeping and people used to think that I urinated. At least your brother is changed, mine is not. I dont even acknowledge him.
2007-05-08 06:39:27 · answer #7 · answered by mamakumar 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion, you were abused......how horrible......what did your parents do.....why didn't they stop him........I have an older brother......and sister.......to me, normal fighting is pushing and maybe a slap or two, but I was never punched, kicked or had something blown into my eyes........I'd talk to him.......let him know it bothers you.....do it for you......not him......
hug to you :)
2007-05-08 06:39:55 · answer #8 · answered by nemofish 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it was out right abuse by the sounds of it. didnt you ever tell your parents about it? my brother was the sameway, and we found out it was drugs. he needed help then, he may still need help.
2007-05-08 06:37:52 · answer #9 · answered by NONAME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's abuse.
Where were you parents? They should have protected you from this treatment.
2007-05-08 06:36:20 · answer #10 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋