i'm new at my job, so here comes this guy (pretty handsome) who stops by for some small talk, we find out we speak the same second language so there's a bit of commonplace. Anyhow, one day he comes over and whilst were having what i thought was a 'normal' conversation he tells me he has a girlfriend, might have kids, not sure he wants to get married b/c he doesn't think its in mans nature to be with one person. (Ok, now i know thats out of place but when its a gorgeous hunk telling u this u forget you're at work and start spewing advice) anyway, i'm married so i tell him not to get married until he's sure,he also asked my age!, i don't think i was flirting b/c i maintained my 'professional' voice and serious expression. When he came back from vacation, he stopped by my desk and asked if i missed him? then said he was just kidding. Am I giving him the wrong impression? Sure i think he's attractive,maybe my friendliness was mistaken for something else. Now he stops talking to me?
2007-05-08 06:29:55 · 10 answers · asked by Angie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He was testing the waters.
Clearly he was setting up a scenario where you had the opportunity to take things further. You didn't need to encourage him, he probably does it with any woman who is friendly to him.
Since you didn't make any overtures he has backed off for now. He was only really interested in you if there was a chance of getting you into bed. If you do hint at sex or flirt he will be back in the blink of an eye.
2007-05-08 06:41:09 · answer #1 · answered by Ratsoo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"Did you miss me?" seems to me a common phrase between friends. However, his willingness to discuss his sex life with you is totally inappropriate and frankly, none of your business or concern. Very good friends might eventually seek out such advice but casual co-workers doing so is considered 'sexual harassment in the workplace' in my country. It's up to you whether you continue speaking with him, but let him know there are certain boundaries you will not cross. If he's stopped talking to you, he's already found another woman to try his moves on...count your blessings. Decide whether or not you need to address the situation with your superiors..he might be a far bigger problem than you imagine.
2007-05-08 13:42:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He stopped talking to you? Oh well, even better! Dont go and ask him why he stopped. He'll think you care too much. Just forget the other conversations and move on. Be proffesional and thats it. Treat him no differently that any other ugly guy in your workplace. Him not talking to you is a good thing. trust me.
2007-05-08 13:38:55 · answer #3 · answered by Naomi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He knows that you are attractive to him. some men just flirt. But if he already told you that he don't want to marry because he thinks it is not part of a man nature, to me that is saying that he might be a cheater. He just wants to use women. And if you are married than the only man you need to be worried about is your husband!!!
2007-05-08 13:56:13 · answer #4 · answered by Ash Kat 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's better if you don't talk to a man like that. Eventually he will try to make a move on you and you don't want to jeopardize your marriage for a guy like that. Just keep your relationship with him strictly professional (which sounds like you're doing anyway) and if he continues to makes comments like "did you miss me" then tell him he is crossing the line and shouldn't be talking to you like that.
2007-05-08 13:37:06 · answer #5 · answered by #1 Lucy Fan 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are doing something wrong because he's a little too comfortable with you. He has crossed the line. He told you the things he told you to see if you would bite the bait! DON'T. Say something to him now before the situation get out of hands.
2007-05-08 13:42:10 · answer #6 · answered by Truth Hurts 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its vary hard at times to tell the difference between flirting and just normal talking, if your at work i would suggest keeping it on a professional base's
its so easy to get caught up in something you never meant to happen
2007-05-08 13:37:33 · answer #7 · answered by bluelitttt 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is flirting and coming on to you and saying he thinks it's okay to be sexually active with more than one woman/person at a time ... spells trouble any way you look at it.
2007-05-08 13:36:45 · answer #8 · answered by John B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you have boobs and a vag.? If so he is flirting. He is testing to see if he can get you into bed with no strings.
2007-05-08 13:36:54 · answer #9 · answered by db14 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget that guy. He is a player and was feeling you out.
2007-05-08 13:39:26 · answer #10 · answered by Wondrin Dude 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋