He just moved to atlanta for a job promotion and now I'm pregnant. im lost... help...
the guy and I have been dating for 10 months and 5 months later he tells me about his girlfriend who lives over 700 miles away from him. He tell me cares and he doesnt want to hurt me and gives $ and all kinds of things. But i dont know how true this is.
2007-05-08 06:27:17 · 22 answers · asked by ms.mcla 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wow...Guess it depends on what you want.
If you, like most women, believe in the myths of God and male monogamy, then forget about him and find a nice christian boy...
If you are a realist, then be upset that he didn't mention he already had a "first wife." If you still love him, give him a chance to make amends and tell him you're fine with sharing him as long as his other girlfriend knows.
It is man's nature to love more than one woman, and woman's nature to give all of herself to one man, it is the indisputable legacy of our genetics, and anyone who tells you otherwise is selling something...
2007-05-08 06:38:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether it's true or not it's a sign he's a jerk. If it is true, what about the other woman? Her boyfriend lives 700 miles away. She trusts him. Now she gets to find out what a jerk he's been and that he impregnated you. It's not your fault he's a liar but it is your fault you let yourself get pregnant when there's 784646184 forms of birth control out there. And if you think being pregnant is gonna land him, think again. Guys like him run like crazy from responsibility. You're gonna be a single mom and hopefully someday some nice guy out there will love you and help you raise your child. Good luck to you.
2007-05-08 13:48:44 · answer #2 · answered by Angel of Light 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I'd let him go. I know it will probably be hard but I wouldn't have anything else to do with him, other than some support for the baby. I believe if he really felt the same he wouldn't be telling you about a girlfriend who lives 700 miles away. Sound to me like he's not ready for commitment. It's nice that he give you things but theirs more to life that just material things. Whatever you chose to do I wish you luck and one day that someone special will come along.
2007-05-08 13:50:33 · answer #3 · answered by rock of ages 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever hear of birth control? Those who play with fire get burned. You made too many mistakes and now you're paying for them. Make sure he lives up to his responsibilities and then dump him as fast as you can. This is a no win situation. Next time, be more careful with your sexual partners or it could be worse than being pregnant. Sorry for sounding cruel, but life has a habit of smacking you in the face when you tempt fate.
2007-05-08 13:35:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he truly wanted to be with you he would have either stayed with you or made arrangements for you to be with him, especially now that you are expecting his baby. Clearly he wants to be with his other woman and he did not even have the guts to tell you about her earlier. I would say go on and raise your baby yourself, but make sure he pays you child support. Eventually you will find someone who will love you and your baby and you will make a happy family. Good luck!
2007-05-08 13:33:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh man, u are in some deep W0W!!
well to be honest with u there is nothing u can do.. he played with fired and u got burned.. if now u pregnant then that baby need you more than anything and no dumb *** man is going to prevent u from that... u cannot fall to be the second one in the drama.. after all u will have to decide what u really want..
2007-05-08 13:42:23 · answer #6 · answered by [[Simply*Genuine]] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wants his cake and to eat it too. He obviously doesn't have any intention of marrying you. There must be something about him that you just don't find trustworthy. So how long is he going to be willing to support you?
You should demand a legal contract that obligates him to pay child support for your child.
2007-05-08 13:33:50 · answer #7 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a dirt bag. He should have told you up front he had a girlfriend. This sounds to me like someone you dont want to be involved with. Get him in court for money then let him go.
2007-05-08 13:35:11 · answer #8 · answered by Mr nice guy 2U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your keeping the baby, file for child support and move on. It doesnt matter if he was lying or telling the truth..your still pregnant and he is still gone.
2007-05-08 13:34:23 · answer #9 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Has he left this woman yet? if he has not told that other woman he has found someone else then get rid of him.dont let him play you like that.if he really,really cared about you and loved you then he would not want to be with anyone else. be careful,dont let yourself get hurt. good luck
2007-05-08 13:38:11 · answer #10 · answered by pippy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋