what are the common signs of emtional abuse?

Question

Some people will tell you they are merely teaching you a lesson. They think you should automatically know what they want. How can I know if they are manipulating because they are right about some of the things they sayand yet something feels wrong about it.

Answer 1

emotional bruising...

Answer 2

Teaching you a lesson?mmmm ,when did this person become some type of dictator that goes around teaching people lessons?Unless this person is a proffessor or teacher,and you are a student in the class,that is where lessons are taught.Otherwise we learn our own lessons.I was once in a very abusive(mentally) relationship along time ago.This guy(who is the father of my child) had me so brainwashed,and isolated that I started to believe what he was forever telling me.That my whole family hated me,that I was all he had and I better shape up or get the F**k out,becasue he was all I had left,no one else wanted me,no one else loved me,I was a; piece of S**t!!!! When all is said and done he truly did teach me a lesson,a lesson on humanity,that no-one will ever break my spirit.and I became a much stronger person in the end,a little jaded,but only when I think of him,he gave me the biggest gift of my life and that was my son.......he was a sperm donor,he is not a"Father" to my son,nor does he wish to be.....I am accepting of that,and have handled this situation with my son with a great deal of etiquette,and compassion.When you have to question someones integrity,and or their behaviour as to whether it is abusive,verbally,mentally,and or physically,being told everything is all your fault the person is behaving this way,you are in an abusive situation,and should not be doubting your actions and or think your the cause behind this behaviour,please do not let someone drag your self esteem through the mud,thinking if you just watch your p's and q's everything is going to be OK, because I'm sorry to say this behaviour only escalates,and takes along time to recover from........(mental and verbal abuse stays with you for a life time) Know that you are better then the way you are being treated.and you owe it to yourself,not to allow this to continue.

Answer 3

If they think that you should automatically know what they want...sign #1. If you feel that something is wrong about the things they are saying...sign #2. Most of the time, your gonna be right. Some other things an emotional abuser might do is call you names, yell, cuss at you, blame you for things you KNOW you did nothing wrong for, etc. If they are hurting your feelings and making you feel bad, it's emotional abuse. Whether it's minor emotional abuse, or major emotional abuse....ITS EMOTIONAL ABUSE. It is never your fault and you do NOTHING to deserve it.

Answer 4

You may be in an abusive relationship if he or she:
Is jealous or possessive toward you.
(Jealousy is the primary symptom of abusive relationships; it is also a core component of Sexual Addictions and Love Addiction.)
Tries to control you by being very bossy or demanding.
Tries to isolate you by demanding you cut off social contacts and friendships.
Is violent and / or loses his or her temper quickly.
Pressures you sexually, demands sexual activities you are not comfortable with.
Abuses drugs or alcohol.
Claims you are responsible for his or her emotional state. (This is a core diagnostic criteria for Codependency.)
Blames you when he or she mistreats you.
Has a history of bad relationships.
Your family and friends have warned you about the person or told you that they are concerned for your safety or emotional well being.
You frequently worry about how he or she will react to things you say or do.
Makes "jokes" that shame, humiliate, demean or embarrass you, weather privately or around family and friends.
Your partner grew up witnessing an abusive parental relationship, and/or was abused as a child.
Your partner "rages" when they feel hurt, shame, fear or loss of control.
bullet Both parties in abusive relationships may develop or progress in drug or alcohol dependence in a (dysfunctional) attempt to cope with the pain.
You leave and then return to your partner repeatedly, against the advice of your friends, family and loved ones.
You have trouble ending the relationship, even though you know inside it's the right thing to do.

Does the person you love...

• constantly keep track of your time?

• act jealous and possessive?

• accuse you of being unfaithful or flirting?

• discourage your relationships with friends and family?

• prevent or discourage you from working, interacting with friends or attending school?

• constantly criticize or belittle you?

• control all finances and force you to account for what you spend? (Reasonable cooperative budgeting excepted.)

• humiliate you in front of others? (Including "jokes" at your expense.)

• destroy or take your personal property or sentimental items?

• have affairs?

• threaten to hurt you, your children or pets? Threaten to use a weapon?

• push, hit, slap, punch, kick, or bite you or your children?

• force you to have sex against your will, or demand sexual acts you are uncomfortable with?

There is alot more info than this to be found at : http://www.recovery-man.com/abusive/abusive_signs.htm
and after looking over this list, and comparing what you have said about it so far, I would say that it sounds as though you are involved with an abuser.... good luck....

Answer 5

Talk to a professional. There are way to many crackpots online.