You have been married for 2 years and lived together for a year before that. He has never brought home any income. I have finally talked him into seling his business. He is merging with another company. I am barely paying the bills, the house payment is a month behind. He received a commission off of a sale the other day and put it away in the business account just in case some bills came in that he would have to pay. Would you be angry if he didn't give you the money? You are supporting him? I have two children. I also found out he has about $10,000 in credit card debt that he has been using to try to keep the buisiness above water.
2007-05-08 06:04:25 · 11 answers · asked by browneyedgirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I made an appointment to see a lawyer next week to draw up a separation agreement. I gave him an ultimatum last year and I have finally had it. He says he has been trying for the past year to make money but I am sooo tired of the excuses....
2007-05-08 06:32:47 · update #1
Go through with the attorney - IF you give him another chance then he should consider himself LUCKY. However, the attorney at this juncture is the best and safest move for you and the little ones. Yours and the kids protection over rides his inability or laziness at getting a job - PROTECT your self.
Best of luck to you!
2007-05-08 07:27:45 · answer #1 · answered by Gerry 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should be very upset. He knew coming into the marriage that it is two people together, not just one. He has to help with the household instead of just the business. It sounds as if his business isn't doing that well right now, that has to be taken into consideration but also you have to live. If he is losing with the business, then he needs to find something else. You need to talk to him and try to get him to understand this isn't nagging on your part, but it is called life. Supporting your family. Your married, but still living a single life,per say, since your the only one putting into the family bills.
2007-05-08 13:17:19 · answer #2 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes!!! It seems like the business comes first before you and the kids. He needs to get his priorities in order. He should be taking a job that gives a steady paycheck so he can be a better provider for you and your children. It seems like his interests come first. Your probably doing the right thing.
2007-05-08 14:16:55 · answer #3 · answered by 24Special 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is a loser. he's freeloading off you. Your letting him escape his responsibilities. What is going on in the world today...men are getting lazier and lazier and the women are letting it happen. Instead of having an equal partnership women are content with paying for everything because they think it's what their supposed to do because they are sucessful or whatever. Make him pay bills or kick his *** out!!
2007-05-08 13:14:52 · answer #4 · answered by Steven's Mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, you should be!
But, the other hand? are you angry @?
You teach people, through your tolerance level, how you want be treated. Nip it in the butt. Then there is the issue of him not being ,completely, honest w/ you. Explain that this is a team, that you have always been there for him, but don't feel the same when you are in need of someone to lean on.
2007-05-08 13:44:29 · answer #5 · answered by NewMe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is based on two people.....I would be angry if my husband is not financially helping out and has a business......Nowadays, you usually need two incomes to run a household....If your going to do everything, you might as well be by yourself...You shouldn't have to be dealing and going through this alone.....You need to be honest with him and let him know how you feel and what it is exactly that you need from him......Best of Luck***..
2007-05-08 13:19:49 · answer #6 · answered by Yvette D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you attracted to this moocher?
Oh, I bet there is an account somewhere that you don't know about. No income in three years? Something is very wrong with this picture !!! Don't let it stretch to four.
2007-05-08 13:19:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would be furious, Brown Eyed Girl, and such selfish inconsideration might very well be enough to end the marriage. I am sorry this has happened to you!
2007-05-08 13:17:20 · answer #8 · answered by John Timothy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my man aint got no real job, he couldn't pay for a ****** pregnancy test and wants free pussy and my baby? hell no! tell him to get the hell up and pay something or get out! i am just real done with my man. i gave him an ultimatum already.
2007-05-08 13:29:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be really upset...I would kick him out and get a man that will at least work and help support the family...
2007-05-08 13:12:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋