It seems that many men prefer the $$ to having the children and home well cared for by the mother and many working women despise those who do not work.
2007-05-08 05:55:23 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
They are not valued because those that do not stay at home, don't understand just how difficult being a stay at home mom (or dad) is. Contrary to popular belief, we don't sit at home and eat bon-bons all day (at least I don't). My day begins at 4am when my husband gets up for work, and it doesn't end until everything is done and everyone is asleep. Which generally means I'm up all night because my youngest has night terrors, and he wakes up over and over again crying & screaming. So in all honesty I sleep on average 3 - 4 hours a night.
Yes, I'm a stay at home mom. It's a decision that me and my husband made together. The main reason we chose this for our family is that we didn't want someone else raising our children. By that I mean we didn't want someone else's influences overiding what we think, believe and want to teach our children (especially during those formative years). We ran into this problem with our oldest. We both had demanding jobs, and by the time one of us picked our son up from daycare and made it home, there was only enough time left in the day to have dinner and put him to sleep. So of course the daycare provider was spending more quality time with him. I have a lot of friends who ran into the same problem. One of my friends sons started calling the daycare provider mommy. Because of all of this, when we decided to have more children we had already agreed that there was no amount of money that could replace the time spent with our children.
My husband makes decent money. I'm sure he'd love the security of having that extra cushion from when I was working too, but the reality is that for us the money wasn't as important. He loves the fact that our home and our children are well cared for, and he's more comfortable with the fact that I'm the one spending the day with them instead of a non-family member.
Once the kids are school age I'll go back to working outside the house, but for now this is what works for us.
And by the way, we are contributing to the world - by raising intelligent, educated, well behaved, well adjusted little people. No other job on this planet is more important.
2007-05-08 08:47:17 · answer #1 · answered by A_Gentle Breeze 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In today's society most men don't have great jobs to be able to support their families without the wife working and that's why women don't stay home as much anymore. The reason why women hate the ones who do stay home is because their jealous and wish they could stay home. Bottom line is life is expensive and the men just aren't cutting it these days.
2007-05-08 13:00:14 · answer #2 · answered by Steven's Mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a stay at home Mom I have taken insults of not working or having a job. I may not earn a paycheck, but my reward is seeing my children well cared for and happy. My husband appreciates a clean, well run home and the home cooked meals. I have yet to have a day were I do nothing....there is always dishes, laundry, vacuuming, gardening, games and crafts with the kids, meals to cook, errands to run and then contend with all the extras people try to put on me because I do not "WORK". Thanks for the vent I needed that....
2007-05-08 13:35:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think stay-at-home moms are valued. However, there will always be questions among women regarding which option is best. The stay-at-home mom is likely to feel undervalued because she doesn't have a paycheck as proof of her hardwork. The working mom will feel undervalued and/or guilty because there is the implication that she somehow neglects her children.
My opinion? Let your kids know they are loved and ignore other peoples comments about your choices.
2007-05-08 13:00:43 · answer #4 · answered by sci55 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay-at-home mom’s work worth $138,095
Annual amount she’d earn as a housekeeper, cook and psychologist....The 10 jobs listed as comprising a mother’s work were housekeeper, cook, day care center teacher, laundry machine operator, van driver, facilities manager, janitor, computer operator, chief executive officer and psychologist. The typical mother puts in a 92-hour work week, it said, working 40 hours at base pay and 52 hours overtime.
2007-05-08 13:18:13 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well i personally would never want to be a stay at home mom. i do know that their job can be challenging but still i feel there are so much better things to do in the world then just sit at home and watch your kids. Now if you are a stay at home mom who is also an activist or doing some non profit work thats cool but i think its just a lil selfish to jus stay at home and have your life revolve around the home. i know not all stay at home moms are gold diggers but some are and i think they just arent really contributing to the world by staying at home unless like i said they get out of the house but just dont have a paying job. i dont despise stay at home moms... i just think they wasted time in school b/c they are never going to use their brains.
2007-05-08 14:53:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
As far as women go, I think its more jealousy from working women with kids who dont have the OPTION to be stay at home moms.
2007-05-08 13:06:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once the kids are in school, being a stay at home mom is the best deal on the planet... I took about a year off between jobs and got to see what a cushy, easy life it is, and yet all the stay at home moms (ones with weekly cleaning services, yard services, etc.) still find plenty to complain about, and plenty of excuses why they don't have time to go to the gym or look nice or do more to make their husbands lives easy without b!itching about every little thing....
2007-05-08 13:08:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋