My husband and I recently separated for a week due to the fact that he had a horrible temper and would act completely crazy. We are now back together and he has totally changed in the other direction. He follows me everywhere I go. If I go to the restroom he comes in there, if I go outside he goes, if I go to change he goes... He checks my phone for number to see who I talk to. He goes through my school notes to see what I write. If I take a day off of work then he has to take it off also. He is so worried about me talking to my ex-boyfriend, it's so ridiculous.... I just want to pack up my son's things and mine and run away. I really do not like him anymore. He is like the annoying person at work who always is around but you really want them to leave. What do I do?
2007-05-08 05:38:40 · 10 answers · asked by ???EM???? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have told him how much this bothers me but he still continues to do it.
2007-05-08 05:58:53 · update #1
, sounds like you never really wanted him around in the 1st place, now your trying to find any excuse to justify leaving him.... Just leave him, Im sure you like someone else anyway.... He deserves better.
2007-05-08 05:53:51 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. November 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You don't really have to leave him because of his insecurity. He is afraid that you don't love him. He is afraid that you find someone else. If you take a day off from work, he took his too to either watch over you or spend time with you. He doesn't know how to act which might annoy you so tell him how to act. Talk to him in a calm way off course. Just tell him that don't worry, you are not having anyone. You should consider yourself better than someone who has a husband that beat them up or a husband that you have to check on all the time to see if they are cheating on you.
2007-05-08 05:58:44 · answer #2 · answered by brain beauty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being separated for a week really isn't much of a separation, and with all the snooping and following that is happening, it sounds like the guy is totally losing control.
He needs some professional intervention, maybe even meds to get him on an even keel.
But it sounds like the guy is starting to become obsessed with you and is starting to create a hazardous relationship with you.
2007-05-08 05:50:39 · answer #3 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know what that feels like (especially of you're not doing anything). Try talking to him before you run away. Let him know how annoying it is. Tell him it's pushing you away. He'll probably back off a little bit.
2007-05-08 05:44:44 · answer #4 · answered by Truth Hurts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww poor thing, he is worried because he thinks you will leave him because you separated. He really loves you, tell him that he does not have to worry and just has to improve his temper.
2007-05-08 05:54:52 · answer #5 · answered by Black 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL...sounds like he is scared of you leaving him again..Right now he is hurting...and the only way he knows how to make himself feel better is to be with you at all times and know everything your doing..try talking to him..
2007-05-08 05:47:57 · answer #6 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Doesn`t sound like either of you are happy, and he obviously doesn`t trust you. Do yourselves a favor and leave. Neither of you deserve this.
2007-05-08 06:02:44 · answer #7 · answered by MISTY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to him how you feel. There has to be a reason he is so insecure. Remind him that he is the only one for you but his behavior is driving you insane.
2007-05-08 05:44:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you shouldn't be married to this man...
2007-05-08 05:48:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
So he changed to please you, is trying to please you, to make sure everything in your relationship is OK (making sure you are not having to turn to someone else) and you are still not pleased.
I'm sure you will make a wonderful wife.
2007-05-08 05:51:05 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋