Would it be better to just date and go steady?

Question

MOst of the relationship problems continue because it is so hard to get out when things go sour. Would we work harder on relationships if you were not so bound? Would we be happier if your options were more choice than tied down?

The majority identifies with statements like;
Nothing kills a love life faster than I DO,

There are things that a mate will never tell you. Some of those things are related to life just not as good with you as they wished.

So what is your take? Would relationships be better if you had to work harder to keep them instead of, I already got them through I DO now I dont have to try as hard anymore?

Answer 1

They would work if people would accept that relationships only go south when both individuals stop growing together. Also marriage shouldn't be the soly purpose of a relationship, nor should family, and espacially not just religion.They should all be satisfied by the very act of tring to be the best person you can be, and doing what is best to create long lasting deep geniune relationships in your life. If we get tied down by these espectations then well find it hard not to fail. Also we have as a society a very, very unhealth view of what a couple relationship should be. We actual encourge individuals to get together not based on any sort of friendship, but on a sexual attraction. Then we expect it to become a friendship? Yea right.... also we have an unhealthy view of the differences between the sexes. THis wonderful misinformed perception dectates that males and females can never understand each other, BS!!!! Also on top of all this mess we have an unhealthy view of sexuality, that we can actually have sex and not feel anything, can you say huh? We can't watch a tv show and not feel something.... ether way you have an interesting idea because by the sack of a real healthy relationship you would choice to be together weather you were married or not. The fact that we actual think that we can find more comfort being married, then not being married to people we love, shows an unhealthy view of our relationships with our lovers. The fact that at the deepest level we don't trust them unless they are married to us, isn't that just setting up to fail? I would rather marry someone just because, not because I need to, to trust them, but because I love them that much....