Why are "SOME" black girls haters?

Question

I am a 22 black female. I cannot seem to keep some black girls as my friends because they are either scandolous and trying to take what you got, haters because they want to be you, or just straight up trifilin! They always spread rumors about each other, and then the minute you want to back your sh!t up they want to get up all in you face. I am a light skinned female and I am not ugly I am proud of myself, and b!tches hate on me because I am light skinned. The other day at work I had a nice outfit on and when I came in one of the girls was like " Oh look at this girl, she trying to be cute" and I told her "Instead of hatin on me, why don't you just tell me my outfit looks good and keep it movin instead of hatin! I know all of them are not like this but the majority I have come across set off a bad name! What do I do?

Notice how I said "SOME" so please no nasty rude comments, because that will show you fall into the same category.

Answer 1

there like that in ever race it doesn't matter if you are white black blue purple. people have no morals or values these days

sounds like you need to work on better peer selection.
suro

Answer 2

We wouldn't fall into the same category if we tell you how we feel. It's called an "Opinion". It's funny that you just direct this towards black females in general just because their the ones you work with and have had this problem with. You should be directing this statement towards women of any color in general because everything that you have listed is done by women of any color and race. I have seen it many times, and I'm also a black woman. I don't think it has anything to do with you being lighter. I'm a lighter female also and women don't hate on you because your lighter than them. They hate because that's just how some people are. Darker skinned women get hated on all the time and it doesn't even have to be from a lighter skinned girl. It comes from other darker females. The same goes for anybody with any shade color. I think you took this way out of context. Your making this into more than what it really is. I can't tell you how many times someone would tell me "Oh she thinks she's cute" I just ignore it and keep on moving. I don't catch an attitude and tell someone they just need to tell me my outfit looks good and keep moving. Even if other women are hating let them hate then. I'd rather have someone saying something about me and paying some kind of attention then to not be noticed at all. Deal with this and get used to it because this is life and it's going to throw things like this your way all the time. As long as your human this is what to be expected. Don't make this into a light skinned, dark skinned thing because it's not. Women are women and no matter how light or dark their going to hate regardless. Take care!

Answer 3

I hesitate to answer this, because I am a white guy and I'm sure I'll get reported just for answering honestly, but I'll give it a shot anyway.
About 20 years ago, I dated a black girl for a few months. Her name was Karen and for a while, things were great. But after some time went by, this sort of anger came to the surface. I had no idea where it came from, it was just a general anger at the world. Many years later I dated another black girl named Paige and the SAME THING happened.
I don't know where it comes from, but a LOT of black women have this deep, hidden anger or rage in them. I thought for a long time it was something I did, but the older I got, and the more I observed, the less I thought that.
I asked a black woman about this once (she was an employee of mine some years ago) and she said its because of black males. I didn't ask why, I was afraid of the answer.

Answer 4

Honey I got news for you. Everybody gets hated on. Haters come in all colors. I get hated on for everything from being small to going to school and doing something with my life, besides sitting around on my a$$ all day. People say that I think "I'm all that" or that I think "I'm better than them." But I don't worry about it, I just take it as motivation and keep moving and doing my thing because I know that if somebody is hating then that must mean that I am doing something right. And don't be so quick to assume that everyone is hating on you because you are light-skinned. I believe that that is more in your head than anything. Females in general are indeed scandalous and they will find any reason to dislike you. I've had girls hate on me before because I had my nails done and they didn't. It's stupid, but very true.

Answer 5

Women can be very jealous of each other. Then you see the guile come out of the nasty ones. These gals are insecure and competitive. They are probably jealous of your light skin because it looks nice and it makes you move in the direction of the white female who tends to have nicer feminine and fairer characteristics. Many black females come from a culture that makes them nasty. Could be the home environment or the culture at large that works against them because they are black and they are women.

Your best bet is to just shrug them off and be bigger than them by not reacting. They sense that you have something that they do not and are envious. But just be yourself and let them be as they are. You can't change them.

Answer 6

What makes you think white females are any better? Let's face it young mixed sister women do sh*ty sh*t to each other period and color has nothing to do with it a lot of the time. Jealousy is jealousy and you need to find friends that are real and out for you and you need to be real and look out for them.

Bottom line: Some women no matter what color they are hate any woman with a chance at doing and getting better. This is a theme for some women.

Answer 7

im biracial & i go through the same thing!!!! even my little sister is going through it & shes 9!!!!!! we have really long, straight hair & sum girls in her class asked her if they could play in her hair & she said no. the little 9& 10 year old gilrs were threatning to jump her after school just cause she wouldnt let them touch her hair!!!! the jealousy starts very early, its a shame. dont pay attention to them b!tches!!!! keep goin in2 work dressed up & walk right past them b!tches make sure u smile & speak that will hav them pissed off!!!! lol its not just black girls i guess cause thats what ur exposed to thats how u see it. but ALL FEMALES are like that even the older ones!!!! when they stop talking about u then u got sumthing to worry about take it as a compliment that ur on their mind

Answer 8

The black men in California have that rep too. It's a derivative of the stereotype of Cali being shallow and materialistic. When applied to black people this means that they date white people for status and are perpetual social climbers. I don't believe that, but that's the image California blacks have to some people.

Answer 9

dont hate on them back i am black and thai and look asian and some of them dislike me but they are our sisters white girls deal with the same and even asian and latino girls too okay?

when i go to thailand there are thai girls jealous of other thai girls i am very small so i try not to fight but if i have to i will dispense the beatdown i havent had to do it since foster homes but sometimes they try me

and like last night i saw this thing and it was about how paris hilton and lindsey lohan are friends and then enemies and then friends again

these girls are just jealous ormad or something and you should ignore them and not to get in trouble and treat our black sisters nice just like you would our white,asian, or latino sisters

and when they are mean you should just ignore them and remember that you are better than that just like you ignore the rude comments on here

good luck sister

Answer 10

Here it is chic, let them HATE. I personally try not to worry about that type. They just don't need to be in your life. Sometimes you have to find a circle like YOU. I too have that problem but just overlook them BC, yes they are missing something out of their life and is trying to get it from the next person by knocking them down. I also feel black women are like that BC everything is a competition with us. Like you stated we can never allow someone to out due us, we must be the only one on top. Which is not true. Remember this Be bold in what you stand for and careful what you fall for, in everything you do acknowledged him and he will direct you path. Don't worry about those Chic's, that's what they want , someone to have them on their mind. Be Blessed

Answer 11

I just want to say, yes all women have been where you are. But Just because you are light skin don't mean you are pretty and just because you are dark skin don't mean you hate on the light skin girl. It's sad that slavery has ended over several years ago and the black race can't let go of certain things. That's why we really can't get ahead. because we worried about other people hating on us when in reality nobody really cares.