2007-05-08 04:57:39 · 18 answers · asked by Jojo D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
So many different reasons why someone might choose to leave..I think it depends on each individual situation. Sometimes men are assholes and leave because they are overwhelmed and dont want to take responsibility, sometimes the woman pushes away the man for whatever reason and then blames him the rest of her life. It just depends. if it is your father.. I would still try to seek him out and have some kind of relationship...if it is your kids' dad that walked out on you... I would try to be on the best terms I could for the sake of my kids( that it is if it is a safe situation). They have the right to know their father. And you have the right to live life without worry of any harm to you or your kids.
2007-05-08 05:05:55 · answer #1 · answered by greyskymourning82 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the situation how the relationship was broke up between mom and dad. Most fathers do care about their children after the relationship is dissolve with the mother. And there are some just let it be by gone since the mother will get the child when the relationship is over.
There are many of times when a relationship between parents breaks up. The mother will tell the father the kids are hers. Some mothers used the kids against the fathers to get what they want if they want to see his kids. You have some mothers is so dang angry at the kids dad, slowly she will poison their mind against him.
When the mother tell the father that the kids are her, he will agree and just leave without a third (not a second) thought about the kids. In some cases that the father only had kids because his wife wants them. Its easy for these kind of dads to walk away without any thoughts of the child well being.
I would be safe to said about 70% of the dads do care about their kids when the relationship between the mother has gone sour.
2007-05-08 05:54:52 · answer #2 · answered by Thomas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No of course not, a lot of the times it means that they don't know how to deal with the situations at home and they run. With a lot of people it is easier to run than to face the problems. Hopefully things will calm down enough to where they can at least plan on some sort of a visitation pattern for him to visit the children. There are some great outreach groups for children and adults for these situations in a lot of the schools and communities, you may want to look into this as assistance for your family. Best of luck to you. I am sorry that this is happening. ~Goddess Bless~
2007-05-08 05:18:49 · answer #3 · answered by Goddess Bless, Lisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. I wish I had a good answer to this one, as I dealt with it, myself. I don't understand how parents can leave their children and not look back. But I suspect that for most of them, they think they're not really important to the lives of their children, that they can disappear and not be missed. Maybe they think we don't need them. And for some of them, the abusive ones, the ones who lie and steal and do drugs, or who cheat and beat their families, they're right. We ARE better off without them, but we'll always mourn not having the kind of families we see on TV.
All I know for sure is that you never really get over it, the wondering why the left you and why they didn't care. I'm sorry about that. For all of us that it touches.
2007-05-08 05:07:51 · answer #4 · answered by Vix 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's better for a father to leave when things aren't going well because that spares everyone involve a little less heartache. At the time the children don't see that but they do later on in life. Those things usually get worse as time goes on. So by leaving I think the father is showing that he does indeed care for everyone involved.
2007-05-08 05:06:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
The mother of the baby being a b**** is a justification a lot of men use to get out of a resposibility they aren't mature enough to deal with. I honestly don't think these men understand what they are doing to their children. I think they are only thinking of themselves. I think most people would care if they knew the true emotional ramifications of their actions. My exhusband came back after 5 years and wanted to take responsibilty. That took a lot of guts, but unfortunatley most people don't have what it takes to walk back in when they realize their mistake.
2007-05-08 05:06:23 · answer #6 · answered by The Naughty Librarian 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That depends on what you mean by walk out..if you mean not paying support...not being part of their childrens lives...then yes they dont care. But if you mean they are in awful relationship, extremely unhappy, a house that is full of venom and hate. Pay their support, remain involved in their childrens lives, then no it doesnt mean they dont care
2007-05-08 05:07:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
When men do this they want to hurt you,but they don't know that they are hurting there children instead.Then as a man we will ask what the other guy is doing for you.Not knowing that we still have to take of our own children regardless what the other man is doing.That is very inmature on his part and his children will not forgive him for mistreating you and them.
2007-05-08 05:23:35 · answer #8 · answered by ramal_12000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it is the easiest thing to do, JoJo, and though they may not want to completely abandon the kids, they feel that they have to in order to get away from the woman. This is sad. But it is the reality.
2007-05-08 05:05:24 · answer #9 · answered by John Timothy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My profession allows me to see this all the time. half the time when i ask about the father, they are ALWAYS absent and dont support the mother and kids, dont even know where they are, dont know what they ate, how they did in school, see them laugh, know their best cartoon, their first bike, it's real sad!!!!
2007-05-08 05:10:33 · answer #10 · answered by reene2g 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋