Am I right in thinking that my husband is a dick?! He completely forgot my birthday! we're been together for over 7 years! And he nevere even said happy birthday to me! I find it a bit insulting... but I was told that I shouldn't get mad.. or upset with him... that he might have alot on his mind.... STILL!!
2007-05-08 04:43:47 · 29 answers · asked by Nicole 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sorry, I always try to suggest solutions, but he is a jerk. Somethings are just a matter of respect and consideration. I would punish him for a while then forgive him. He owes you a BIG gift and a lot of apologies!
Happy Birthday - belated!
2007-05-08 04:51:15 · answer #1 · answered by Christina 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok I can see how that would make you mad...but I am a woman and I still forget things because I am so busy with work and kids...I'll even forget my own birthday. If it wasn't for my kids saying "Mommy your birthday is coming up" I would truely let it pass by. Instead of getting mad tell him since he forgot your birthday that he has to get you something extraordinay to make up for his forgetting. Get a really good gift and joke it off and tell him if you forget his birthday that you will get him something very special as well. It's not the fact that he actually forgot your birthday as much as it is that you are thinking..."IF HE CARED ABOUT ME he would have remembered it". So it is your doubt of his feeling for you that is actually bothering you. Many times if we can think of what the real issue is we would not get so angry at the surface issue. If he had come to you and said with a dry tone "Happy Birthday" and no gift, you would still be upset saying he just gave me this little stinky kiss on the cheek and said with a dry tone "happy birthday". So it would not be the fact that he forgot if he had remembered and did it that way. Understand?
Next year to avoid all of this just tell him the day before, "Hey tomorrow is my birthday", and the night of remind him again and say "Remember tomorrow is my birthday" Then if he still forgets...then you can get mad because it shows that he really does not care enough about you (not so much as to remember your birthday) but to not care enough to do anything about it.
2007-05-08 12:02:55 · answer #2 · answered by kristin747 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have a right to be upset. But.... maybe he has something planned for you and wants you to think he forgot. Does he make it a habit to forget other special occasion (which is my husband)? But then he may have forgot. If he doesn't wish you a happy birthday or do anything special for you then wait until tomorrow morning and say "honey, did you forget yesterday was my birthday?" Guilt works wonders specially if you don't make a big deal out of it.
2007-05-08 11:57:54 · answer #3 · answered by lamd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of what he has on his mind that is one thing as a husband we should never forget. While it may not have been intentional, it is still bad. If I forgot my wife's birthday I would definitely understand her being upset. I'd pay for it for a long time but would accept it. I think that you have every right to be upset.
2007-05-08 12:01:58 · answer #4 · answered by sportsfanstl1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Crap happens. Everyone makes a mistake. He made a mistake in forgetting your birthday. I forgot my dad's birthday once. It doesn't mean I don't love him, it just means I had a lot going on and forgot. I have a hard time remembering my husband's birthday and it is in the same month as mine.
I think you should tell him that it hurt your feelings, made you feel taken for granted or however else it made you feel.
I don't think you should hold this against him forever because no one is perfect and everyone makes a mistake every once in a while.
As far as crappy things that one spouse can do to the other this is pretty low on the list... it could be far worse.
2007-05-08 11:52:08 · answer #5 · answered by jennypoo803 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My husband is a peckerhead, he's always on the go.
For get's my birthday every year, why I do not know.
It's a wonder he remember to get up out of bed.
He's all way's in a muddle, it's something to do with his head.
I try to remind him to put his trusers on, its a total imbarresment the silly little sod.
I wonder if he'll ever remember our wedding aneversery,
perhaps it's the seven year itch, and scrach it he expects me.
He came in the other day as hungery as a hog, is my dinner in the oven dear, NO it's in the bloody DOG.
2007-05-08 11:57:29 · answer #6 · answered by coofooman 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dear my husband forgot HIS birthday. Men have alot on their mind and it does get in the way. So your choices are either Forgive him and ask him if he'd be willing to make it up to you with a dinner out or you can remain angry and let it eat at you do damage to you marriage. Its your choice.
2007-05-08 11:53:39 · answer #7 · answered by wicked wench 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that decision is up to you, why? Because only you know how much stress he could be under, if he is bogged down with mucho stuff then you should cut him some slack but if he isnt, then you should chew him out. And you should also drop hints weeks before just as reminders, sometimes guys need the extra support from the spouse.
2007-05-08 11:52:37 · answer #8 · answered by chase.casey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be upset, too! I would just talk to him and tell him how much it hurt me that he forgot my birthday. Maybe he will feel really bad and want to make it up to you somehow. It's possible that he does have a lot on his mind, but he needs to be reminded that those little things DO matter. Don't just walk around bitter and pouting, let him know how you feel without calling names or yelling if possible. : ) Good luck!
2007-05-08 11:50:55 · answer #9 · answered by Melody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the opposite thing happen. My wife of 18 years decided to throw a big surprize party for my 40th. Yeah, I was surprized...when she had it a solid month before May 23rd.
I'd say the closest thing I've done along those lines was thinking that last year was our 15 year anniversary when it was, in fact, our 17th. At least I remembered the day, though.
2007-05-08 11:50:50 · answer #10 · answered by Dave R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋