I feel we are not made for each other. I recently went back with him, about 2 months, but I truly realize we're not going in the same direction. We have no common dreams or even future plans. I don't want to hurt him too much. It's just that when we break up he starts crying and gets all depressed.
2007-05-08 04:36:51 · 19 answers · asked by Playera 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow i didnt realize how many people go through the same things as me when it comes to relationships.
I think you should just suck it up when you tell him and you see his tears stream down. If you don't you will be the one crying and being all depressed if you stay with him because you don't want to hurt him.
Just because you do it, doesnt mean you don't still love him...its a thing you call tough love. Sometimes it is just not the right timing for a relationship like this.
I wish you well doll.
2007-05-08 05:09:52 · answer #1 · answered by Mandi R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should tell him the same way that you told us.
"I dont' think that we are going in the same direction. I don't think that we are made for each other, we don't have any common dreams and we have no future plans together. I didn't want to hurt you, but I feel like this is best for both of us. I realize that you are going to be hurt by this, but I think in the future we will both look back on this and see that we made the right descision to end things. I still care about you and it has nothing to do with you as a person, we just aren't compatable and aren't meant to be together. I know that there is someone out there who will love you unconditionally exactly the way that you are, and who you are meant to be with. I wish you the best of everything in the future and will look back on our time together with fondness."
2007-05-08 11:47:20 · answer #2 · answered by jennypoo803 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to do it now before it gets worse. You will not be the first person to change their mind about a relationship. Just tell him, it sounds like that would be the best thing if he is going to that dramatic. You tried and if he does not want the same things as you do then it want work. You have to be able to dream together.
2007-05-08 11:45:25 · answer #3 · answered by CaseyK 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he is very insecure..I don't think leaving while is at work is a very nice thing to do..especially to someone you once loved. Give him the respect and sit him down and let him know how you feel and tell them there is no way he is going to change your mind.
If his tears and depression are geninue I feel for the guy. It's an awful place to be in..but over time he will get over it. I did.
2007-05-08 11:47:06 · answer #4 · answered by greyskymourning82 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When relationships end people get hurt. You can't stay with him to keep him happy when you are obviously not. Why are you putting his happiness and needs before your own (in this case). If it is not really what you want then get out of it. He will be hurt but with time he will get over it and move on. You can't stay with someone that you don't want to be with to keep them happy because eventually you will both end up miserable anyway because of the strain and pressure on the relationship of you not wanting to be there and it will end later anyway. Better to do it sooner to spare both of you dragging out your misery.
2007-05-08 11:48:50 · answer #5 · answered by kristin747 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
His breakup behavior is a way of controlling the situation. Sounds like you have broken up before, so this time stick to it. Tell him how you feel, be honest and respectful, he deserves that much. He will be hurt, but we all get hurt in life.
2007-05-08 11:43:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have all your stuff out of his place when he gets home from work one day - I think he'll get the hint. Change your cell # so he can't call, then you don't have to worry about being suckered into his games.
Grow up - just get it over with, the more you drag it out, the more painful it's going to be.
2007-05-08 12:06:09 · answer #7 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just pack your stuff and leave....the note on the fridge is a good idea. If you're wanting to stay in the place that is just too greedy. He's going to be all alone, don't make him move too!
2007-05-08 11:49:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move when he's at work and avoid the confrontation. Talk to him by telephone once you've gotten settled. You have no obligation to live with a guy you're not happy with, so don't let him make you feel guilty.
2007-05-08 11:43:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Obviously theres a problem if you don't want to live with him. Tell him why, but gently, dont be too harsh. But be carefull dont get him mad at you, that will only cause more problems, be carefull and be nice.
2007-05-08 11:46:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋