2007-05-08 01:20:01 · 27 answers · asked by scoot 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When you are old enough and mature enough to be in a loving and committed relationship. When you can financially support yourselves and live on your own without needing others to help you.
2007-05-08 04:19:21 · answer #1 · answered by Eva C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone matures at different ages. I, myself, was engaged at 21, married at 22, divorced at 23, re-engaged at 24, re-married at 25, and am happily married at 26.
I think there are some pre-requesites to accepting a proposal for engagement, that are far more important than age:
1) Must have dated at least 5 different people. Must have had at least 1 other serious relationship lasting for 6 months or longer.
2) Must have been with current fiance-to-be for 1 year or longer.
3) You must already be self-sustaining (unless disabled)... This means that you can support your self on your own income-- pay your own rent, buy your own food, etc...
4) Your partner must have been self-sustaining at some point in his or her life; and not been a failure at it.
5) You must agree on whether to have children.
6) You must agree on a religion to practice together, and to bring your children up in.
7) You must not have drug, physical, or mental abuse in your relationship. That is just a hole in the dam.
8) You must know who you are. This means that you are not dependant on him-or her- for opinions or approval before you are capable of making your own decisions---like what color car to buy or what to make for dinner.
9) You should be mature enough to accept the possibility of divorce given the current divorce rates-- and thus agree to a prenuptual agreement before hand. This doesn't necessarily need to concern money. It could detail other things like the fact that if the marriage is non-violent and there are children, you both get custody, etc... Its just the idea that you should be mature enough to discuss it all.
If you can not meet these requirements, I would say you are not ready to be engaged, regardless of what age you are.
If you have met these requirements, I would say 19 is the youngest a person should become engaged, and 20 or 21 is the youngest age they should marry. And for goodness sake--- being prengant is NO REASON to get married if you are not ready!!!
2007-05-08 08:37:16 · answer #2 · answered by dasielady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although I think a person should wait until they are 21 to become engaged, I think the YOUNGEST that anyone should get engaged is 18.
2007-05-08 08:26:14 · answer #3 · answered by What, what, what?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-05-08 08:24:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-05-08 08:24:02 · answer #5 · answered by Siamese Triplets 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-05-08 08:24:15 · answer #6 · answered by DickyNowItAll 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-05-08 08:23:11 · answer #7 · answered by Firefly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2007-05-08 08:22:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the age that is right is the age at which you know with out a doubt that the person that you are with is the one you want to spend your life with. I know that seems contradictory to what others think, but I don't think you can put an age limit on love, relationships, sex etc. I think that the maturity of a person is a mental state not a number. If that person is mature at 18 then fine. Because a person who is 30 may be immature and not realize the committment that is "being married'.
2007-05-08 08:28:16 · answer #9 · answered by Austins Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-05-08 08:24:34 · answer #10 · answered by steveheremd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-05-08 10:22:37 · answer #11 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋