My sister is 14 and pregnant, not capable to take care of a child. What should I do
2007-05-07 23:05:40 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Mom has a busy life, Dad id deceased
I guess I will step up
2007-05-07 23:11:14 · update #1
tell your mom.
help your sister find a part time job and finish school.
if she is capable maybe part time college or some other classes that can help her get a better job after wards.
you should help her until she is capable of doing it on her own but she should know that you are only helping her until then and not forever. you are her family and she can expect help from you but not raising her child.
that was a decision she made and if she was mature enough to have sex then she is mature enough to deal with the consequences.
an abortion is a very difficult decision to make but i cannot say i have decided if i am against it or not yet.
i believe someone can never have an opinion, an honest opinion, about the matter unless they have gone personally trough it.
2007-05-07 23:17:00 · answer #1 · answered by grace g 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Step up and do what? I hope you are going to discuss giving the baby up for adoption. Actually your involvement might be very little as you are not the parent. But you could be a cool head and help everybody see all the options. Abortion probably isn't the answer. A 14 year old keeping the baby isn't much better. Giving up the baby to a loving couple means giving the baby life and doing good for the baby. Don't say oh our religion says adoption is wrong, so is pre-marital sex for that matter. You have to look at what would make the mother and baby have the best life.
2007-05-08 08:01:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your sister is only a child herself,you must discuss the alternatives with her i.e. adoption or abortion, I can tell by you asking this that you are there for her are you older? You must tell your mum about this dont keep this from her if you do and she finds out in later years it could cause so much upset,the most important issue is whats best for your sister, its her body and she is the one carrying the baby if she admits her self she isnt capable of coping with a baby then that is the first step,dont leave it to long to get help with this situation,I wish you both good luck if you cant speak to your mum do you have an aunt,grandmother,cousin that you can approach..
2007-05-08 08:10:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get your parents and the fathers parents together for a big talk.I hope that between all of you with love and support this baby will have a chance. My sister in law had my niece when she was 14 and I can't imagine life without her. She is almost 12 doing well in school and a cheerleader. The whole family is living a wonderful life.So I know it can be done with the right kind of support.
2007-05-08 06:17:03 · answer #4 · answered by MISS K.I.A. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh God! My neice is 13 and will give birth in a few weeks so I know how you feel! We tried to have her give it up for adoption but the 18 year old father won't hear of it. Just offer to help anyway you can and get her on birth control after she has the baby. Prayers be with you.
2007-05-08 06:09:49 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Pretty♥ ♥Kitty♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can only tell you what a friend of mine is doing for her 16 yr old pg grand daughter.
The girl is 4.5 months along and she is going to work the entire summer at a daycare center. Also get one of those dolls programed to wake up at night crying.
Show her open adoptions, take her in and let her see the hopeful childless parents (PARENTS) there. Good luck.
2007-05-08 06:23:09 · answer #6 · answered by sideways 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell mum & dad !!!!! She is to young to have a baby, because she is only a baby herself !!!!!!! Tell mum & dad you know it's the right thing to do as it will be a child taking care of a child if you really look at it !!!!
2007-05-08 06:15:15 · answer #7 · answered by Spanky the monkey !!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, please don't consider abortion. Whether or not it's your sister's fault is not the matter. The child is still living, breathing.
If you take care of your sister's child, she will always think of you as a guardian angel of sorts. But, of course, remember that babies are hard to take care of.
2007-05-08 06:13:04 · answer #8 · answered by AxisofOddity 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
always remember that she is now taking care of a new life. talk to your parents about it and decide what is best for your sister and the baby.
2007-05-08 06:11:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Express your opinion, and give her your support, if she has the child then perhaps the best thing to do is to put it up for adoption?
2007-05-08 06:11:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋