We been together for 5 years,
and his family invited him only to his sisters anniversary party.
They did not invite me.
Husband still went to party.
i was lil upset as he still went.
was i right to be upset? or am just over reacting
2007-05-07 22:14:21 · 23 answers · asked by Rosy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My ex husband did this to me the first year we were married his family invited him to Christmas dinner and not me....I was not aware of it until we got to the house and they told me I wasn't welcome but my husband went in and stayed !!! I couldn't even go home for Christmas with my family as they had left earlier for my grandparents house nearly two hours away, I spent that Christmas in my car....but please take notice he is an EX husband.
2007-05-08 00:09:30 · answer #1 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't mentioned anything regarding your relationship with your in-laws. Did anything go wrong between his family and you?
As far as his going to the party is concerned, no brother would want to miss his sister's anniversary.
It's just too bad that you couldn't accompany him.
All the same, for a man to go to a family party without his wife is showing his lack of respect.
Think of it this way. It's a matter of just few hrs, the rest of the time he's with you. Don't sulk or show that you are upset when he gets back. Keep a smiling face and say 'Honey! I am glad to see you'. Surprise him!
Be happy and make everyone around you happy.
2007-05-07 23:42:50 · answer #2 · answered by thankyougod 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have every right to be upset, and it was rude of his family not to invite you. Even worse it also looks like a betrayal because your husband went without you. But don't let the family know that it upset you, but I would be letting your husband know how you feel, if I was you.
2007-05-08 00:26:35 · answer #3 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had all the right in the world to be upset. And your husband should not have went if you were not invited. You've been married 5 years and they still want to slap you in the face? Geesh,What kind of people are they? And there is no excuse for a husband not standing up for his wife to his family. He did marry you.....
2007-05-07 22:23:11 · answer #4 · answered by Dixie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am going through this right now!! I dont get invited to his family events but his ex wife gets invited even sent from Florida where she lives to come. I have been married for almost two years and I find this not to be right. My husband does not work because he lost his job when he was sic k so I take care of him totally. And I have prayed about this and left it to God but I am starting to see that he likes the best of both worlds and play games with being admired by both me and his family but I am going to not change him but change me. Its wrong to bite some one who makes you matter but you don't matter. Well I matter!!! Time to step back and see the vision through God!! Maybe they can take care of him since he values their choices!!!!
2015-06-18 00:22:45 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even if there's a problem between you and anyone in the family...this would be a time to set things aside and move on. i still think it's wrong for your husband to go without you, even if it is his sisters party. but, now hopefully you can deal with this with your husband and get past it. of course, let him know how you feel and how it hurts you. you don't want this to become a regular thing when his family gets together!!!!
take care!!!!
2007-05-07 23:02:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you're right to be upset. Your husband made a mistake. The family disrespected you when they didn't invite you, and he was wrong to go. Does he have a problem standing up to his family? A good husband will tell his family that, "We're a package deal. When you invite me, you invite my wife, and if she's not invited, then I'm not coming".
2007-05-07 22:21:15 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You are NOT over reacting! How rude of his family to do that in the first place!! But for him to go without you... wow. No Way. He should have told them that you are his wife and if you aren't invited, then he wouldn't be attending either.
I'm sorry, hon. That is messed up.
2007-05-07 22:21:35 · answer #8 · answered by Stacey 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No way, Id be pissed. They should accept you just as they do him. If they love him and he loves you...you should be included. Your married so your a family now. Me and my husband had those problems with in laws and he finally said you dont accept her, you dont see me. He should have said if your not invited then hes not going. Or you shoulda went anyway (to piss them off). Id tell him he needs to fix this problem. Its not them against you, hes not on their team...you guys are the team, together.
2007-05-07 22:22:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ur husband should have not attended the party without u. That way in the future should ur outlaws throw another party that they want ur hubby to attend, they'll know that ur presence is required. Ur husband not only insulted you to the max, he showed total lack of respect and consideration for ur feelings.
2007-05-07 22:28:57 · answer #10 · answered by badkittie2u 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋