my boyfriend fingered me like 8 hrs ago and it still hurts. at the time it hurt as well...and it didnt feel good at all. hes fingered girls before and he said they said it felt good...so i assume he knows what he is doing. does it hurt all the time..or is he doin somethin wrong?
2007-05-07 21:43:11 · 16 answers · asked by emzie 3 in Health ➔ Women's Health
No, fingering should not hurt, were probably not wet or aroused and he crammed a finger in there, causing friction and since it hurt, you probably also could not relax your muscles down there, making it hurt even more. If you are dry inside, it will hurt unless he goes gently, until you become moist, and relax. Every woman likes different things, if it hurts next time say "OW, easy.." or "careful,,or slower" until he starts to get it right, if he can't, just say don't, I don't like it. Google the words "how to finger a woman..." and see if some article comes up-then have him read it-if you like what it says.
2007-05-07 23:29:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all fingers are not healthy because of the germs they carry. Then it depends if you are a virgin or not. It also depends on if his nails were trimmed and if he had calluses from hard working (natural things). No, it shouldn't still hurt; you are probably injured inside (cut, scratched, or bruised). There is nothing a doctor can do to help you; it will just take time and being careful to heal. Because he has fingered others does not mean he knows what he is doing; don't ever let a guy fool you when it comes to YOUR body. No, it does not always hurt.
It is YOUR body! You have control over it, not some BOY!
2007-05-07 22:14:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, everyone is different. He should not be comparing you to previous partners. It's important for him to do what feels good to *you* and not just what he's always done.
No, fingering should NOT hurt. If it does, it's being done wrong (unless you want it to hurt, and that's a whole different story). It's possible you need more lubrication, you need more foreplay before the fingering, he might need to slow down, etc. Take some time to let him now what feels good to you, and more importantly, tell him what doesn't feel good. Show him what you like to do to yourself, and have him give it a try.
Pain = not happy sexual activity. It's your body saying something is wrong, whether that's what he is doing, or maybe you feel uncomfortable moving that fast. Regardless, it needs to change.
Best of luck!
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2007-05-08 05:29:08 · answer #3 · answered by Essin Em 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No it shouldn't hurt. If he was a gynaecologist or a doctor it probably wouldn't hurt. A nurse hurt me with a speculum once, maybe you need to relax more and it won't hurt.
It shouldn't matter too much if you're a virgin, because if you relax it really doesn't matter how big something is [within reason].
If it hurts don't let it happen.
You've got your own fingers most likely, so wait until you can do it yourself before you let him in there. And make sure he doesn't scratch you and has smooth nails as you don't want a cut or infection.
Let him know it doesn't turn you on at all. Say: "no thanks, i don't like it".
2007-05-07 22:07:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
We are not all the same. Some of us are more sensitive than others. Don't depend on your boyfriends experience. He may not have run into more sensitive women. Speak up right away. If sex, and that is sex, even though it is not intercourse, is not enjoyable, let him know how to please you.
Have him guide you as well, because we ARE all different. His friends may have told him things they believe are true, but may not actually be true. If it's been 8 hours and you still hurt, it was too hard for you. I wouldn't say it was "wrong," just wrong for you. But don't use that word to describe it to him. Be tactful, let him want to please you.He wouldn't want to make you feel badly, sex is to be enjoyed by both of you.
2007-05-07 22:00:41 · answer #5 · answered by Jeanne B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Way too hard if it hurts now. It should pretty much feel good then and not hurt later.
As for his own assessment of his masterful ability at "fingering" well. I think your vagina says otherwise.
2007-05-07 21:50:57 · answer #6 · answered by John W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not suppose to hurt during or afterwards. It suppose to feel good and leave a good memory. He was either to rough or maybe his hands were not clean to begin with. You should make sure his hands are clean and that he does not visit another area (#2) before (#1).
2007-05-08 05:33:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 02:06:46 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um....hes has to be lying, because it is not supposed to hurt at all. the only time it has ever hurt me is when i was still a virgin, but never again after that. tell him to be more gentle and take it slow. or you can show/tell him what you like and how you want it, so that you will not be left in pain.
2007-05-07 21:51:03 · answer #9 · answered by Over and Over 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
owie, i hear ya, i've had that happen too.
sometimes it hurts because there is too much friction (easily fixed with lube) or because he wasn't careful enough (eg. didn't cut and file his nails).
sometimes it does hurt... most times it doesn't. Tell him it hurt you, and tell him if it hurts next time too.
if it hurts STOP.
go back to kissing and stuff.
if you feel like trying again, do so.
if it hurts again, STOP.
if it hurts and you keep going, it will hurt for ages afterwards (like you are describing here).
trust me, i've been there
xx
2007-05-07 21:49:54 · answer #10 · answered by chilly 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋