Is it right to tell my wife how to dress?

Question

I have been married for half a year. My wife is a wonderful person and I adore her. She is physically very beautiful as well and so far everything is great.
The only thing that bothers me is that I simply don't like her clothing style. It's not that she doesn't care about how she looks, she does. We just have different opinions about it. Unfortunately, it makes her less attractive sexually for me, and she has, of course, noticed it, and it must have hurt.
I feel pretty bad about it. It seems right that I should accept her style as a part of her personality and not let stupid things like clothes affect it. It's just that I can't control it. I feel a lot of guilt about it.
She might even be willing to change her style for me, but it feels very wrong to my mind, as if I'm trying to change her. I really don't want to control her in any way.
So far, I did the typical thing: kept clear of the subject. What should I do?

Answer 1

Maybe let her know what you think she looks nice in, buy her something, things along those lines. I just know I'd be very hurt if my husband came to me after dating & marrying me & accnounced he thought I should change my style of dress. You fell in love with her obviously, it's really not fair to expect to change her now, even if she would do it for you.

Answer 2

yes, its right to tell your wife how to dress, of course and why not. If you can tell her how to makelove to you why not tell her how to dress......that's called open communication in marriage. Just that you should find out the right approach for it. The right thing could be said the wrong way remember. I guess you know your wife better and should certainly know what approach to invest here.

Anyway, be very patient about the whole situation as change does not always come that easy. Why not buy her a gift?, i mean a dress gift of the kind you'll like to see her wear. When next you go out with her and happen to see a lady well dress according to your liking.....hmmm, do something like......taping her on the shoulder and pointing the lady in question......"honey, i think that's lady's outfit is cute, what do you think?" just my suggestion anyway.

but i think comunicating your feelings out that way can send signals into her of the kind of dress you prefer to see her wear.

All the best

Answer 3

no, i wouldn't tell her how to dress. if it feels wrong, then trust your gut and bite your tougue on this one.

what she wears out in the public shouldn't affect your sexual desires. you should be happy she dresses moderately in public for you. buy her sexy clothes to wear at home with you. would you rather she wear revealing clothes in public?

if you "adore" her and she is a wonderfull person and she is physically attractive, what difference does it make what she wears in public?

seems like you have the problem. not to many people can find a partner that has so much going for them. get over it and don't ruin a great thing and stop hurting the love of your life's feelings

Answer 4

You've been married for all of 6 months and now you want to be attracted to her sexually by changing her wardrobe. Yes, do not let little things like clothes affect the "wonderful person" you married and the "great" relationship you have.

It appears to me that even though she is physically beautiful, you are not sexually attracted to her and she of course has noticed it, and you have some guilt over this fetish of yours. Sorry, I don't buy that you aren't sexually attracted to her, but that after 6 months you now want to parade a "slutty" woman around like a trophy, so you can be the envy of your friends.

She is a person with her own likes and dislikes and that you have to honor. But this fetish of yours is going to cost your marriage and if you don't get over that you like women to dress slutty and only married your wife because she appeared to be modest, you are going to be kicked to the curb and looking for another place to live in about a month.

Get over your ego, and yet I wonder if she would like to see you in revealing clothes too, like daisy dukes and baby T's and clogs for men on your nights out? Are you going to please all of her fetishes at your own expense and humiliation? No? Then learn to accept who you have married.

Answer 5

If you feel wrong about then you're more than likely right. I'd be happy to be with an attractive woman that didn't feel the need to flaunt it all the time. She could look sexy for you behind closed doors, but maybe she isn't comfortable dressing the part in public!

Answer 6

It's the wrapper you're interested in, not what's inside? Did I hear that right? Time for you to grow up. If you need a certain type of clothing to make her attractive sexually, maybe there's something wrong with your relationship -- starting with you. If you give her a gift of something you like and ask her to wear it for you in private moments, that might fly. Just be ready for her to ask you to do the same. Some examples would be if she asked you to let your hair grow bald naturally, no comb-overs and no shaving your head.

Answer 7

There's nothing wrong with letting her know what you prefer, but it must be done tactfully and with love. Maybe offer to go along shopping with her, and buy her some pretty things. Sometimes women don't realize they have fallen into a routine with a particular style, and just need a pick-me-up.

Answer 8

Were you blindfolded up until recently? You have a fantasy girl and you wish your wife would dress like her? Have you been promoted to high Mr. Mucky Muck and you want her to dress like a Muck?
By all means divorce her and get a woman YOU can control.

Answer 9

i do no longer tell her to gown conservatively. the suited that i ought to do replaced into to declare that the outfit does no longer tournament or hiya have not you worn that sweater with the sheep slightly too lots? As for the adult adult males who administration what the lady wears, it relatively is by using the adult adult males lack of self belief and the choose to maintain his spouse/GF from being suited to different adult adult males. If their woman replaced into suited to others, then somebody else might choose her and take her away. See it relatively is approximately his lack of self belief. it may additionally be approximately breaking her all the way down to think of that the guy is the only one which will ever love them. it relatively is the thank you to regulate her for a jointly as. i in my opinion choose a warm female pal/spouse. The trophy female pal/spouse is a thank you to circulate. i could choose to coach her off. yet i does no longer tension her to be conservative. i choose her to stay an identical by fact the day that I met her.

Answer 10

why not let her know that you love her and care about her hugely, but that you would love to go shopping with her and help her find a few outfits that she feels good in, but that you also really like - so that you can feel attracted to her. let her know that you are attracted to her - but just not the clothes that she wears... use positive reinforcement, and find a compromise.