what to do when my 13 year old son calls me a f****** Ho?

Answer 1

Find out where he's learning this from and punish him. He shouldn't be calling you names.

Answer 2

I'm so sorry he called you that, that must have been quite a shock. I think you need to provide more of a backstory. Is this the first time he's lashed out at you? What prompted this? Does he seem to be having any trouble at school/with friends? Any symptoms of depression/borderline personality disorder that may be causing this anger? I know that can be scary but the sooner you catch it the more treatable it will be. His age is a difficult one.

I don't think hitting him is really an answer. You need to think about what is causing this really inappropriate & disrespectful behavior.

I think you need to try and find out what is causing this before you take any major action. If he's just testing you to see what he can get away with, you need to take appropriate disciplinary action. If there's another cause, you might anger him further and create a gap between you if you make the wrong move. I'd talk to a trusted friend, or seek help from a counselor or therapist if you feel you need it.

But no matter what you come up with, there is absolutely no excuse for him calling you that and something has to be done. The very best of luck :)

Answer 3

The Scriptures says, "whatsoever ye shall sow, that also shall ye reap". You made this kid into a monster and now you will have to deal with the consequences. I feel sorry for you and many other parents like you. Your sons needs an adult to spend quality time with him. Where is his father? Is he being the role model that he should be? Kids need love and affection from their parents, they don't need material things that parents so freely give. If your son had felt that he was loved earlier in his life, and if you had given freely of your time, he would probably have more respect for you.
Now you have to undo all the damage that has been done. I suggest you be consistantly firm with him and show him kindness. Make sure he understands that you love him and that it is his behavior that you don't like.

Answer 4

id say do what my parents did to me.. make me walk around with a bar of soap in my mouth for an hour..but i dont think you can do that now..but it does sounds like he needs a boot camp scare..does he call you this all the time or just did it once?i would ask him why he thinks its ok to call girls/weman that? and ask him how he would feel if you called him "something horrable" (but actually say it,just to see how he acts when he hears it comeing from you)i wouldnt go back and say he cant ever hangout with his friends again.because hes going to do it anyway..trust me they find a way. and not only that but you tellin him not too will only make him want to more..this is nothing to ignore.alot of people have ignored things like this and look where there kids end up.some may grow out of it.but most dont.i really would talk to a counsler for him or enroll him in a weekend bootcamp..

Answer 5

WOW you know I always tell parents just to ignore their children, but 13 is a bit past the ignoring stage. He clearly doesn't respect you! I would take away some major priveleges!n Whatever he likes most...video games, going out ever, having friends come. And a bedroom can be a lonely place after a few days. You set your ground rules with him, and when he choses to break them he knows the cosequences!

Answer 6

WOW! It seems that this has gradually gotten out of hand until today. I would recommend taking him to a counselor ASAP.

It is highly abusive to you to be called that, and it is unacceptable for him to even dare call you that.

I have a little boy who is 8. As soon as he starts leaning towards saying something disrespectful towards his parents we pull him aside and have a serious talk about why he must respect his parents. So far it seems to be working quite well.

When I was a child I would not even dream of calling my names such a name. I would have been slapped silly. The important thing is that I was never even tempted to call them that, so I figure they did something right:)

Good luck...

Answer 7

Take away all his luxuries , (cell phone, computer and internet access, video games and tv,) for a week every time he does it.
Then every time he whines about wanting to check his myspace or call a friend tell him "F** HO's don't work hard jobs all day to pay for their kids to be spoiled, they just spend their money on themselves."
Say it every single time he whines abuot missing what you took away.
"Children of Ho's don't have video games...because their mom's have crack habits..."
He will get so sick of it he won't say it again.

Answer 8

Wow, name calling now, hitting next. You need to get this under control quick. Get a male member of your family to talk to him in a no uncertain terms is he to ever do that again. You can also enlist a police officer to come to your house and talk to him so he will know you are not going to be taking that from him, or they have room for him at juvie jail.

Answer 9

Its not a fault of your own. Man some people are harsh on here. At this age, peer pressure is everything. They are soo determined to be heard and important to their friends. Especially boys. If it was me, I would get right down to his level and look at him as serious as possible and tell him that will not be tolerated. You do not let people disrespect him therefore you will not be disrespected yourself. Keep it simple and straight to the point. The more it continues the harsher the discipline. But if you talk to him in a meaningful tone, I doubt that it will arise again. Best of luck.

Answer 10

Go to:

http://rosemond.com/index.php

This man, John Rosemond, BY FAR gives the most sensible advice I have ever seen on raising children in today's whacked up world. Buy any or all of his books/tapes. Read his stuff. Practice it. I guarantee your child's behavior will improve without any special counseling or drugs.

But you have to decide, first, that you really, really want to be his parent.

Answer 11

I'm guessing your his mother, Send him to rehab... or pay somebody to beat him up..just to teach him a lesson, tell him if he does it ever again you'll pay the guy to beat him up again! But why would someone call his own parents a effing ho?? I bet you did something to him, didn't you??