I have a friend since 3 years now.....We are almost like very close Best Friends...We havent met each other much but we almost everyday chat online.....
The problem is,I loved her before but didnt tell her....But now she is showing her true colours....First as per i saw her,she looked quite religious and shy type..Didn't talk much to anyone, but now as per her stories.... She has many friends who are BOYS.....She just says THEY ARE "JUST" HER FRIENDs !!
So that means I am one of the usual guys from them ! Not a special kind.....She said to me many times that she is very close to me,but i dont believe her at all !
Second, I dont want her to talk to other boys.....
What should I do ???
I am just sick and tired of all the pain am suffering......
I just wanna end with her !!! but dont wnna hurt her !
2007-05-07 17:38:07 · 12 answers · asked by smak786110 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
tell her how you feel; that's the only way to get anywhere. Being afraid in life is only going to put you behind everyone else. You only live once, might as well make the best of it, live with no regrets, and always know that you at least tried your best/
2007-05-07 17:41:27 · answer #1 · answered by xorubberduckyox2003 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Many men face similar problems, so join the club... First, you can never prevent her from speaking to anyone no matter if they are boys or girls. If you try, you will destroy what relationship you do have with her.
Second, how is she to know how you feel for her unless you tell her. You may find out she has similar feelings for you. If she doesn't she will tell you. No big deal, you wouldn't be the first man to be rejected, trust me. If she just wants to be friends, so be it. Just be friends, there is nothing wrong with it. But at least she will know where you stand....
If she is (or was) as shy and religious as you claim, then I'm sure the boys she is speaking with are just friends, and you are making more out of it than what it is.
2007-05-08 00:50:34 · answer #2 · answered by Darin M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there's no trust on your end, so it wouldn't work. Just because she has other friends that are guys doesn't mean that she's messing around with all of them or even any of them, and it doesn't mean that you're not special to her. You can't isolate her from the world just because you like her and you talk online. Either grow up and get over your insecurities, or move on altogether if you can't, and good luck having a healthy relationship cuz without trust, you've got nothing.
2007-05-08 00:53:24 · answer #3 · answered by melissa_53105 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you have a long established relationship with this woman, then you should do all that you can to keep it. Even if it means that it stays platonic. Secondly, the Jealousy bit has got to go, If she is interested in you the jealousy thing will seriously drive any type of interest she has away. You have a good foundation,express your feelings(without bearing your soul) and see what happens.
2007-05-08 00:45:13 · answer #4 · answered by Question Everything 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is your friend. That doesn't hold her to any sort of commitment to you. She is allowed to have all of the friends she wants regardless of gender. I'll bet you are special to her. You are an individual and fill a special place in her heart but that doesn't mean she is going to shut out all other friends. You should expand your horizons and make more friends, not focus so much on this one girl.
2007-05-08 00:46:05 · answer #5 · answered by Ang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense, but it doesn't sound like she is doing anything wrong. She can have guy friends if she wants. If you aren't secure enough to let her hang out with both you and them, then you should end it and tell her the truth: that you aren't secure enough to handle it and you want her all for yourself, or not at all.
What are you, like, the Phantom of the Opera or something?
2007-05-08 00:51:42 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. Eric Cartman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the fact that you guys talk more online that you see eachother makes things really difficult. you can become anyone you want online and it's easy to make people believe you're someone you really are not. i wouldn't get in too deep with her untill you know her more as a person that as a screen name.
2007-05-08 00:45:36 · answer #7 · answered by franky_lightning8 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just the way I comprehend your writing, I guess she said that, you are just one of them- friends, it is because you ar too "slow" to show what is your intention of being around. In the first place, you jsut said that you were like a best friends. maybe she just want to make something "clear". . . you know what I mean?
2007-05-08 00:42:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It will hurt her more for you to be dishonest and begin to be critical of her. She has just as much right to talk to other boys as you do to talk to other girls. This does not seem a match made in heaven, and it is time to detach.
2007-05-08 00:44:27 · answer #9 · answered by perudonations 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh grow up.How can you be so close to some one you have not met in person,you are judging this book by its sound
2007-05-08 00:46:45 · answer #10 · answered by miraclehand2020 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋