What do you think of befriending a college teacher and writing a heartfelt letter about how you feel at the end of the semester? And also... she acts like she is my friend already in a way. We are taking her out to eat at the end of the semester and she agreed to go. I really admire her and want to be her friend. What do you think?
2007-05-07 17:07:53 · 5 answers · asked by blue_star12111 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
I think writing your college instructor a thank you note explaining your genuine appreciation for her work would be a wonderful gesture.
If you can stay in touch with her, that's great. If, however, she doesn't write back to your emails and get back in touch with you however you contact her, don't push it.
College instructors can be great to stay in touch with to discuss academic matters and personal matters having to do with your potential career/life/academic path.
2007-05-07 17:18:38 · answer #1 · answered by StellaBtheWriter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been a college professor for decades and have a number of friends who were my students at one point. However, I would never have socialized with a student before s/he graduated from the school where I was teaching. There are just too many potential problems which could arise from this. The student could take another course from me and not do well, which would be embarrassing to both of us. Other students could be envious of my friendship with the student. I could share personal information with my "friend" which could get back to other students.
Being friendly with students is not the same thing as being their friend. When you say "we" are taking her out to eat, it sounds like a group is doing this. I wouldn't think that this would be some sort of a sign of a desire to be personal friends with particular students, but a thank you for the course. I don't want to discourage you, and I do think that you could eventually develop a friendship with your teacher, but don't push it. You could make things difficult for her, and the time may not yet be right, even if she does want a friendship with you.
2007-05-07 17:19:50 · answer #2 · answered by neniaf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you really truly adore the teacher because of her education ethics and you like her as a teacher with no strings attached, then I would say Go ahead. On the other hand, with all the laws governing teacher student relationships, I would be careful to ensure you keep it on a professional level and not make it seem as though you adore the teacher in a incorporate manner.
2007-05-07 17:13:58 · answer #3 · answered by katina_scorpio32 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your judgment! I've written letters to teachers at the end of a semester thanking them. Keep it professional! Maybe casually ask if she'd like to go out to lunch during the summer sometime if she isn't busy. Give her your number and let her contact you.
Good luck!
2007-05-07 17:17:54 · answer #4 · answered by Christina C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is alright to take her out to lunch with other students but, I also think you are too serious about her and you should move on.
2007-05-07 17:12:19 · answer #5 · answered by ruth4526 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋