What gives you ladies the right?

Question

When a relationship is in trouble, what gives you ladies the right to go out and find someone who will make you feel good about yourselves? Why cant you be responsible adults and tell your spouse what is bothering you and put forth the effort to fix your relationship instead of taking the easy way out and banging the first swinging dick who makes you feel special? People fall in love by chance, stay together with work and fall out of love by choice. That was sent to me and it is true. You cant do that to someone! It isn't right! Why would you not work on your relationship? Does the feelings of someone else mean that little to you that you can plunge the dagger and not care about the bloodshed?

Answer 1

Hey don't lash out at all the women here. Not all of us are like that. Besides, this question can be directed to some men who cheat also so don't take your hostility or bad experience out on us.

Answer 2

Way to start a fire in the middle of a volcano :) Ok your pissed about your signifigant other cheating. First off you need to let go of the dramatics like "plunge the dagger and not care about the bloodshed". The only purpose they have is to entertain viewers during a play, they have no use in real life.

People have different ways to deal with things in a relationship when its going bad. Some talk it out, some sleep around and some say nothing. She just happened to be in the sleep around catagory.

Ok Im guessing that you didnt exactly fall from heaven and find this girl, and this story seems one sided. Is there anything you did to make her do this. Think about it before lashing out.

I think I probally am wasting my breath though, judging from how you typed this. If this gets deleted because it incited a flame war blame only yourself

Answer 3

Look here who ever you are what gives you the right!!!!!!!!!
I wonder what made your wife leave you and seek someone else. It's not about sex, as you chose the word swinging dick. Your jealous and pissed because you didn't meet up to her standards. I left a special person who was kind, passionate and patient, and just full of life, my kids father of eleven years who I despise, who I can't stand and I don't love. There was one time I loved him but all the disrespect, the constant arguing, belittling each other for so long I grew exhausted. I got myself some counseling got my self esteem back lost weight and started dating again, and I tell you it was the best experience of my life, and if I can have it back I would leave my kids father we both would have mutual contact with our two kids and I would be happy for the rest of my life. So you file for divorce and move on, and before you jump into a new relationship, go get some counseling or go to your local library and check out some self help books. The reason why because you don't want to repeat the same pattern. Peace Brownies

Answer 4

Last time I checked it was still a free country.So we do have the right to be with whoever we want. How sad that your girlfriend didn't feel comfortable enough coming to you for comfort. Whatever her reasons were, she chose to turn away from you. I'm not saying it was the right thing to do, or the best thing to do, but that's what she did. So now, you can either be angry about it, or try to get her to communicate with you and work towards mending the relationship.Will you now be a responsible adult and tell her whats bothering you? Or will you do the same thing she did? Lets see if you are able to handle it any better than she did.

Answer 5

Whoa! Sorry this sounds rough! I, as a woman, have been on the same end as you when my partner decided that I wasn't giving him everything he wanted and went for a little tail on the side.

It's not a question of male or female. It's a question of the person and their values. I also believe that it takes two to make a relationship work and that people don't stray if they are getting what they need from their partner.

Of course we are not mind readers and communication needs to be in the relationship if it's to work but when one cheats, both people should take a good look at what they are doing in that relationship.

Answer 6

Well, the only answer I can give is that I can talk to my husband until my voice is hoarse and it won't make a difference. I told him I was unhappy, I told him what was wrong, I told him if things didn't improve (with work from both of us) I would leave or start looking elsewhere. He told me he thought we had a great life and nothing was wrong. His answer was "if you want some other c*ck go have it, if that's what you need to be happy". Not the answer I was looking for. So, my answer is if I am the only one willing to work on the relationship and I do everything in my power to change things, I have exhausted all options, but I deserve to be happy, too. Does that mean I'll go out and cheat? No, but it does mean I'll start exploring other options!

Answer 7

ultimately, you cant really blame them. if i always had girls just begging for a chance to be nice to me and make me feel special... i guess id let em

on the other hand... just based on the overall repulsiveness of the majority of american females... i am really starting to think i might be able to tolerate a life of abstinence

think about it... when the fat, obnoxious, tattooed, beer guzzling, hairy loudmouth is a guy its gross enough and when hes trying to start ****, you avoid him. well maybe its time to stop discriminating....

you sound like you're hurting and sometimes 1 person falls out of love faster than the other which is sad, but i mean if she likes another guy, would you really want her coming home to you anyway? what would you have her do... be miserable and pretend ? just cut her loose and keep looking.

for all the bulls**t these yahoo women talk about guys ... they dont really hesitate to hook up with one and its not because they give a rats *** about anyone else. havent you learned anything reading through this endless crap?

1. they arent going to "work" for ****
2. others feelings are meaningless when in conflict with the momentary happiness of a female
3. regardless of anything its still your fault she did it
4. a husband and/or kids are a burden, the real fun of life is starting over

you are mistaken in your post though
... they can do it

sorry

Answer 8

Dude, you obviously caught the ***** of a relationship. A woman would talk to her man about things that were bothering her. Not run off and cheat. That is a skank. Sorry bout it dude. Been married for almost 10 yrs. My husband and I have had our issues, but chose to stay together and work on it together. You are right about falling in love by chance, you are also right that staying there takes work, and that you only fall out of love only by choice. I commend you on that realization. Maybe she is not as ready for a realationship as you are. My husband and I have only made it through our trials b/c we realized that a long time ago. I pray you don't have kids yet.....Good luck.....

Answer 9

Wow, you have been damaged dude. Just because your so called lady did you wrong does not mean that all us ladies think what she has done is OK. I think you needed to vent you feeling about how you are feeling about YOUR I hope soon to be ex-wife who really sounds like she never really deserved a man who cares for her as you do/did still most likely do. Love is not a faucet we turn off and on and love and hate co-exist in most relationships. I hope you can take a moment to gain some general perspective on the fact that your not agree at all ladies just the one you trusted. Trust missed place is hard to forgive (yourself).
Sincerely
Tracylyn S

Answer 10

wow...... ok, I get the pic here...... been there and done that,... had it done to me, etc..... and NO ONE has the RIGHT to hurt another human..... sorry it has happened to you.......and I agree marriage and relationships take a LOT of work and daily choices, but some ppl for one reason or anther find it much easier to just move on...... there are no answers to your questions, only facts and reasons and excuses.... and we all have those !!!!!!!!! I know how it hurts to be betrayed and I know how it feels to betray.... I make mistakes just like ALL humans..... but I say this, take what is bad and throw it away and take what is good with you into the future.... do NOT let this eat you up or stop you on your journey through a beautiful life......... and I do care about what I caused, pain, etc...... but God worked His mighty wonder and we stayed together thro it all, we are now going on 31 yrs of marriage..... so you can get thru this !!!!!!!!!!!!!! God bless

Answer 11

It takes two to tango!If you feel that your spouse is not putting forth any effort to better your relationship,you should!You dun sound dat responsible either,my friend.Instead of blabbering childishly,make full use of your time to brainstorm on how to work things out with your spouse.Its useless to point a finger at the other party when 4 other fingers are pointing back at you.Do some soul searching and reflect.