Well I just told my friend since 8th grade (we're in 10th grade now) that I like him. I feel bad now cause I feel like I ruined our friendship but he said I haven't ruined anything. Was telling him that I like him the right thing to do?
2007-05-07 16:57:40 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you know that quote "i'd rather regret things i did than things i didn't"?
yeah.
if he doesn't feel like anything has been wrecked, then maybe it hasn't. and maybe your friendship is gone forever, i don't know-- but it could definitely be replaced by something even better. it sounds like he might like you back after all.
it's not like you can change it now. kudos for having the ovaries to tell him, and best of luck with whatever does happen. =]
2007-05-07 17:00:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he says that you friendship wasn't ruined, then I would say you are analyzing this way too much, which women have a tendency to do.
Having said that, you should go about your normal routine and just be his friend, leave the next move up to him. Don't loose sleep over it! It seems like a big deal now but at 15 or 16, you'll have much more time ahead to date and be in a relationship with someone.
2007-05-08 00:06:13 · answer #2 · answered by thehouse3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. When you start liking a friend that you've known for a while, it is important to tell him. It is different from a little crush and can be serious. If he feels the same way, you might find yourself in a long-term relationship. If not, it might be a while until things with him get back to normal (if they even do). But, like I said, it was better telling him than not letting him know because then you might do something even stupider.
2007-05-08 00:09:57 · answer #3 · answered by jrizzle77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure that if you like him in a B/F G/F/ way, he already knows that by the way you act with him. There is a different way we treat our friends then we do our B/F. I feel it is always best to be open and honest with your feelings about relationships. If you keep it just friends and you always long for more, who is to say he is not just too shy to speak up as well. Be silent about real feeling is a great way to miss the boat on a loving relationship. You did the right thing. Been married to my B/F for nine years now and we were also just friends for several years.
Sincerely
Tracylyn Sharrit
2007-05-08 00:06:59 · answer #4 · answered by Tracylyn S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best policy, however some people want to be lied to. If he still looks at you the same way then its fine. If its changed everything then it may be fine too, after all he has yet to mention where his head is at with all this.
Give him time to mull it over, If he says nothing its likely he is just a friend to you, no loss really. But its possible he says something and then you can persue a relationship.
Either way, give it time
2007-05-08 00:03:52 · answer #5 · answered by ChAtMaN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you did the right thing and no i don't think you messed up you friendship,i think your just embraced cause he turned you down.But ,you can get past it it might not happen right away but if you really want to stay friends with him then it will happen.And if he does have feelings for you like everybody Else says then it will happen when he is ready[lets just hope he's not to late]cause no affiance your not going to wait around forever right?
2007-05-08 00:12:05 · answer #6 · answered by Brian & Pam C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. in my experience, if you're sure about your feelings for someone, and you're hiding those feelings, then it makes communication with the other person more difficult.
Granted, even though he knows how you feel, he may not necessarily feel the same way. Even if he doesn't, as long as you can be okay with being just friends still, you can still have a great friendship.
2007-05-08 00:12:14 · answer #7 · answered by rbwmail 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing. Just take it slow. Your only in 10th grade. Hold hands. Go to the movies and talk. Learn about each other. GO SLOW
2007-05-08 00:09:20 · answer #8 · answered by Jose M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least now you got it off of your chest. So If it ruins your friendship,well you have to cut your losses! But now you would know that he wasn't a true friend. Good luck...
2007-05-08 00:05:00 · answer #9 · answered by bravofan71 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was definately the right thing to do especially when he has no problem with it.However,you need to keep an open mind.When he does tell you of a crush dat he has on another girl,you have to be supportive even if it hurts like hell.Being friends with the one you like beats not having anything to do with him at all.Cheers!
2007-05-08 00:04:47 · answer #10 · answered by Destiny Wan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋