How to I tell my parents, who are very devoted Christians, that I'm lesbian?

Question

I'm only 16 but I know I am gay. I have a girlfriend and when she told her parents they hade a 4 month long fight about it. I know it will be hard for my parents but I think I should tell them.

Answer 1

Try calling them from Japan. Peace and God bless.

Answer 2

You are a selfish little girl. You know nothing about love. You have been watching too many movies and listening to the lies told in this culture of the toilet in America.

Get real. You are living with a sinful attitude and you know it, especially if your parents are 'devoted Christians'.

You know God's view on this. Therefore you are just being rebellious and trying to hurt them. Of course this is why you want to drive a dagger through their hearts. This has absolutely nothing to do with your sexual feelings. This is just another way to cause damage to parents that you currently disrespect very much.

If you are normal, then at 26 you will totally understand how great parents are. Then you will be ashamed of yourself for the way you are treating them.

I feel so sorry for them right now.

One last thing. Remember the old Sunday School lessons: You reap what you sow. If you want a life full of heartache, then go ahead and smash theirs now.

If you will cool your teenage jets and think a little, maybe, I pray that you will reconsider everything you are thinking at this time.

If you are a person of no character, then you will do the wrong thing no matter what you hear. I hope you are someone of significance.

Answer 3

I am a devoted christian to, I am also 16 years old.. But im not just any christian, I am catholic, catholics mainly tolerate it but I am not sure about most others, but what you have to do is tell them that god loves all, like it says in the bible, that maybe being gay is not all the bad because it was part of gods plan. If god made adam and eve, then what makes them think he didn't make adam and steve. basically take out the bible and have them read the part where it says that he loves all equally the same, and all alike were created under his image, just as gays were.. =] good luck
im straight by the way =]

Answer 4

You tell them at once on! Christians don't have 2 agree on your existence type yet they are asked not 2 choose. Be very common and ask them 2 provide you the comparable admire they might want. you won't be in a position to hide or be embarrassed approximately who you're while you're being genuine 2 your self. make specific that's not in basic terms a fade/expertiment/curious element. Your mom and dad won't like it yet are they going 2 cease Loving you? Stand for something or SETTLE 4 something! I choose you the excellent, i'm not gay yet I comprehend thoroughly while human beings anticipate you 2 be something different than who you're, that's extremely difficult 2 cope at situations, yet stay stable, pray alot and dangle with supportive acquaintances. playstation ....i'm hoping you're actually not residing of their domicile given that's difficult.

Answer 5

At 16 years of age you may know all about yourself...or not. Probably you do. I am not you, I cannot tell you if you are gay or not. What I can tell you is that if my daughter was gay, I would handle it much better when she told me if she was an adult, as I wouldnt have to worry about her maybe just having a crush on someone and thinking she is gay. You may know for sure already. Even so,unless it is causing you major problems, why not wait until you are 19, or 20, and tell them then ? They will be used to dealing with you as an adult by then, and will be more likely to accept you. Good Luck.

Answer 6

I was in this situation. I struggled for a decade before I came out and the religion side of things still scare me.

I came out to my parents in a letter. We were always told that if we were to say something that was hard to say or that we were worried we would leave something out - to write it down. Some may think it was the easier way but for me it is normal.

My mother, who is more devoted than my father, was ok the first night. The next day it hit the fan but there was nothing I could do. I was being true to myself and like the bible said = you have to love yourself to love others. When I realised that I was ready to come out I was able to tell my parents for the first time I loved them and that was because I had more confidence in myself.

It took about 6 months for my mother to get over it. Well I don't think she will ever be over it but she knows now it's not a passing phase and she likes my girlfriend.

My father was cool with it and just patted my knee and said i'm ok with your friend. I guess that was his way of dealing with it - friend.

Whatever you do don't give up. Make sure when times are tough you have a good network of friends around you that you can rely on. I was able to escape that way when things got bad. Also give your parents time - they may never get over the fact you are gay - it is their loss for not getting to know their daughter as a whole. It's also very judgemental in regards to religion.

Answer 7

Tell them only if you're ready to move out.. my friend told his parents that he is gay after college and they we so mad that they ask him to leave and never come back! Extremely devoted Christians too. I'm not saying your parents are like that but be prepared for the worst..

Why don't you test them out, try saying someone positive about other lesbians relationship and see how they react then decide if its the time.

Hope this helps..

Answer 8

Ask them what they think of gay people, tell them you have a lesbian friend and you think it's okay, you just want their opinions.

Then see what their reactions are.

If negative, you may be best to wait until you're 18 or ready for University or College, because there's no sense risking your safety and wellbeing to come out.

That said, when you do come out, expect the grief stages, anger, denial, bargaining, depression and acceptance, though not necessarily in that order. In other words, it takes time.

Answer 9

If you believe that you need to tell your parents this, then tell this in a sweet manner. First, tell them that this is a problem for a society but for some reason this problem is not a problem for you because you feel as other girls with boys. Then your parents might argue, or not (this is rare for parents not to argue). [WARNING: Your parents might faint of this news.] After that tell them that you love them but you know you cannot change your view as other girls cannot stop thinking about boys. This help might sound easy but know and be ready for anything that is not expected to hear from your parents. After all, thank your parents for listening out your sexual preference and say you love them the most. Parents definitely love when their children are happy and love them back; that's how perfect society begins, from loving and caring family.

Answer 10

Only you know how your parents really are. There is no real comfortable way to tell them that you are a lesbian. If you and your parents are close, then yes, sit them down and talk to them. Tell them you are no different then them. You love differently yes, your not some alien from outer space, who don't feel anything on the inside.

its a long talk, but write it out on paper, so if you forget to say what you want, you will have it right there. or if you can't get the words out, you have them on paper and they will read it, i can promise you that.. reason is.. you are there child and they love you.. and will love you no matter what.

if you want more help. ask away.

Answer 11

Honey, before you do anything pray to God. Ask Him to lead you and help guide you in this sitaution. If you read the Bible read Proverbs chtp. 3; I like this one because it helps me undertsand what I should and shouldn't do.

Well enough of the religious stuff....let's get to what you should do with your parents (but do keep in mind it's good to talk to Him before you do something; it helps; calms you down). I think the best thing you can do is tell them; it's probably the only thing you can do because if you keep avoiding it sooner or later it's going to come out and you'd be denying yourself for so long (and hiding who you really are from your parents).

First get ourself prepared mentally for what you're going to tell them - keep replaying it in your mind until you're completely comfortable witht it - then practice it aloud so you get a feeling of the words, maybe infront of a mirror? Once you're past that stage plan out when you're going to tell them (choose the best possible moment, a time when there's the least amount of tension or stress around the house, where everyone's layed back and cool; in a good mood). And remeber to look them in the eye, don't look down or keep looking away, don't be afriad, just tell them. Speak slowly (cause this'll be quite a shock for them) and clear; try not have a shaky voice, be confident.

Tell them at the end that you love them and the reason you told them this was because you didn't want to hide anything from them. Be prepared for some confusion and for them to ask you to repeat youself. They might yell or ask you to leave them so they can recollect their thoughts on the situation. They might not even say anything. Whichever the case you say what you feel you must (be nice - they are your parents you know). Good luck!