I'm a 21 years guy who likes to date a lot of girls.
I don't lie to them, or leave them with babies. We just go out to the movies, kiss, cuddle, (sometimes more)... sort of like a short romance.I am always looking for that "something new", that "spark" in the beginning of a relationship.The thing is I haven't met the one with whom I feel like spending the rest of my life. I just wanna enjoy my time now, while I'm healthy and young. I fear getting old and still be looking for the one.
Do you think I'm promiscuous? Am I immoral? Is it normal what I'm feeling?
2007-05-07 16:20:41 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Honestly? No, I don't think you're bad or immoral. You're 21. That's perfectly normal behavior. The best thing you can do is to be COMPLETELY HONEST (underline that a billion times) with the women you're dating. Tell them EXACTLY what you're looking for--and what you're NOT looking for. Don't lead them on, don't make promises you don't intend to keep, and don't be a playa. (Contrary to popular culture?? Women do NOT LIKE PLAYAS!!! We don't want to be played--we want to be treated like human beings.) Just let them know that you're still looking around, and that they shouldn't expect an engagement ring from you.
The fact that you even worry about trying to be a good person is a good thing. You're not going to grow old alone, believe me. If you're honest and considerate (and don't get anybody pregnant or give them a disease), you're on the right path.
2007-05-07 16:32:53 · answer #1 · answered by R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Experimentation is not a bad thing but it is not for everyone. A lot of guys go through the "manwhore" phase and I think society expects it. I will give you five things to use in your life which will keep you out of trouble and the std clinic. Keep them in mind even if you don't choose my answer as the best.
Always use protection
Don't lead any woman on because you will earn a reputation amongst the womenfolk.
Don't sleep with women in a friends circle because it is wrong.
Don't sleep with married women
Don't sleep with any of your friend's women
2007-05-07 16:45:42 · answer #2 · answered by Patrick the Carpathian, CaFO 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude,
By my 20th B-Day I'd been 3/4 the way around the world TWICE thx to US Navy!!! Sex was as frequent as putting on socks during a cruise!!!
I'm 48, married 24yrs with 2kids (22 &19). My navy days is a big reason why when i said "I Do" it was a FOREVER commitment!!! Sow your oats, get it out of your system, and you'll probably find that your "true love" will come thru the door when you least expect it!!!
Is water wet, does a bear crap in the woods, does the pope live in the Vatican??????
YOU'RE NORMAL!!!!!!!!
2007-05-07 16:41:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its good that you are not lying but are you being completely truth full? Women have a way of bonding with men emotionally especially if you sleep with them. Don't worry about labeling yourself, instead think of how the other person feels and what effects you are having on her. Be fair and treat other people how you want to be treated. You will be happy by making someone else happy.
2007-05-07 16:33:11 · answer #4 · answered by stacey b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you arent a bad guy! how will you ever know that the one you end up with is actually THE ONE if you havent experienced and known what it was like to be with others! You're normal! but i say write down what you DO look for in "the one" so that way while you are dating you are looking to see wether the girls you are dating have those qualities! you're still young...the one is still out there. keep looking!
2007-05-07 16:35:06 · answer #5 · answered by Thick Madame 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think at 21 you are quite normal. I think as long as you are honest about the relationship with the girls, you aren't doing anything wrong. Enjoy being 21 and dating. You will know when you find the one.
2007-05-07 23:16:10 · answer #6 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, You're not BAD!!.... Just insecure and noncommittal!! (Hint: You can be "old" at 21 [try two S.E. Asia combat tours if you don't know what I'm talking about], or... you can be young in your 50's [buy a brand-new Harley and SEE what I'm talking about!!!]
"I cant deny it
With that smile on her face
It's not the kill....
It's the thrill of the chase"
2007-05-07 16:34:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're having lots of sex, then you are promiscuous. As long as you're not lying to the girls to have sex or be in the short term relationship then you're not a bad guy. Make sure that they don't think it'll be a long term relationship. Otherwise, you sound normal.
2007-05-07 16:32:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your 21. your not ready to settle just to be settling. that's okay. If you meet the right person you will know it. until then have fun. It sounds like your a decent guy, you just haven't found that one yet. You want to find her someday, but until then, why not enjoy your life?
2007-05-07 16:56:35 · answer #9 · answered by faeriebella123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think theres anything wrong with you..... you just don't like to be alone for a long period of time but you say your looking for that "special someone" so if i were you i would try to focus on one person
2007-05-07 16:35:06 · answer #10 · answered by mimi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋