Is there anyone in your past that you still grieve over?

Question

I am 54 and have been married for 6 years to a wonderful woman, but I still grieve over a girl I loved 32 years ago.
We had been together for 5 years when she died, at the age of 26.
My father, who passed away in 1992, never got over the death of my mother in 1978, and he refused to consider meeting someone new.
Is there someone you never got completely over?

Answer 1

Yes, I lost my best friend in this world to leukemia.

I'll always grieve over her.

Answer 2

I think no one will ever get over deaths or situations like that. But the only thing you can do is to move on....Moving on doesn't mean you have to forget. You will always remember, so face it. She's gone, so you need to move on, and get past it. Don't you think she would have wanted you to be happy,even though she was gone? I've had a couple deaths in the past years or so, and they were not easy. But I learned to cope and think of the positive things that happened while they were still here. Don't think of the negatives, because it isn't worth it. I really hope you get over her, as in moving on. Not forgetting. Forgetting something like that is not possible. Think of it as a time period in your life where things just happen and that's the way it should be. My favorite uncle passed away two years ago and I didn't even have a chance to go to his funeral. And my grandfather died a year ago, and I wasn't there either. They were both in Vietnam and I didn't have money to go. That's just the way it is and we try to deal. That's all.
Best wishes to you. Your picture is amusing.

Answer 3

Yes, but i haven't been away from her for that long. I really want to be with her and i understand why u could still have feelings for
her. I miss being with her the way it used to be every day. Even though people tell me to move on and there are other girls, it is still really hard. She means too much to me and i probably will never get over not being with her anymore. It is really hard for me, everyday i think about her and i'm still really young. There was no goodbye, some times you just don't see it coming. Your whole life can change in an instant.

Answer 4

Yes,I grieve over my uncle who was like my father who died April 3,99and then my aunt died in Nov 22,05 and then just recently my baby boy on Feb27,07.This is all so hard.Right now I try to take it day by day.For the most part that is all you can do.I pray everyday for strength to go on for my other children and husband,but life as we all no is not easy,but death is the toughest to deal with,and i miss them all so very much:(

Answer 5

Bless your heart. I only grieve over 2 suicides I was close to because I failed them both. People say God forgives you when you ask, but it doesn't seem to matter what people say. I know I failed them.

Grief over a loved one took me about 10 years with my father and with a close aunt. Now I can take it and even laugh about how funny they both were. I hope you stop grieving. I hope Everybody stops Grieving. It will pass. I wouldn't lie to you about that.

Answer 6

I think there will always be that thing..it is not to bring up to the wife...and I still love my wife dearly after a dozen yrs..but you always wish a relationship could have gone better or if you would have done this or that to improve the situation at that time..

you may even have that crush..but you gotta suppress it...othewise you get hung up or dwell on it in an unhealthy way.

Answer 7

I lost a baby (premie that didn't live long) and I am always aware of how old he would be. I see kids that age, and feel my heart lurch.
I also miss my grandfather. He lived with me after he could no longer live alone, and I cared for him for 10 years. I met my husband 1 month after Grandpa died, and I wish he could have met him.
When I think of them, I picture in them Heaven together.

Answer 8

My best friend Ashley was killed at the age of 18 by a reckless boater. It's been three and a half years since her life was taken away, but I still miss her dearly.

Answer 9

Oh yes, My partner of 42 years, Gwenneth B.
I was 18 when we met. The years went by, friendship, passion, sweetness, death. Her family were religious bigots and never lost an opportunity to be rude.
Thank heaven for my family; my Mother, my Brother and his wife and children. I suffered severe depression and only their care saved my life.
Rose P.

Answer 10

I have lost so many people that I loved, but this one guy died when he was nineteen and I can burst into tears over something that reminds me of him, quicker than over my mother. I do not understand it. I saw recently that the tree he crashed into was removed and tears of relief to see it gone, just came pouring out.