why do people who call themselves your friend withdrawl their frindship when they don't agree with you?

Question

It is like they expect you to automatically know what you did to make them mad and they ignore you hoping you will figure it out. I get sick of people calling themselves friends untill you make them mad. would you get rid of a friend like this? I have a friend who gets amd if I talk to other people and I am a social person. She acts like I am supposed to be devoted to her even though she has lots of friends aprt from me. I am not one bit jelouse becuse I can make new frinds too why does she do this?

Answer 1

I would guess, just from your question, that you're not yet 20. (Apologies if I'm wrong!) Without knowing exactly how old you are, I have to stick with generic advice, and here it is: People who don't tell you what the problem is but expect you to read their mind, who get angry when you talk to someone else, and who expect you to be their only interest, are not the kind of friends you need. In fact, they're not friends at all. A friend is someone who is concerned about YOU, too--someone who is happy for your successes and who is there for you when you have problems. People who are truly your friends don't get jealous like that; instead, they're glad that you have other people to share your interests. And when true friends disagree, they remember what it is they like about the other person, and what made them friends in the first place. 99 percent of the time, those positive things are enough to make the disagreement seem silly and pointless. Sometimes there ARE big things that come between friends, but true friends will do everything in their power to meet you halfway, to compromise. When you argue with a REAL friend, it's not about "who won"--it's about finding common ground between the two different opinions.

As I said, not knowing how old you are exactly, it's hard to answer--but it doesn't sound like this person is a true friend. You might want to concentrate on those other friends you mention--the ones who let you be the social person you are.

Answer 2

There is people who's nature needs more attention than the "normal people" Some of them are only child and used to get their way all the time. Other people act this way to protect themselves because in the past their were abused by friend or relatives. I am one of those who give a lot of attention but I demand the same for me. I am not the only child but my friends were very abusive until I decided to talk to other people and make my own circle of friends. With them I don't agree all the time but we have some much fun together that little things won't get us apart. Why wasting time, stop the madness! Good luck

Answer 3

You can be friends but I certainly wouldn't consider her a best friend that you can always count on to be there for you. There are acquaintances, friends and then real best friends. They are few and far between. Trust few people but continue being friends with her if you want, just don't expect anything in return from her.

Answer 4

Friends are friends, and if friends do that, I mean if they expect you to know why their mad, or why you made them mad, means you've earned a position of relevance, it means you're not just a friend, you're more than a friend, so don't get mad at them for that, now you said, or wrote, until you make them mad, do you make them mad.? Just take it all in stride, and remember why you made them friends,.

Answer 5

i dont know why people do that. my friend does that at school. its bothering me now. almost every other day she comes up to me and calls me a bad name and then she walks off all mad. i don't do anything bad to make her do this. i've been wanting to tell her to stop. but the problem is that she's stronger than me and she likes to beet up people. so right now im really stuck. well good luck with your so called friend.

Answer 6

the most important message left ever is the title of this urgent 911 emergency condolence to a special friend either to be here anymore or not is the persons choice but here this: i was on yahoo answers today and a question came up regarding issues still to deal with issues first etc so this is where you come into the pic. honestly i was or had lots of ambivalence towards thinking any possible reconnection fate etc and would think it then, not and happened again today where was there then thought that did not want to share any 101 ???so thought that was irking me to believe these 101?? just to be cold and hurtful etc so left again.dont think talkin to anyone else etc. i didnt think u wanted to talk to me but this isnt the important part yet. i recently became aware of my last issue became vividly known to me saturday a.m. that i did suffer as a kid from PSDS that i had and never knew maybe suspected last spring not really believing until yesterday. That this or was my problem all along and blamed many other things like ADD depression anxiety which these could of resulted from the major one and once i realized that it was the psds it kind of felt like a picture to the puzzle was finished and all of a sudden i could see clearly and this always apparent foggness disappeared. i was able to go back remember and reminiscence and know god was with me and guided me. But i have u to thank for this because alot of my anger i dealt with like getting angry and deleting my whole computer and everything was anger outbursts i had triggered from you but not really towards you because it came from when was a kid that repressed and then all came out by triggers here there so yesterday i thought for sure u came back for this reason just to help me heal of past anger if not to stay this would be your reason why you did.but today out of knowwhere i just got triggered and told you why already but again not really from present situation just by anger repressed and unfornately u had to be the victim toay because i thought i was being screwed over and apparently not the case and i realized that after leaving and wondering why i got mad again and realized you did nothing but i wanted to blame you. so im sorry for that and hope can forgive me to be friends and i am now aware of my triggers and am healed so next if there is i can say that if implying that i thought you were deliberately trying to that i am not allowing this to affect me anyone more and you cannot hurt me because i wont allow it and then its like im healed and past pain is gone. and i am fine. for some reason i couldnt go back to being a kid when triggered to where it really came from so triggers were at you and really thought it was you now and even before but i know now that its not.so i apologise and thank you for coming back in my life that was your fate to do that role and i dont know what else your destiny brings but hope its good. this kinda sounds crazy but is truth of mine and all my life i didnt know who i was what was wrong and how to fix it but im there now.i know im healed cause i can talk about my life today and im not ashamed of myself or think im a bad person and can talk about anything so if want to ask me something go ahead.try to irk me again just kidding. it was meant to happen so i can find where it came from and then all off a sudden i put it all together never making better sense of my life until now.amasing things happen for a reason calling them miracles and you were it.hope you can get cause didnt know where to leave this but saw question that fit it pertaining.thanks again mess annoymous leaver.