Why is it now socially acceptable for a man to get a woman pregnant and not marry her? I mean..come on people. Our society needs more "my wife" or "my husband" not "my baby's momma" or "my baby's daddy". What are your opinions on this?
2007-05-07 15:30:16 · 11 answers · asked by Me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think our traditions and our values have gone out the window. I do not think it's acceptable to shack up, and have babies out of wedlock. Times were better 50 years ago, and people always come back and argue that it isn't 1950 anymore. Well, sorry, but our values, traditions, and families were better off back then when wives treated their husbands with respect, and the men cared about their wives. It is not socially acceptable in my book if people have babies out of wedlock, it is not ok. What kind of example are you setting for your kid? "Well I hooked up and your daddy is some guy from the bar." How trampy, trashy, and classy does that sound? Not very appealing. It has a lot to do with the feminist movement that brainwashed women into thinking that they are better than men, and they do not have to put up with anything from men, and yet, they can treat men like crap and expect to be treated with respect in return? It doesn't make much sense to me.
Great question, and I wish everyone would understand where you are coming from, but unfortunately times have changed for the worse where it is acceptable to be a tramp, and have no respect for your child without a two parent home.
2007-05-07 15:49:10 · answer #1 · answered by SillierKimmy! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, times don't always change for the better; unfortunately in this area it is a downhill slide. You are totally right in what you say, in my opinion.
The answerer "SillierK" is right on - I've said similar things in response to other questions on here, and have gotten into all kinds of trouble for it! Just because of having traditional values, and realizing that they are good because they make for better marriages and families. I'm not a bible thumper, and never say that because of religious values. It's because of the emotions, the specialness which should come from a man and woman being married and having children, respecting each other as spouses, and truly raising a wonderful family. Children deserve the security and stability of having mature, married parents.
2007-05-08 03:57:09 · answer #2 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The degradation of the nuclear family is one reason for the increase in gangs. People are looking for a family where there is no family. New houses do not even have dining rooms anymore because families do not eat at home as much.
I think that a family with parents and children and rules that are not flexible is the cornerstone of our civilization on planet Earth. And if you are not going to teach your children morals and ethics, Take them to church ! ! ! ! They can only pick up so much by observation, and if they are observing an unwed mother and all the problems that come with being a single parent, what is the message they will come away with?
2007-05-07 15:59:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, times have changed and i'm old enough to know!
in the past, it was an "embarrassment" to the families of young people who were expecting a child and not married.
parents got involved and either made them marry or sent the young mother away to have a baby. now, unmarried teens bring their babies to high school graduation, have in school day care, etc. kids make babies with different partners and never marry...i don't know what to say about it. forced marriages weren't very good..but kids growing up without stable parents is not good at all! i've heard little children talking about it...how their "brothers" and "sisters" have different fathers..or they don't know who their father is..or how they have visitation with a "dad" here and there..
i just hope to raise my own children with a sense of responsibility. that's all i can do.
2007-05-07 16:33:23 · answer #4 · answered by shyanne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is I would rather raise a child in a loving healthy home with only one parent or common law partners rather than have my child suffer divorce, fighting parents and all of the other evils that come from a match made in h@ll that shouldnt have happened but created a wonderful child.
2007-05-07 16:14:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, times have changed. Single mothers can get by just fine now. Personally, I would have rather been a single mother then be in a marriage with a man who didn't want to marry me originally.
2007-05-07 15:45:52 · answer #6 · answered by spottychan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, times have changed.
But these days even if you get married first and then have a baby... you can find out your husband is cheating, he can quit his job and refuse to support you and your child, he can be emotionally abusive and not help you out with the baby...
And at times like that, it is funny how good having the baby out of wedlock and NOT being stuck with "husband" can seem.
2007-05-07 15:38:52 · answer #7 · answered by Heather L 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People have changed more than the times as
today everyone wants to have sex but only a few
want to take on the responsibility of what the end
result of sex is.
2007-05-07 15:41:29 · answer #8 · answered by RudiA 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Correct. Read these columns and find out how many women advise people to live together before marriage.
2007-05-07 15:41:21 · answer #9 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think all children deserve to have parents who are married to each other.
It doesn't always happen this way....but that should be the goal.
2007-05-07 15:33:58 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋