I have been married for about a year, just recently I took a job and have become very fond of my boss. He is single, and we flirt constantly. He is very generous and treats me very nice unilke my husband who seems like I don't exist. Help....what do I do?
2007-05-07 14:24:50 · 25 answers · asked by JR 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Instead of having an affair with your boss ... you need to think about what's wrong with your marriage, and how you can fix it (and that doesn't mean getting a fast divorce).
You need to COMMUNICATE (talk) to your husband and let him know that you want him to notice you more, and that you want your relationship to work. If you don't communicate these feelings in a relationship or marriage, it will never work out.
Your boss at work is your boss ... don't let him become your secret lover. If you need marriage counseling, go for it, but don't have an affair. That will destroy the marriage. You got married for a reason, so at least try and make it work.
2007-05-07 14:33:54 · answer #1 · answered by Joseph C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a train wreck waiting to happen, If you do not love your husband, or he does not treat you the way you want to be treated, then divorce him. For your husbands sake and your own don't go down the path of Lie's and deceit. Your boss knows you are a married woman, yet he is still willing to flirt with you, this does not say much about his character, if he will disrespect your marriage, then he will disrespect you in time. also if you can not maintain your urges and infatuations, you are doomed to fail in the work force.
2007-05-08 01:45:55 · answer #2 · answered by deedee2qu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever is attracting you to your boss, is EXACTLY what is lacking in your marriage. You need to talk with your husband and tell him what you need. Give him an opportunity to make things right. Whatever you do, don't start an affair with your boss...that would be making a bigger mess out of things. You can enjoy his attention without skating on a thin line.
Try to work this out with your husband, you married him for a reason. If he refuses to talk or do what it takes to improve your marriage, at least you can say you tried.
Good luck!
2007-05-07 14:31:26 · answer #3 · answered by ღ†Rocker Wife†ღ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simple. QUIT YOUR JOB AND FIND A NEW ONE. On the other hand if your marriage means absolutely nothing to you, and you want to cook up excuses for cheating like "my husband treats me like I don't exist" then by all means have an affair, get caught, get a divorce, and be like every other mid 20's divorcee out there. I hear men these days really dig women who have already been married before. If you have kids even better. Just what every man dreams of! A divorced mother with baggage.
2007-05-07 14:36:49 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
think about whether you want to throw away your marriage and hurt your husband so bad before you make a mistake you will probably regret and may not be able to fix are you sure that your feelings toward your boss aren't just an infatuation? does your husband deserve this kind of treatment? i'm just saying think long and hard before you take any actions with your boss
2007-05-07 14:39:40 · answer #5 · answered by Ronni 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An affair kills a marriage eventually, if not now. It harms all in many different and unexpected ways. Why did you get married in the first place if you still want to fool around? So, right now, if the boss is #2 mate now, how many more mates will there be down the road. Talk to your husband to work out things. So long as the love is there, it will work out.
2007-05-07 15:23:55 · answer #6 · answered by Wisdom prevails 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like you know what you want to do. It sounds like you are not to fond of your husband and someone else is showing you attention. First off if you do anything with your boss not only will you end up loosing your job you will loose your husband. What is more important to you? Your boss might just like the fact that he can flirt with you and such and still have his freedom since you are married. I hope you just think this one through so you don't regret it.
2007-05-07 14:33:32 · answer #7 · answered by xyz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is very natural to have feeling toward your boss. I have had it and I know, but don't be fooled by it. It is just a fantasy, if you are not pleased with your marriage - then talk to him about it as an affair with your boss with not solve it - only complicate it! Believe it, I know! Good luck!
2007-05-07 14:31:08 · answer #8 · answered by Kitt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if your husband doesn't know you exist, then you have obviously done something wrong in your marriage. How a man can lose interest in his wife, after only one year, means one or both of you are not putting anything into this relationship. To go outside your vows, will just complicate things. You are heading down a road, that leads smack into a brick wall, lady. That is my opinion-take it or leave it. The choice is yours. Good luck!!
2007-05-07 14:35:14 · answer #9 · answered by lytnyngryder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find another job and go be the wife that your husband married.
Perhaps your husband doesn't treat you like you exist because you are so preoccupied fantasizing about your boss that you are no longer half the wife that he married.
I have no respect for an adulteress!
2007-05-07 14:35:22 · answer #10 · answered by SelfnoSelf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋