What's the best way to deal with HATERS?

Question

What's the best way to deal with HATERS?

Kill them with kindness? It took me a long time and a few of my close friends to make me realize why these people were hate'n on me. They are JEALOUS!!! I didn't do anything to these coldless, heartless people.They need some lov'n in their hearts, well I'm gonna give to them. At a few points in their life, they got hurt pretty bady. Love and kindness will eliminate hate. I'm not letting anyone get in my way. Damn Right.

Answer 1

You choose who you hang out with. If you enjoy hanging out with angry, unpleasant people, then that is your choice.

I have found that mean people become nice when treated with some kindness, but they become nicer when that is a requirement to have friends.

People don't take well to being 'fixed' by someone else. I have found that I get best results by loving someone when they are "willing" to be loved, not when I think they "need" love.

Be careful.

Answer 2

Yes, wish them well and love them and bless them....from a distance. Do not keep yourself within the sphere of these people and their negativity. Allow them to be but do not allow their negativity to be absorbed into your being. Stay away from the influence and vibrations of negativity as much as possible. Live and let live. They can't stand in your way if you're nowhere near them. That means in person or online or by phone or even having the same social group.

Answer 3

I once saw a quote as I went online; Forbes is my homepage. A nice little quote comes up every other time you go there. This specific time it said "Superiority is always detested." which is a really good way to think about it. I find the most prevalent factor is the fact that people always hate about one another what they dislike about themselves. If there is an insecurity they have, they'll let you know because they'll respond badly to it. If there is something about themselves they don't like. If there is something that they learned not to like, or so on. They respond in a very unpleasant way by default. The best way to deal with them is to realize that number one all outward influence is an illusion. You may have a conscious mind that isn't yet accustomed to calmness and serene thinking, thus your subconscious may be a bit frazzled and outlandish. You may run into much chaos in your day to day experiences do to it, but the end statement is that nothing happens to you without you doing it to yourself. Nobody can make you feel anyway. They can try to insult you, but it's your interpretation of that insult that delivers the blow or not. You either choose to be offended or you don't be. If someone hates you, realize that that's where they are at this point in life. By all means you don't have to sit there and take what it is they're saying especially if you're not accustomed to handling or dealing with such. As you begin to realize that that's simply them doing what they do for themselves, and using you as excuse and blame for doesn't at all represent anything wrong with you. If they're is something wrong with you, it's because you saw something that you wanted to change with yourself and not yet being the change would be, for you, wrong. There is nothing else wrong with you besides that. Everything you were meant to be up until now, you are. Life has a very direct way of giving you exactly what you need to end up exactly you are supposed to. Naturally you play your role in this, but nothing is the matter with the process. Thus when people try to stretch your limits by behaving in this manner, usually it's meant only for a growing experience and nothing more. I won't deny it; What people say feels real. It really does. But it isn't. It's just what they say, it's just their interpretation of what reality is for them. For this reason it'd almost be illogical to expect you to get along, unless you're a very advanced personality and you know how to handle negativity which will come in time. I once heard it equated to an orange. It doesn't matter what time of day it is, what the circumstances are, or who does the squeezing. If you squeeze and orange, orange juice is going to come out of it every single time. If someone squeezes you with an intense situation, you can only give back to them what you have inside. And wouldn't it be nice if what you had inside was simply love and acceptance? This isn't killing them with kindness per se as you much as you simply truly being a far healthier personality. It becomes easier in time as your confidence goes up. The Fear factor fades away, it'll allow you to be more diverse and creative and happy and free and silly with life. No longer will you be bottled or tense or afraid of what others may think. And when you reach this stage, nobody can socially affect you. Your invincible, because you never choose to feel those negative emotions when people suggest them. When someone says something negative to you, you'll recognize their frustrations with their inability to solve their own problems and you'll feel compassion. It's a very advanced and fulfilling way to live.

Answer 4

When you discover that the hater is irrelavant, then worrying about them goes away. Machiavelli had a nice way of dealing with the haters - he made sure the Prince was so feared that the hater's opinon didn't matter.

Answer 5

I'm with you on this. I have 2 people hating on me right now....my ex-wife and someone who got pee'd off because i picked my ex-wife over her....well the 2 of them got together and talk smack about me. They even have a quote in their yahoo profile aimed at me wishing me to go to hell.

How did i respond. I told them that they can wish me to hell, but i will always wish them well. That i hope they have peace, serenity and happiness in their life.

I'm with you....kill them with kindness. It would probably piss them off more anyway :)

Answer 6

Good job!
Just don't let them become your "pet projects" and take up all of your energy. also, some people take a loooooooooooong time to change or realize they are not so nice... Just dont' get frustrated or waste your time.

As you said, don't let them get in your way ;)

Answer 7

i think the best way to deal with haters because i say as long as i know wha i am guess what what you say doesnt matter to me because youre the way hating and no one is going to like you for that thats what i think

Answer 8

Romans12: 17 Recompense to no man evil for evil. Provide things honest in the sight of all men. 18 If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men. 19 Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord. 20 Therefore if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head. 21 Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.

Answer 9

I think you got it. Fear is the root of anger,anger is the root of hate ,hate is the root of insanity, the root of fear is the absence of God, God is unconditional love. Unconditional love enters, duality of mind and emotions must vanish.

Answer 10

Wrong. Keep your distance. Anyone who hates you cannot be trusted. You are barking up the wrong tree. Consider yourself fore-warned.